Generation swap

[limey]

Originally Posted by limey

And, there's the practical stuff to deal with ... dispersing her stuff, deciding what things she will have with her in the home ...

This is where I'm at today. After an emotional rollercoaster week of "yes she can move soon"/"no we need you to jump through more and ever higher hoops first" my mum is moving to the care home on Monday. Initially to a shared room: she'd prefer her own room, but a shared room in this home is far FAR preferable to the hospital ward she's on now.
So now I'm making a list of the things I must collect from my mum's house to take to the home. And wondering how I'll have the nerve to sell or give away the bulk of my mum's possessions. I don't have the room to store them, and I don't really feel I have the right to get rid of them. And no, I can't ask her about it because most of the time she lives in a delusional world where terrorist attacks have happened and/or will happen later. When I have a conversation with her I'd rather it was more pleasant than "I'm getting rid of your stuff. How'd you want me to do it".
I never thought I'd be delighted at the idea that my mum is moving to a care home, but I am, along with being appalled and heartbroken in equal measure.