Books about Sex - Page 3

Paul J. · 03-07-2007, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Paul J., how do you research a book of this nature. Surely it can't all be first person trial and error. I'd assume you'd check out what's on the market already, study some research papers, interview some Dr Ruth types, and add personal or anecdotal experience. What am I missing here?

I'm not sure whether it helped or hurt, but I'm a research psychoanalyst, which for me ended up requiring about ten years worth of grad school. To finally get the first edition of the book written, I pretty much lived in the stacks at the Biomed library at UCLA for a couple of years, reading everything I could get my hands on. And when I wasn't there, I was on the west end of Topanga Beach, doing, well....

Each new edition takes a year of 12 hour days. I do that every other year. I spend a huge amount of time trying to keep up on everything from the science of sex, to learning about the history of sex, to learning more about sex in popular culture, and in other cultures.

And I listen. And ask questions--more than is probably good for you.

I guess I do what anyone does who has written a big old honkin' book and wants it to be the best it can possibly be.

Cloud · 03-07-2007, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul J.

Thanks much for your kind words, LabRat!
--Paul the author of the book

wow! I missed that! Doing a bit of Googling there, Paul?

I will reiterate--this is the best book of its kind I have ever read. Very thorough, informative, with humor, and well-designed. I like that it includes a section on piercing.

I didn't mind too much lending my copy to Daughter No. 1, since 1) she's having more sex than I am (cough) and 2) I plan to buy the newer edition!

xoxoxoBruce · 03-08-2007, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Paul J.

Big snip ~
I guess I do what anyone does who has written a big old honkin' book and wants it to be the best it can possibly be.

Thank you. Carrying a dust jacket from a previous edition, with your picture on it, might save you from arrest or a smack down, when you're asking questions.

In appreciation for your sharing information I'd like to contribute to your data base; sex - I'm for it.

kerosene · 03-08-2007, 09:28 PM

I have seen this book around and considered buying it. Not sure why I haven't yet. I particularly like the graphics on the front, but I am drawn to things visually.

seakdivers · 03-08-2007, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul J.

Each new edition takes a year of 12 hour days. I do that every other year.

My husband updates his every third year. We all dread the "book update" years.....he becomes a hyper-focused grump! lol

SteveDallas · 03-08-2007, 10:23 PM

Paul, what kinds of things would you say change most from edition to edition?

footfootfoot · 03-08-2007, 10:33 PM

Not opposed to premarital sex, provided it doesn't delay the ceremony.

Aliantha · 03-08-2007, 10:40 PM

My husband just finished writing his first book. He didn't seem to be that bad, and writing the book wasn't the only thing he was doing.

lumberjim · 03-18-2007, 12:50 AM

spammer alert. ^ check the sig line!

xoxoxoBruce · 04-29-2007, 08:31 PM

Bump for Cloud

Cloud · 04-29-2007, 08:49 PM

now this one, I remember!

kerosene · 10-03-2007, 04:51 PM

We just bought this book and love it! Every night we read a little bit more. Thanks, Paul, for writing this.

TheMercenary · 10-04-2007, 11:11 AM

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/boo...9769569&itm=22
A fun read if you want to know what goes on with some fringe interests.

Cloud · 10-04-2007, 11:19 AM

there are people with kinks about bangs?

SteveDallas · 10-04-2007, 12:08 PM

Years ago, I was looking for some information on myodisc eyeglass lenses (used so that ultra-nearsighted people like me can have glasses that are ridiculously thick, as opposed to impossibly thick). I came across a site run by a guy with a fetish for girls wearing really thick glasses.

03-08-2007, 10:33 PM	#37
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Not opposed to premarital sex, provided it doesn't delay the ceremony. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-08-2007, 10:40 PM	#38
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	My husband just finished writing his first book. He didn't seem to be that bad, and writing the book wasn't the only thing he was doing. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

03-18-2007, 12:50 AM	#39
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04-29-2007, 08:31 PM	#40
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Bump for Cloud __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

04-29-2007, 08:49 PM	#41
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	now this one, I remember! __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

03-08-2007, 09:28 PM	#34
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	I have seen this book around and considered buying it. Not sure why I haven't yet. I particularly like the graphics on the front, but I am drawn to things visually.

03-08-2007, 10:23 PM	#36
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	Paul, what kinds of things would you say change most from edition to edition?

10-03-2007, 04:51 PM	#42
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	We just bought this book and love it! Every night we read a little bit more. Thanks, Paul, for writing this.

10-04-2007, 11:11 AM	#43
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	http://search.barnesandnoble.com/boo...9769569&itm=22 A fun read if you want to know what goes on with some fringe interests. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

10-04-2007, 11:19 AM	#44
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	there are people with kinks about bangs? __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

10-04-2007, 12:08 PM	#45
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	Years ago, I was looking for some information on myodisc eyeglass lenses (used so that ultra-nearsighted people like me can have glasses that are ridiculously thick, as opposed to impossibly thick). I came across a site run by a guy with a fetish for girls wearing really thick glasses.

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