spanking or not?

[Aliantha]

My kids have both felt the sting of a slap once or twice. If they're going to give me lip, they're going to find out it's unacceptable, and they're going to find out the hard way.

To me, people only 'obey rules' because they know they're get into trouble for not doing it.

Teaching kids morals and self discipline is another thing.

Teaching kids that if they want to be smart and tough, there's always going to be someone who's smarter and tougher is also a good lesson.

Fortunately, neither one of them has caused me too much grief since they learned to care about others.

[piercehawkeye45]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

To me, people only 'obey rules' because they know they're get into trouble for not doing it.

So someone will never obey a rule to get a reward?

[Aliantha]

Originally Posted by piercehawkeye45

So someone will never obey a rule to get a reward?

This is the point ph.

There are road rules. No one rewards you for following them, but if you don't, you're going to either get booked, in an accident or killed.

There are house rules. You might get rewarded if you follow them although I don't agree with this philosophy. I believe every individual in the household is responsible for certain things which may include jobs, but it also includes being considerate of the other members of the household. This is an every day courtesy and I don't see why anyone should be rewarded for that other than being thanked for their efforts.

I don't reward my kids with lollies and treats or extra screen time. They get enough junk when I'm not watching, and they spend too much time watching tv etc already. They are rewarded by knowing they've got parents who love them and care for them, and who go out of their way to make their lives better.

It's a parents moral responsibility to teach kids to realize there's more to life than just them.

I don't subscribe to all this new bullshit people keep coming up with about not smacking etc. Some kids need a wack every once in a while. Others don't.

There are enough selfish people in the world already. I wont have my kids growing up thinking they're the centre of the universe and if they need a smack once in a while to bring them back down to earth, that's what they're going to get.

If you want my honest opinion - in case you don't get it yet - there's too much navel gazing going on these days and not enough doing.