Birthing from Within and Daughter from Afar

[SteveDallas]

At risk of being branded a smartass...

Originally Posted by Cloud

Birthing from Within method?

How else??

You said these fears are "normal." Well, I'm not an expert, but she seems over-wrought considering it's her second time around. Or at least based on my experience in Mrs. Dallas. Yes there was a certain degree of nervousness, but having been through it once already it seemed not so scary for the second kid.

I think the midwife-at-home thing is a bad idea. I don't object to it in principle (and again, that means a lot, because I know so much about it), but if she really is scared of pain and worried about a difficult labor, it doesn't seem like a sensible choice. Is she feeling pressured for some reason by somebody to do the "natural" thing?

[DucksNuts]

How was her first pregnancy and labour?

That would determine whether I think the B.F.W is a good idea or not. I've got friends who have used it (or similar) and swear by it, but I say gimme hospitals, doctors, drugs, drugs and more drugs, plus the epidural thanks very much

[jinx]

Originally Posted by SteveDallas

but if she really is scared of pain and worried about a difficult labor, it doesn't seem like a sensible choice. Is she feeling pressured for some reason by somebody to do the "natural" thing?

I tend to agree with SteveD here, as fear tends to complicate things.

I had my first child in a hospital, with an OB and lots of drugs. While it wasn't an bad experience per say, I knew right away I wouldn't do it that way again. With my daughter I used a midwife for all prenatal care and delivered naturally at a free standing birth center. I was assigned to an OB at Bryn Mawr but never met him or toured the hospital.
The natural birth was sooo much better for me, because its what I wanted and I remained in control of the whole event (my birth plan instructions to the midwife were "leave me alone until I need you", and she did, and it was fantastic.
Personally, I am much more comfortable with pain than doctors and hospitals. Your daughter needs to decide what she wants though.