Bad choices of lovers - Page 2

skysidhe · 07-19-2006, 11:08 AM

Great article Bruce.

I think mutual respect and compatibility should replace love at first. Love should grow out respect and compatibility and not the other way around.

Clodfobble · 07-19-2006, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by skysidhe

I think mutual respect and compatibility should replace love at first.

Nah, they should just ban all use of carrots.

dar512 · 07-19-2006, 01:02 PM

If it were me, I'd ban all use of Brussel Sprouts for being stinky. But that's probably another topic.

skysidhe · 07-19-2006, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Nah, they should just ban all use of carrots.

Ok have it your way. I am agreeable.

First, Carrots should stay out of eyes .

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Originally Posted by dar512

If it were me, I'd ban all use of Brussel Sprouts for being stinky. But that's probably another topic.

no not another topic at all. If you can't stab them in the eye with a carrot then one should most definatly cook brussel sprouts on that first bad date.

yesman065 · 07-20-2006, 07:51 AM

Bad boys/girls can make your life exciting in the short run, but that "image" typically wears off rather quickly, only to be replaced by the realization of how shallow a person they really are. It is then that the cycle begins to repeat itself with a new "bad boy/girl". Once one matures and desires a more meaningful lasting relationship, the desire for the bad boy/girl subsides a great deal. Its difficult to picture one with a career and a nice house with a garage and the kids playing with the dog in the backyard. just a thought.

yesman065 · 07-20-2006, 07:52 AM

Oh and how does cabbage fit into all of tis, cuz if we can eliminate a vegetable, it would definitely be on my list.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-22-2006, 06:06 PM

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First, Carrots should stay out of eyes .

Absolutely, no carrots above the waist.

wolf · 07-22-2006, 06:11 PM

But I thought carrots were supposed to be good for your eyes?

I checked some carrots in the house, and not one of them is marked "For internal use only."

Stormieweather · 07-22-2006, 06:39 PM

Define internal.

MaggieL · 07-23-2006, 09:09 PM

Brooke of the Land · 07-26-2006, 12:46 AM

On the idea of having asshole fathers, and how that affects what type of man a girl will fall for... while my own father was not abusive (either emotionally or physically), he definitely was not Mr. Brady, either. For most of my life, all I remember is him being argumentative, disagreeable, and flat-out jerkish. Because of that, I promised myself that I would never fall for the kind of guy my father was/sometimes still is. I learned what kind of warning signs to avoid, and if I saw those traits in a partner, it was time to move on. Granted, I'm young yet and probably have not seen as much of the world as some people think I should, I've found a guy I want to spend the rest of my life with, and am going to marry in less than a year. He's probably the most opposite from my dad as a person can get, and I couldn't be happier with him.

I can see how many girls would get comfortable in the familiar feelings of what they grew up with, but there is the other side to take into consideration. Having a jerk father can definitely drive a girl to look for the good guys out there.

Clodfobble · 07-26-2006, 11:15 AM

Congratulations, Brooke. Step one is complete.

Step two is making sure YOU don't become the one in the relationship who is like your father.

Hoof Hearted · 07-26-2006, 11:27 AM

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Step two is making sure YOU don't become the one in the relationship who is like your father.

What happens when you turn out like your mother?

Trilby · 07-26-2006, 11:35 AM

I'm just gonna put this out there for whatever it's worth and I'm not making any sort of comparison, etc. so don't jump on me. that said, I was POSITIVE that I'd found the solar opposite to my father when I married bachelor number two. Turns out, he was my father in a very clever disguise. I have always, always fallen for the Ultra Controlling Type--even if I found them dancing and 'shrooming at a Dead concert. I'm like a heat-seeking missle when it comes to finding the Most Controlling Jerk in a Crowd of Thousands. Let the buyer beware.

Stormieweather · 07-26-2006, 12:12 PM

I knew I didn't want a mate like my mother OR my father and thought for sure I'd made the right choice when I married the first time. Turns out he was just like dear old daddy, only much worse. He simply hid it better during the courtship.

Eight years after our divorce, I made the same mistake again

...but thats another story. Evidently I didn't learn the lessons life offered me the first time around.

Stormie

07-19-2006, 01:02 PM	#18
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07-22-2006, 06:06 PM	#22
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07-22-2006, 06:11 PM	#23
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07-22-2006, 06:39 PM	#24
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	Define internal. __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

07-23-2006, 09:09 PM	#25
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07-19-2006, 11:08 AM	#16
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	Great article Bruce. I think mutual respect and compatibility should replace love at first. Love should grow out respect and compatibility and not the other way around.

07-20-2006, 07:51 AM	#20
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	Bad boys/girls can make your life exciting in the short run, but that "image" typically wears off rather quickly, only to be replaced by the realization of how shallow a person they really are. It is then that the cycle begins to repeat itself with a new "bad boy/girl". Once one matures and desires a more meaningful lasting relationship, the desire for the bad boy/girl subsides a great deal. Its difficult to picture one with a career and a nice house with a garage and the kids playing with the dog in the backyard. just a thought.

07-20-2006, 07:52 AM	#21
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	Oh and how does cabbage fit into all of tis, cuz if we can eliminate a vegetable, it would definitely be on my list.

07-26-2006, 12:46 AM	#26
Brooke of the Land obsequious purple and clairvoiant Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: North Texas Posts: 45	On the idea of having asshole fathers, and how that affects what type of man a girl will fall for... while my own father was not abusive (either emotionally or physically), he definitely was not Mr. Brady, either. For most of my life, all I remember is him being argumentative, disagreeable, and flat-out jerkish. Because of that, I promised myself that I would never fall for the kind of guy my father was/sometimes still is. I learned what kind of warning signs to avoid, and if I saw those traits in a partner, it was time to move on. Granted, I'm young yet and probably have not seen as much of the world as some people think I should, I've found a guy I want to spend the rest of my life with, and am going to marry in less than a year. He's probably the most opposite from my dad as a person can get, and I couldn't be happier with him. I can see how many girls would get comfortable in the familiar feelings of what they grew up with, but there is the other side to take into consideration. Having a jerk father can definitely drive a girl to look for the good guys out there.

07-26-2006, 11:15 AM	#27
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Congratulations, Brooke. Step one is complete. Step two is making sure YOU don't become the one in the relationship who is like your father.

07-26-2006, 11:35 AM	#29
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I'm just gonna put this out there for whatever it's worth and I'm not making any sort of comparison, etc. so don't jump on me. that said, I was POSITIVE that I'd found the solar opposite to my father when I married bachelor number two. Turns out, he was my father in a very clever disguise. I have always, always fallen for the Ultra Controlling Type--even if I found them dancing and 'shrooming at a Dead concert. I'm like a heat-seeking missle when it comes to finding the Most Controlling Jerk in a Crowd of Thousands. Let the buyer beware. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

07-26-2006, 12:12 PM	#30
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	I knew I didn't want a mate like my mother OR my father and thought for sure I'd made the right choice when I married the first time. Turns out he was just like dear old daddy, only much worse. He simply hid it better during the courtship. Eight years after our divorce, I made the same mistake again ...but thats another story. Evidently I didn't learn the lessons life offered me the first time around. Stormie __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

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