I know this isn't Oprah but...

[Yelof]

I am very sorry for the situation you are in, being in love with someone is like being hooked on drugs. When your dealer takes you stash from you you suffer, you go live in that black hole.

Sex and Friends don't mix, get out of there, your friendship with him (and possibly her) died the minute you slept with him.

Some of the worst moments in my life were when I decided that I could be still friends with a girlfriend who had cheated on me. I was fooling myself, under the modern human still beats a primative heart, I was still in love with her and I was really cutting myself up with a knife to remain in her presence.

She had been my best friend, if I hadn't been a fool kid I would never of slept with her and we might still be friends. Testosterone does funny things to you.

I stubbled over her email address the other day and at times I am tempted to email her just to find out what has happened in her life, but another part of me knows that is not a good idea and that way grief lies.