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bluecuracao · 10-12-2005, 11:28 PM

Maybe you should listen to Mrs. E, not only because she is probably right, but also because she is your wife and it obviously set off an alarm in HER head. I think you risk making her feel weird by keeping in contact with this girl/woman from your distant past. Would it really be worth it?

I had a similar situation when a guy I last saw over 20 years ago emailed me through Classmates. I tried to put myself in my fiance's shoes and thought, if he got a similar email from a long-ago ex, how would I feel if he contacted her? I thought I would probably feel a little uncomfortable, so I didn't even respond and trashed the email.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-13-2005, 02:01 AM

Go for it. She’s far enough away that things can’t get out of hand without considerable expense and logistics. As long as you are up front and honest with both ladies, it shouldn’t be a problem. You’ll be able to tell after a couple of communications where it’s headed, and can change tack at any time.

She may have had a recent traumatic experience that’s causing her to review, reflect and/or reevaluate her past.

10-13-2005, 02:01 AM	#2
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Go for it. She’s far enough away that things can’t get out of hand without considerable expense and logistics. As long as you are up front and honest with both ladies, it shouldn’t be a problem. You’ll be able to tell after a couple of communications where it’s headed, and can change tack at any time. She may have had a recent traumatic experience that’s causing her to review, reflect and/or reevaluate her past. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-12-2005, 11:28 PM	#1
bluecuracao in a mood, not cupcake Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 3,034	Maybe you should listen to Mrs. E, not only because she is probably right, but also because she is your wife and it obviously set off an alarm in HER head. I think you risk making her feel weird by keeping in contact with this girl/woman from your distant past. Would it really be worth it? I had a similar situation when a guy I last saw over 20 years ago emailed me through Classmates. I tried to put myself in my fiance's shoes and thought, if he got a similar email from a long-ago ex, how would I feel if he contacted her? I thought I would probably feel a little uncomfortable, so I didn't even respond and trashed the email.

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