Ex husband rant - Page 2

Cloud · 08-26-2009, 05:00 PM

That's it, exactly. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, but it's the constant wrangling about politics and pushing the churchiness I object to.

I think it's the "reformed sinner" syndrome--those people are always more zealous.

I'd rather have him this way, than killing himself with alcohol.

But . . .

ZenGum · 08-26-2009, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Cloud

My ex-husband has turned into a complete right-wing, fundamentalist Christian--goes to one of those mega churches. That's all he does--does his AA thing, reads religious books, goes to church and watches Rush Limbaugh. Pressures the rest of the family to be churchy and acts offended when we aren't. We never have been, and he knows that.

I worry that he's been brainwashed or something.

Yeah, quite likely.

Baptist mega-churches are nowadays set up with awesome sound and lighting systems, climate control, etc, and with a bit of peer pressure and group think, can produce some limited forms of mind control.

AA is also known to work more or less as a cult, not always in a bad way.

Read "Cults: Faith, Healing and Coercion" by Marc Galanter for further information.

But, self-destroying alcoholic, or irritating born-again religious ... I guess the latter is the lesser of two evils.

Cloud · 08-26-2009, 11:37 PM

I agree. That's why it's a rant.

xoxoxoBruce · 08-27-2009, 12:06 AM

You could counter by telling him about the wonderful world of Islam.

Cloud · 08-27-2009, 08:09 AM

If I were one of those . . . arguesome people, maybe.

You know you you are!

Queen of the Ryche · 08-27-2009, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Cloud

That's it, exactly. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, but it's the constant wrangling about politics and pushing the churchiness I object to.

I think it's the "reformed sinner" syndrome--those people are always more zealous.

I'd rather have him this way, than killing himself with alcohol.

But . . .

Nail. On. The. Head.

Perhaps if this is all new found to him, he is currently a bit over zealous, but the excitement and newness may wear off a bit over time, enough to calm him down (and shut him up) a bit? That's what happened when my ex joined AA and the Catholic Church shortly after we split. After about a year teh storm was lowered to a dull roar.

Cloud · 08-27-2009, 12:58 PM

Unfortunately, it's been several years and I think it's a permanent condition.

Queen of the Ryche · 08-27-2009, 01:04 PM

Dammit. Then just put him on ignore whenever you can. That's what I do with mine. Until he becomes so annoying that I have to ask him, "Excuse me E? Can you please shut the f*ck up? Thank you."

DanaC · 08-31-2009, 06:42 AM

I think if J ever went down that road, it'd just about break my heart. Sad stuff Cloud. But then, as you say, at least he's not killing himself with the demon drink now.

morethanpretty · 08-31-2009, 07:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Cloud

If I were one of those . . . arguesome people, maybe.

You know you you are!

Yes I do know who I am. Its not always fun trust me, especially if you are surrounded by those with the exact opposite of your belief system...and who cry when you try to calmly explain your side of things because you are "so lost."

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Originally Posted by DanaC

I think if J ever went down that road, it'd just about break my heart. Sad stuff Cloud. But then, as you say, at least he's not killing himself with the demon drink now.

What is the "blood of Christ" that they give out at communion then?

I am so goin to hell

DanaC · 08-31-2009, 07:24 AM

Well I'd say that's representational cannibalism, but wtf do I know? :P

ZenGum · 08-31-2009, 08:06 AM

Human Sacrifice Lite.

skysidhe · 08-31-2009, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Flint

There's a short-circuit that connects in people's heads when they've found "the one true answer to [whatever]" and they get such a powerful feeling of satisfaction from being so right about it that it pushes away other things.

truth!

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Originally Posted by ZenGum

Human Sacrifice Lite.

interesting perspective

@cloud.

I can understand the horror. At least I can empathize with what must feel like a case of the body snatchers. Unreal like and bizzare probably.

Cloud · 08-31-2009, 09:26 AM

yeah, it's like -- who are you and what have you done with the guy I've known for 30 years?

dar512 · 08-31-2009, 12:07 PM

In Doonesbury just yesterday.

08-26-2009, 05:00 PM	#16
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	That's it, exactly. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, but it's the constant wrangling about politics and pushing the churchiness I object to. I think it's the "reformed sinner" syndrome--those people are always more zealous. I'd rather have him this way, than killing himself with alcohol. But . . . __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

08-26-2009, 11:37 PM	#18
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	I agree. That's why it's a rant. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

08-27-2009, 12:06 AM	#19
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	You could counter by telling him about the wonderful world of Islam. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

08-27-2009, 08:09 AM	#20
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	If I were one of those . . . arguesome people, maybe. You know you you are! __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

08-27-2009, 12:58 PM	#22
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	Unfortunately, it's been several years and I think it's a permanent condition. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

08-27-2009, 01:04 PM	#23
Queen of the Ryche is fleeing the scene Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Beautiful CO Posts: 1,510	Dammit. Then just put him on ignore whenever you can. That's what I do with mine. Until he becomes so annoying that I have to ask him, "Excuse me E? Can you please shut the f*ck up? Thank you." __________________ Once, in an interview, Chuck Norris admitted that he was not the most awesome thing ever. He declined to elaborate; but I believe we all know that he was referring to the existence of chocolate covered bacon. I'd rather be judged by twelve than carried by six.

08-31-2009, 08:06 AM	#27
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Human Sacrifice Lite. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

08-31-2009, 09:26 AM	#29
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	yeah, it's like -- who are you and what have you done with the guy I've known for 30 years? __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

08-31-2009, 12:07 PM	#30
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	In Doonesbury just yesterday. __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

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