A very long post about something that's getting me down

[be-bop]

It's very sad when parents split and I don't think you ever get over divorce
of your parents no matter how old you are,memories will always pop into
your head and even if you know it has nothing to do with you theres always
guilt that if you were a better child it wouldn't have happened.
I feel though that something will have to be done to get your Dad's
house into some kind of order because it's making him Ill without
the basics ,water etc.
I know you feel that you will be betraying him either doing something yourself
or getting Social Services involved but it seems from what you described
that your father needs help so I think the time to be wary of his
feelings is long gone now,the poor old bugger needs help even if he
say's he doesn't. old people never admit defeat but usually after
they start to get it they realise help should have been accepted long
ago.
My heart goes out to you because we have been in your position with
our parents,its like role reversal where the child is now responsible
for the parents welfare..
The only thing I can suggest is that you sit him down and explain that
you want to help and don't take no for an answer,it may dent your
relationship for a while but in the end it will make everyone's life
a lot easier.