I'm filthy

Trilby · 02-26-2006, 03:46 PM

i spoke with a woman I was best friends with in high school today. I was her bosom buddy (and, she was mine) from '79-'82 and then we lost contact (marriages, children, rehab, children, divorces, marriages, rehab, etc.) but I spoke with her via the phone for about 45 minutes and we got along great. She lives about 30 min. from me. She wants to have brunch on thursday. i don't want to but I pretended that I did. I feel very sad now. I feel--weird.

plus? I'm nearly 42. And the Professor called today. He doesn't love me anymore. Which I knew. A weird, sad day.

02-26-2006, 04:04 PM

Is this the MARRIED professor? If so, he's a jerk with a bad habit of infidelity. No great loss. One of these days you'll understand that you deserve better, Bri.

Why don't you want to meet up with your friend? Just not interested or do you think she'll end up judging you somehow?

slang · 02-26-2006, 04:37 PM

This may sound strange but give it a thought.

The two of you have some history even if it was a long time ago. Did she sound sincere on the phone? She must have if you two made plans for this.

Since it's been so long since you have had time to visit you may hit it off again and be great friends or this might be a big yawn fest. Who knows?

If you meet and find that you would like to hang out again, there's time for that in the future. What you are trying to do now is just test it out to see for certain.

Make it a point to set something up in that area during or directly after you are supposed to meet with your friend. Nowdays with the way that people in general cant keep an appointment to save their asses this will allow you to have a good time doing something completely different if she cancels or no-shows on you.

If you show up at the given time and place and things dont go well, no bigge, you have something infinitely more interesting and fun to all set up. If for some reason she's rude, not giving you the attention that you deserve for making that time for her, asking you for money, or any other unpleasant possibility....disappear. Go do that thing that you **really** wanted to do in the first place.

If you both end up having a good time and spend hours and hours and hours catching up and reliving old times just pass on the plan B.

Either way you are covered.

Just remembered another thing. If someone cancels or no-shows you once....statistically speaking they will again ( and again and again and again ). If she no-shows you and still wants to set something up again....have her send you $20 in the mail that the two of you will spend on lunch when she shows up on the next brunch.

Cancel on Slang one time....no biggie....try to set up another deal, there is a deposit required.

and.....have that $20 ready to send if you no-show her....you dirty girl!

richlevy · 02-26-2006, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by slang

Cancel on Slang one time....no biggie....try to set up another deal, there is a deposit required.

I guess after the first 100 women get a look at you and run away it's a good idea to get a system. You can even rack up a profit.

Cerdded · 02-26-2006, 10:28 PM

You should definitely give it a chance. Can't lose too much, and everyone should take advantage of these moments in life. Go for it girl

Hi Mari,been a while.

02-26-2006, 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Cerdded

Hi Mari,been a while.

OOOOOH! Are you who I think you are?

YAY! You ARE! Welcome, my Welsh friend! How perfect that I get to welcome you to the Cellar for my 3,000th post! (I tend to talk alot

)

slang · 03-07-2006, 05:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by richlevy

I guess after the first 100 women get a look at you and run away it's a good idea to get a system. You can even rack up a profit.

100!? The system was formed from 2 no-shows!

The outside world is not something that I enjoy experiencing. When an appointment is set....it's a special occasion.

Though most people dont understand my general lack of getting out and are often confused by persistent reluctance to do "social things".

Rock Steady · 02-26-2006, 06:06 PM

I love when you talk dirty to me Brianna. So, were you in your PJs on the phone all day? So much for course work, HA!

Hey, do the reunion thing. It'll be good.

Cyclefrance · 02-28-2006, 01:25 PM

I thought I heard somebody typing in a Welsh accent...

BigV · 02-28-2006, 02:16 PM

Brianna:

I was the caller, the other day (email, actually) and I had hoped to renew a friendship of my school days. I sent a tentative note to him and he responded very enthusiastically. I am so glad to have gotten a favorable reaction. There has been a *lot* of water under the bridge in the intervening decades. I was very good friends with this person and I am looking forward eagerly to some serious catching up. I can't imagine it will be doable in one exchange.

02-26-2006, 03:46 PM	#1
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I'm filthy i spoke with a woman I was best friends with in high school today. I was her bosom buddy (and, she was mine) from '79-'82 and then we lost contact (marriages, children, rehab, children, divorces, marriages, rehab, etc.) but I spoke with her via the phone for about 45 minutes and we got along great. She lives about 30 min. from me. She wants to have brunch on thursday. i don't want to but I pretended that I did. I feel very sad now. I feel--weird. plus? I'm nearly 42. And the Professor called today. He doesn't love me anymore. Which I knew. A weird, sad day. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum Last edited by Trilby; 02-26-2006 at 03:50 PM.

02-26-2006, 04:37 PM	#3
slang St Petersburg, Florida Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 3,423	This may sound strange but give it a thought. The two of you have some history even if it was a long time ago. Did she sound sincere on the phone? She must have if you two made plans for this. Since it's been so long since you have had time to visit you may hit it off again and be great friends or this might be a big yawn fest. Who knows? If you meet and find that you would like to hang out again, there's time for that in the future. What you are trying to do now is just test it out to see for certain. Make it a point to set something up in that area during or directly after you are supposed to meet with your friend. Nowdays with the way that people in general cant keep an appointment to save their asses this will allow you to have a good time doing something completely different if she cancels or no-shows on you. If you show up at the given time and place and things dont go well, no bigge, you have something infinitely more interesting and fun to all set up. If for some reason she's rude, not giving you the attention that you deserve for making that time for her, asking you for money, or any other unpleasant possibility....disappear. Go do that thing that you really wanted to do in the first place. If you both end up having a good time and spend hours and hours and hours catching up and reliving old times just pass on the plan B. Either way you are covered. Just remembered another thing. If someone cancels or no-shows you once....statistically speaking they will again ( and again and again and again ). If she no-shows you and still wants to set something up again....have her send you $20 in the mail that the two of you will spend on lunch when she shows up on the next brunch. Cancel on Slang one time....no biggie....try to set up another deal, there is a deposit required. and.....have that $20 ready to send if you no-show her....you dirty girl! Last edited by slang; 02-26-2006 at 04:50 PM.

02-26-2006, 10:28 PM	#5
Cerdded Layperson Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Toronto,Ont. Canada Posts: 13	You should definitely give it a chance. Can't lose too much, and everyone should take advantage of these moments in life. Go for it girl Hi Mari,been a while. __________________ I put tape on the mirrors in my house so I don't accidentally walk through into another dimension. Steven Wright

02-26-2006, 06:06 PM	#8
Rock Steady Day Tripper Join Date: May 2005 Location: Silicon Valley Posts: 784	I love when you talk dirty to me Brianna. So, were you in your PJs on the phone all day? So much for course work, HA! Hey, do the reunion thing. It'll be good. __________________

02-28-2006, 01:25 PM	#9
Cyclefrance Pump my ride! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Deep countryside of Surrey , England Posts: 1,890	I thought I heard somebody typing in a Welsh accent... __________________ Always sufficient hills - never sufficient gears

02-26-2006, 04:04 PM	#2
marichiko Guest Posts: n/a	Is this the MARRIED professor? If so, he's a jerk with a bad habit of infidelity. No great loss. One of these days you'll understand that you deserve better, Bri. Why don't you want to meet up with your friend? Just not interested or do you think she'll end up judging you somehow?

02-28-2006, 02:16 PM	#10
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Brianna: I was the caller, the other day (email, actually) and I had hoped to renew a friendship of my school days. I sent a tentative note to him and he responded very enthusiastically. I am so glad to have gotten a favorable reaction. There has been a lot of water under the bridge in the intervening decades. I was very good friends with this person and I am looking forward eagerly to some serious catching up. I can't imagine it will be doable in one exchange. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

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