marriage issues (long)

wolf · 06-21-2005, 12:57 AM

It seems that we (humans, generally) have an expectation that the people we marry will be the same people over time. We make this same assumption about ourselves.

Adapting to the fact that this is not actually true may be what makes a marriage successful or not.

I'm no great expert, and in fact I'm making this up as I go along.

Which is sometimes a successful strategy.

The counselling can help you get stuff straight in your head. If you do go for full-blown couples counselling, I would suggest involving some therapist other than the one(s) you are already seeing. That way he can't blame you for maneuvering him into a situation where you have an advocate and he does not.

06-21-2005, 12:57 AM	#10
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	It seems that we (humans, generally) have an expectation that the people we marry will be the same people over time. We make this same assumption about ourselves. Adapting to the fact that this is not actually true may be what makes a marriage successful or not. I'm no great expert, and in fact I'm making this up as I go along. Which is sometimes a successful strategy. The counselling can help you get stuff straight in your head. If you do go for full-blown couples counselling, I would suggest involving some therapist other than the one(s) you are already seeing. That way he can't blame you for maneuvering him into a situation where you have an advocate and he does not. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

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