Saudi: Why we punished rape victim

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Well, from my own perspective, I know that some of the choices I made on the night it happened to me contributed to it happening. Should the man have been punished for my stupid choices? Or only his stupid choices, and if I'd not made those stupid choices, it might never have happened. *shrugs* I guess I'll never know what would have happened because I never called the cops and the reason I didn't was because at the time I knew I'd made bad choices and it'd be hard for anyone to believe I hadn't 'asked for it'.

SO pissed off... wrong a long reply and-power-surge.
I completely disagree with you Ali, sorry to, but I do.
When I was dating I was having consensual sex with a girl, who had issues I later found out, and she said stop... so I stopped.
Had I continued it would have been rape, just rape and only rape; my fault, just my fault and ONLY my fault.
Nothing she can do, say, "imply" etc, matters after "NO", anything after that is HIS DECISION ALONE and RAPE.
No is ALWAYS NO.

[Aliantha]

Originally Posted by rkzenrage

SO pissed off... wrong a long reply and-power-surge.
I completely disagree with you Ali, sorry to, but I do.
When I was dating I was having consensual sex with a girl, who had issues I later found out, and she said stop... so I stopped.
Had I continued it would have been rape, just rape and only rape; my fault, just my fault and ONLY my fault.
Nothing she can do, say, "imply" etc, matters after "NO", anything after that is HIS DECISION ALONE and RAPE.
No is ALWAYS NO.

Well, in an ideal world that would always be the case. Unfortunately we don't live in an ideal world, and we never will. Quite frankly, I wouldn't want to. Imagine how dull life would be if we all behaved exactly as people expected us to.

With that in mind, no one expects to be raped, but it does happen. It's always happened, and it always will happen. I don't know what the solution is, but it's never black and white in any of these situations. It's just a shame that the law forces us to make it that way. That's my opinion.