Kinky? Dom/sub??

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Please don't anyone get offended about what I say. I am very naive so...

After reading this thread I am thinking how wrong I was. I had no idea the whole idea of being submissive during sex meant bizzare physical, emotional and verbal abuse.

My idea was more basic. I think to emotionally humble oneself to another to allow one to spank you is the key. Then they have to have a good reason to want to. Just to be spanked would be humiliating enough what good sex master would through insults after getting a gift. I thought the operative word is 'allow' not debase. The idea wasn't I am going to make you dominate me and make me submissive seems contrary to the whole idea. I would rather choose to be submissive therefore you may( whatever) according to what I want or feel comfortable with.

I didn't think that people wanted to have thier pubic hair pulled out or be called names. I am astounded at my 'ideal's that have nothing to do with what people actually do ,,,do.