My kid is getting shafted

[Aliantha]

Regardless of who started it, if kid A was involved and admitted it, I don't see why him being punished is being shafted. He still did something wrong, even if he was just following another kids lead.

The fact that kid B didn't get punished really isn't anything to do with it IMO. Yeah it sucks, but as a parent, i think the lesson you have to try and teach is that if you do something wrong you get punished. There's consequences. Just because B got away with it shouldn't have any bearing. As the parent it's up to you to teach your kid a better way of doing things no matter what other kids are up to, or what they get pinned with.

Yeah I know I'm late to the party, but after reading the thread, I just wanted to say a couple of things. One other thing I wanted to talk about was the fact that I'm sure as a parent you agree that your child should have been punished for his actions, but you're not happy that he's taken the whole blame. I just think it's really important that you don't talk about the sour grapes you feel in front of the child. He needs to learn to man up and be responsible for his actions regardless of what happens to the other kids. You as a parent are responsible for making sure he gets that message, and if he hears you talking about how unfair it all is, what lesson do you think he'll take from that?