Sticky Situation

jane_says · 07-07-2004, 11:42 AM

Even if she had the money for a lawyer, even if getting back to the US in time were no problem, even if she had moved to St. Louis, for shit's sake, what kind of parent has she been to this child, at least recently? What purpose would be served by a judge allowing her joint legal custody, or even visitation? For Christ's sake, if she can't leave her new man long enough to fight for her son, the kid is right where he should be, IMO. I can't imagine not doing whatever was necessary, including whoring myself on the streets of Croatia, to get "a month's woth of grocery money" to get this taken care of. I have, obviously, no dog in this race, but sounds to me like she just wants to be able to breeze in and out of this kid's life whenever it suits her international travel plans and social life.

Further, I see no reason to mention that this guy is living in his parents' home with his children, other than to make him look bad. Also not gonna fly. Lots of divorced women do that and as far as I'm concerned if his family is willing to help raise this kid, that's more than his mother is doing and the father's entire family should be praised. This woman should thank her lucky stars the father is more responsible than to take off and abandon his children for some woman on another continent, and be delighted that her child is being cared for by his dad, and other family members, rather than tossed into foster care.

IANAL, but I would think that leaving the country constitutes abandonment in most cases. Sounds like this kid would be better off in his current situation than going through some ridiculous, vindictive custody bullshit.

FTR, yes, I'd say the exact same things if it were a man in this situation. A parent is a parent is a parent, and this woman has not been parenting.

07-07-2004, 11:42 AM	#1
jane_says Colonist Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: SW VA Posts: 200	Even if she had the money for a lawyer, even if getting back to the US in time were no problem, even if she had moved to St. Louis, for shit's sake, what kind of parent has she been to this child, at least recently? What purpose would be served by a judge allowing her joint legal custody, or even visitation? For Christ's sake, if she can't leave her new man long enough to fight for her son, the kid is right where he should be, IMO. I can't imagine not doing whatever was necessary, including whoring myself on the streets of Croatia, to get "a month's woth of grocery money" to get this taken care of. I have, obviously, no dog in this race, but sounds to me like she just wants to be able to breeze in and out of this kid's life whenever it suits her international travel plans and social life. Further, I see no reason to mention that this guy is living in his parents' home with his children, other than to make him look bad. Also not gonna fly. Lots of divorced women do that and as far as I'm concerned if his family is willing to help raise this kid, that's more than his mother is doing and the father's entire family should be praised. This woman should thank her lucky stars the father is more responsible than to take off and abandon his children for some woman on another continent, and be delighted that her child is being cared for by his dad, and other family members, rather than tossed into foster care. IANAL, but I would think that leaving the country constitutes abandonment in most cases. Sounds like this kid would be better off in his current situation than going through some ridiculous, vindictive custody bullshit. FTR, yes, I'd say the exact same things if it were a man in this situation. A parent is a parent is a parent, and this woman has not been parenting.

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