Do guys really care about a girls sexual history?

[mrnoodle]

re: rkzenrage

I'm not singling out either behavior. The question applies to both, as well as every other sexual behavior. Let's say I'm your partner (wink wink). If I used to like X, and it's something that you can't deal with, you better rethink our relationship. I haven't stopped liking X just because I'm hooked up with you. If I like you well enough, I might make a huge effort to stop X'ing, but that's no guarantee. If I stopped X'ing prior to meeting you, great. It's still, however, a part of me that might resurface later.

The point is, people existed prior to your knowing them, so don't expect that they are going to make wholesale changes just because you're in the picture.

With that in mind, it's perfectly acceptable to decide whether or not to date someone based on any criteria you set, whether consciously or not. It's not "unfair" or "judgemental" or anything else. It's your life, and you get to decide who's in it.

[mrnoodle]

Originally Posted by rkzenrage

Wow, that is a very simplistic way at looking at relationships noodle. I dated for many years before marrying my wife and just quit... it was easy, so was no longer living by myself, something I also had done since I was very young (my own room, that is) as well as on my own since sixteen... your argument makes no sense when compared to all other behaviors.
The IDEA of marriage is change.

What doesn't make sense about it? I mean, maybe it doesn't, but what specifically? Of course you make lots of changes when you get married...I'm talking about things that are real incompatibilities.