Attractive teachers - underage students

[Tonchi]

Originally Posted by lheene

Actually, I think that while men may be stimulated by this quality of teenage girls or boys, I don't believe the same holds true for women. Women are not as visually stimulated. Maybe the attraction is more psychological than physical. I mean, how many men of age are as capable of being as vulnerable or even as sensitive as these teens? Maybe older women are attracted to the fact that teen boys have less machismo. I dunno, just an opinion.

I think you have explained one important advantage of the older woman/young boy attraction. It's true that a teenage boy has very little to offer, but that is the whole point. He does not bring any BAGGAGE into the relationship either. He does not have ex-wives all over the place, children he can't relate to or is having a problem supporting financially, he is not yet bitter or suspicious or as fixed in so many of his own selfish ways. He has not been "ruined" emotionally, as it were, because he knows so little about his or your emotions at that point. In a strange way, this is refreshing.

I'm not thinking about this in terms of a teacher/student affair, I still can't avoid seeing that as predation, which is and should be illegal. But for consenting partners with no ulterior motives, it can be not-necessarily abnormal. It's even been proposed by some philosophers that men and women should have a 3-stage marriage history. The youngest men will be initiated sexually by the older women of the tribe/country/sect; when they get older these men will marry and form a family with a woman their own age, whom they will then initiate and bond with; later, after the children of this union are launched on their own, the women who have been widowed or are single for whatever reason will be "promoted" into the initiation of a new generation of boys. That way, everybody is always in a role which is most suitable and productive for their time of life, their skills and talents. I don't think this plan is going to find favor in many "civilized" societies any time soon, but it does sort of mirror what is happening in these classrooms. As well as after varsity football games, study halls, choir practices, and anyplace else where people consider the possibilities.

Oh, by the way, my ex-husband was 14 years younger than I.