Back in the day

[Shawnee123]

You should write, you are quite talented.

As to the biological clock, I have long told people that my biological clock is digital, so I don't hear it ticking. So many people told me, when I was younger, that I'd regret not having kids. I didn't think the possibility of future regret to be sufficient reason for me to make a step I wasn't sure I wanted. I think sometimes what a neat kid I would have had. I've had many people tell me what a great mom I would be, after watching me with their kids or my nieces and nephews. But I'm not sure I have what it takes to survive the constant worry that doesn't end even once your child has grown. Maybe I never felt in my own heart that I was good enough, that I could give that kind of intense consuming love without driving myself or them crazy, maybe I never believed I was worthy of the unconditional love of a child. Like the unconditional love of my parents and brothers, I might carry a guilt for not seeing what the hell anyone could find to care about in me.

Or, maybe I'm just lazy.

[glatt]

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

Or, maybe I'm just lazy.

Nothing wrong with being lazy. Why do extra work if you don't need/want to?

[Sundae]

Originally Posted by glatt

Nothing wrong with being lazy. Why do extra work if you don't need/want to?

Especially if that "laziness" saved society a bunch of fucked up kids.... (referring more to myself here to be honest)

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

So many people told me, when I was younger, that I'd regret not having kids.

A lot of people say that sort of thing and I think it isn't really true. What I think may be more accurate is that if you have kids you most likely won't regret it.

Especially if you have a partner, married or not, to help you take care of them, And if you aren't a teen who hasn't finished high school.

They change your life in a way that cannot be imagined. The old you is as gone as the old you in "Those were the days." (A totally depressing song, btw. I like to think my life is, if not happening right now, at least ahead of me.)

The thing that surprised me most about having a child was that I did not know it was possible to love someone so much.

You won't regret not having kids, and I doubt you'd regret having kids either. Regrets are a choice we make anyway, not something unavoidable like rain.