For the Longest Time...

[Mockingbird]

Okay well, if you can get attention, you can approach the dudes and the ladies. Here's the thing. Where love and is concerned, people let rationality fly out the window. This is a big, dumb mistake and I'm not sure why people do it.

Say there's this cute girl and you want to approach her. You know how to break the ice (since you're an attention getter), you know at least your first three sentences you're going to say (if not, give it a bit of thought), whatever. If you approach her, make nice and she still rejects you, she may have her reasons. We've all seen you so it isn't going to be that you're not attractive or anything like that, worst case scenario she's not looking for anything right at the moment or she's with someone. Here's what people don't seem to realize. If you approach her and make your intentions known that you find her attractive, like (variable) or something about her, it will make her day, if not her week or month.

Every 'unattainable' person that we're afraid to approach is just that, a person. They have feelings and they like to be complemented and feel that other people appreciate them, just like anyone else. You'll find out that that most people who seem unapproachable or stand off-ish are that way BECAUSE people are too afraid to talk to them. I couldn't tell you how many really wonderful people I've met just by taking a shot in the dark.

Really though, even with all that said if your advances end in rejection, you're still making people feel good about themselves and doling out self esteem by the fistful. Doing good things comes back to you. Keep trying and eventually you will surprise yourself.