Ascension of Christ

Trilby · 08-11-2004, 12:46 PM

All I am sayin' is that, if you work in the ED, you at least have to LOOK like you care. Even if it's a lost cause and even if it's a really, really bad person. I knew a nurse who withheld pain medication to a known pedophile--it was all very secret and no one knew--no discipline involved--but a LOT of nurses were pissed at her vigil ante stance. Which I think is fucked up. DanaC will disagree with me here.

08-11-2004, 01:29 PM

Why would she disagree? I don't disagree, and me and DanaC share the same viewpoint on lots of things - not to speak for her or anything, but I'll be curious what she says if she replies to your post.

I think pedophiles are pretty sick people, but here's a little story about one - can't remember if I told it here or not, forgive me if I'm repeating myself. I was in this group therapy thing to try to work out some issues I had at the time, and one of the members of the group was a pedophile. I was really disgusted by him at first, and even considered quitting the group because of him until one day he told us all his story. He had attempted suicide because he hated what he was so much and had failed. He was about 30 and was doing everything in his power to change, but was having a very hard time. He had been continually sexually abused himself when he was a child by an older male family member. It was a horrible experience for him and he loathed that he could turn around and do the same thing himself as an adult. All he wanted to do at that point was to die - he couldn't change and he couldn't go on living as he had been. He broke down into tears as he spoke, and my heart honestly went out to him. I don't know what ever happened to him, but I hope he got the help he needed. If not, I am sure that by now he is dead by his own hand.

lookout123 · 08-11-2004, 02:14 PM

i understand that you have to care if you are an emergency worker. you are there to treat illnesses and injuries, not necessarily the people who have them.

and Mari - you are a kind hearted soul... me personally, if i had been in that group i would have helped him buy a cheap gun and given him one bullet. i understand he has a history that led him down that path, but no one from his past stood behind him threatening him with a gun if he didn't bugger a child. we all have histories and we are all responsible for our actions regardless of what happened to us as children. and for the record - i'm not a victim, but child sex abuse has touched my family.

08-11-2004, 12:46 PM	#1
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	All I am sayin' is that, if you work in the ED, you at least have to LOOK like you care. Even if it's a lost cause and even if it's a really, really bad person. I knew a nurse who withheld pain medication to a known pedophile--it was all very secret and no one knew--no discipline involved--but a LOT of nurses were pissed at her vigil ante stance. Which I think is fucked up. DanaC will disagree with me here. Last edited by Trilby; 08-11-2004 at 12:47 PM. Reason: semantics...

08-11-2004, 02:14 PM	#3
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	i understand that you have to care if you are an emergency worker. you are there to treat illnesses and injuries, not necessarily the people who have them. and Mari - you are a kind hearted soul... me personally, if i had been in that group i would have helped him buy a cheap gun and given him one bullet. i understand he has a history that led him down that path, but no one from his past stood behind him threatening him with a gun if he didn't bugger a child. we all have histories and we are all responsible for our actions regardless of what happened to us as children. and for the record - i'm not a victim, but child sex abuse has touched my family. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

08-11-2004, 01:29 PM	#2
marichiko Guest Posts: n/a	Why would she disagree? I don't disagree, and me and DanaC share the same viewpoint on lots of things - not to speak for her or anything, but I'll be curious what she says if she replies to your post. I think pedophiles are pretty sick people, but here's a little story about one - can't remember if I told it here or not, forgive me if I'm repeating myself. I was in this group therapy thing to try to work out some issues I had at the time, and one of the members of the group was a pedophile. I was really disgusted by him at first, and even considered quitting the group because of him until one day he told us all his story. He had attempted suicide because he hated what he was so much and had failed. He was about 30 and was doing everything in his power to change, but was having a very hard time. He had been continually sexually abused himself when he was a child by an older male family member. It was a horrible experience for him and he loathed that he could turn around and do the same thing himself as an adult. All he wanted to do at that point was to die - he couldn't change and he couldn't go on living as he had been. He broke down into tears as he spoke, and my heart honestly went out to him. I don't know what ever happened to him, but I hope he got the help he needed. If not, I am sure that by now he is dead by his own hand.

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