It is so hard to swallow - Page 3

DucksNuts · 08-08-2007, 07:23 PM

You did well to swallow your pride and not turn a dumb situation into a completely fucked up one.

But...

You CANT control how others talk to your girlfriend and if you are gonna be one of *those* guys (one that will pick a fight because some guy is flirting with *your* girlfriend)....you will find yourself alone very quickly.

I've had those boyfriends...and as I explained to them....they can not control how guys talk to me, what is said, what they do....but they can trust me

or not. If its not.....see ya.

Other than that, I wonder....why do you have her password and why were you logged in as her?

Obviously, if there are 60 odd emails, they are more than just acquaintances at work...they are obviously important to each other in some way, shape or form.

Oh...personally, I dont think there is anything wrong with friends saying "love you" to friends...does not matter whether that person has a partner or not.

DanaC · 08-08-2007, 07:25 PM

If the reason you have her password is because she lets you have access to her facebook account....then you just threw her trust back in her face (though fortunately you appear to have rescued the situation:P).

Aliantha · 08-09-2007, 03:46 AM

Hey fresh...

...I love ya mate!
Hope that doesn't offend your g/f.

freshnesschronic · 08-09-2007, 04:16 AM

Everyone: We have each other's passwords because 1. her internet DSL sucks so I have to do stuff for her occasionally and 2. so we can sabotage each other's accounts for mild fun.

I have learnt that (yes I said learnt, waddya gonna do?) the reason why there are so many messages back and forth is because my girl doesn't like to use AIM and so it was all within a small time frame, like a personal conversation on an instant messaging system. I am not worried. Hey, that's an improvement.

Ali: I don't know what to say..............................................................................................................................................

You've never even met my girlfriend! But thanks for sharing the love.

Much obliged, mate.

What the world, needs now...

P.S. Did I do a type a decent Australian accent?

Aliantha · 08-09-2007, 04:25 AM

Oh yeah, you did ok.

But did you get my point?

freshnesschronic · 08-09-2007, 04:30 AM

I did get your point, but did you get my joke? I have a real hard time doing sarcasm through typing. Like I was answering as if I interpreted your words as "I love ya (your) mate (girlfriend)" and therefore answered confused like "but you don't know her/have met her!" Yeah so when I try to explain it makes things worse. I'm off to bed then.

Solution found! Thread, over!

Aliantha · 08-09-2007, 04:32 AM

It's ok fresh. I got it. Just wanted to be sure.

I know how you feel. If I saw some chick telling my husband 'I love you' I'd probably be a bit pissed and ask him about, accept his explanation then use it against him for the next couple of weeks in order to increase my shopping budget.

yesman065 · 08-09-2007, 09:07 AM

atta girl -

Perry Winkle · 08-09-2007, 09:47 AM

Everyone done soothing their vaginas? All this good will and understanding is making me gag.

DanaC · 08-09-2007, 11:34 AM

*grins* we just all catchin our breath for the next round...

wolf · 08-09-2007, 01:43 PM

Dude, reading your girlfriend's email and even worse, RESPONDING to even one piece of it, is seriously fucked up.

Seriously.

Be prepared for her to dump your ass so hard it will end up around your shoulders.

kerosene · 08-09-2007, 06:26 PM

That's kind of like reading someone's diary.

I dumped a guy for that when I was 20. I also didn't speak to my mother for a while for that when I was a teenager. Now, I would let my husband read it, but only because I don't fear his judgement. He never has, though.

Hime · 08-10-2007, 03:23 PM

Most of my friends are men, not sure why. Some of them say "I love you" to me, in a friendly way, like "sure you're scatterbrained, but that's why we love you!" But I do have one male friend who frequently makes comments to me that my husband is uncomfortable with, such as asking for naked pictures, asking to give me a massage, things like that. I understand my husband's concern because if he had a female friend who talked to him like that, I would feel jealous and wonder why he wanted to be friends with her. However, we basically deal with it by communicating and letting each other handle our own lives. Since my husband let me know that this friend's requests bother him, now when the friend gets into that territory I let him know that it wouldn't be fair to my husband for me to participate in that kind of conversation. My husband wouldn't confront one of my friends; he would trust me to set the limits that we've agreed on.

And honestly, some people want their SO to see them as "theirs." We are generally referred to as submissive. I don't know if that term fits FC's girlfriend, but it is entirely possible.

freshnesschronic · 08-10-2007, 06:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hime

such as asking for naked pictures

wtf kind of friend is this!?

DanaC · 08-10-2007, 06:05 PM

a horny one i'm guessing

08-09-2007, 03:46 AM	#33
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Hey fresh... ...I love ya mate! Hope that doesn't offend your g/f. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-09-2007, 04:25 AM	#35
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Oh yeah, you did ok. But did you get my point? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-09-2007, 04:32 AM	#37
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	It's ok fresh. I got it. Just wanted to be sure. I know how you feel. If I saw some chick telling my husband 'I love you' I'd probably be a bit pissed and ask him about, accept his explanation then use it against him for the next couple of weeks in order to increase my shopping budget. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-09-2007, 01:43 PM	#41
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Dude, reading your girlfriend's email and even worse, RESPONDING to even one piece of it, is seriously fucked up. Seriously. Be prepared for her to dump your ass so hard it will end up around your shoulders. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

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08-08-2007, 07:23 PM	#31
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	You did well to swallow your pride and not turn a dumb situation into a completely fucked up one. But... You CANT control how others talk to your girlfriend and if you are gonna be one of those guys (one that will pick a fight because some guy is flirting with your girlfriend)....you will find yourself alone very quickly. I've had those boyfriends...and as I explained to them....they can not control how guys talk to me, what is said, what they do....but they can trust me or not. If its not.....see ya. Other than that, I wonder....why do you have her password and why were you logged in as her? Obviously, if there are 60 odd emails, they are more than just acquaintances at work...they are obviously important to each other in some way, shape or form. Oh...personally, I dont think there is anything wrong with friends saying "love you" to friends...does not matter whether that person has a partner or not.

08-08-2007, 07:25 PM	#32
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	If the reason you have her password is because she lets you have access to her facebook account....then you just threw her trust back in her face (though fortunately you appear to have rescued the situation:P).

08-09-2007, 04:16 AM	#34
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	Everyone: We have each other's passwords because 1. her internet DSL sucks so I have to do stuff for her occasionally and 2. so we can sabotage each other's accounts for mild fun. I have learnt that (yes I said learnt, waddya gonna do?) the reason why there are so many messages back and forth is because my girl doesn't like to use AIM and so it was all within a small time frame, like a personal conversation on an instant messaging system. I am not worried. Hey, that's an improvement. Ali: I don't know what to say.............................................................................................................................................. You've never even met my girlfriend! But thanks for sharing the love. Much obliged, mate. What the world, needs now... P.S. Did I do a type a decent Australian accent?

08-09-2007, 04:30 AM	#36
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	I did get your point, but did you get my joke? I have a real hard time doing sarcasm through typing. Like I was answering as if I interpreted your words as "I love ya (your) mate (girlfriend)" and therefore answered confused like "but you don't know her/have met her!" Yeah so when I try to explain it makes things worse. I'm off to bed then. Solution found! Thread, over!

08-09-2007, 09:07 AM	#38
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	atta girl -

08-09-2007, 09:47 AM	#39
Perry Winkle Esnohplad Semaj Ton Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: A little south of sanity Posts: 2,259	Everyone done soothing their vaginas? All this good will and understanding is making me gag.

08-09-2007, 11:34 AM	#40
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	grins we just all catchin our breath for the next round...

08-09-2007, 06:26 PM	#42
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	That's kind of like reading someone's diary. I dumped a guy for that when I was 20. I also didn't speak to my mother for a while for that when I was a teenager. Now, I would let my husband read it, but only because I don't fear his judgement. He never has, though.

08-10-2007, 03:23 PM	#43
Hime Extraordinary Machine Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Outside of Washington, DC Posts: 307	Most of my friends are men, not sure why. Some of them say "I love you" to me, in a friendly way, like "sure you're scatterbrained, but that's why we love you!" But I do have one male friend who frequently makes comments to me that my husband is uncomfortable with, such as asking for naked pictures, asking to give me a massage, things like that. I understand my husband's concern because if he had a female friend who talked to him like that, I would feel jealous and wonder why he wanted to be friends with her. However, we basically deal with it by communicating and letting each other handle our own lives. Since my husband let me know that this friend's requests bother him, now when the friend gets into that territory I let him know that it wouldn't be fair to my husband for me to participate in that kind of conversation. My husband wouldn't confront one of my friends; he would trust me to set the limits that we've agreed on. And honestly, some people want their SO to see them as "theirs." We are generally referred to as submissive. I don't know if that term fits FC's girlfriend, but it is entirely possible.

08-10-2007, 06:05 PM	#45
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	a horny one i'm guessing

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