06/03/03: Is being gay a choice?

[MaggieL]

Originally posted by Tobiasly

She may believe his act, but he sure as hell isn't fooling himself.

You think not? Looks to me like he's "successfully" fooling himself...if "success" is defined as ongoing denial. You'd be amazed how powerful denial about this kind of stuff can be; if you're sufficiently terrified by the truth.

Been there, done that, about a slightly different issue, admittedly, but the mechanism is familiar. I was lucky enough to recover from it before killing myself. Not everybody is. Some do kill themselves, others just finish out their lives closeted and miserable.

But to work from the theory that "he's just not trying hard enough" ranks pretty high on my cruelometer, which is why this "it's a choice, a lifestyle" approach is so bogus.