Torn Between Two Friends

Well, Brianna, a couple of thoughts. I use the term "ax murderer" humorously, needless to say. Most of the people probably have narcissitic personality disorder (NPD). There are women with NPD, also; so the board is made up of men and women both trying to come grips with the discovery that someone who had been among their nearest and dearest suffers from this profound personality disorder.

Ted Bundy (who was a psychopath, BTW), did not show up on the first meeting with a scrap book filled with pic's of his victims and what he had done to them. He came across as a personable, charming man. Folks with NPD ooze charm from every pore - they SEEM so sincere! It is only with the passing of time that they slowly begin to reveal their true natures as cold blooded reptiles who wouldn't know a human emotion if you wonked them upside the head with one. They are masters of faking it, though.

Survivers of encounters with these types end up with profound trust issues, needless to say. I think that is THE number 1 reason for the episodes of high drama on support boards for survivers.