Kids and the Internet

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I think when I have kids, when they get to be 13-14 I'll talk to them about porn -- not to say that they can't ever look at it, just that lots of people do but it has problems, some of the performers are exploited, and that it's REALLY REALLY not representative of real life. I think it's fine for them to look, as long as the first time my son sees a real-live vagina he won't be grossed out because it doesn't look like something he saw on fleshbot, and my daughter doesn't confuse actual gay people with yaoi characters.

I really think that my parents went about it wrong -- when they talked to my brother about porn, it was like "are you looking at this disgusting stuff?" Which sort of gets a reaction of "whoa, you'd really be happier not knowing, wouldn't you?" I don't want my kids to feel like they have to hide and lie to me. I'd rather that they understand that if they see something online that disturbs them, like child porn or pro-ana sites, that they'll be able to talk to me about it and understand that that's not what most people see as healthy.

All disclaimers apply, I do not have kids and am not planning to for at least four years, I don't even have a dog, etc.