Parents dont matter?

[The Eschaton]

Im familiar with the nature vs. nurture debate and the only reasonable position is that its both. But the point is that what is known as "parenting" is not a heavy component of nurture. Or at least there is not any proof positive that parenting is a significant factor in how children turn out. In my own experience i find this reasonable. Just think of the people you know, good kids to bad parents, bad kids to good parents but mostly i draw on my siblings. 15 of them and all so completely different with roughly the same parenting technique.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by The Eschaton

snip~ Just think of the people you know, good kids to bad parents, bad kids to good parents ~snip

Have you ever tallied the totals? I'll wager you only notice and remember the parent/child differences and the others, seeming normal, pass like repetitive scenery.

Rebellious teens is not a myth. Some take it further than others and some parents react stronger than others. By young adulthood, I'd guess the majority tend to realign somewhat with common values, if not goals.

There will always be exceptions and don't forget different is not necessarily bad.

My brother and I are as different as night and day. I think that's because being 10 years apart, we were raised when our parents were living in a rapidly changing environment and economic status. That can change the parents values and parenting attitudes as well as the nature of outside influences.