Slightly wierd Christmas Eve

SamIam · 12-23-2009, 04:02 PM

I accepted an invitation for Christmas Eve, thinking it would be a group gathering. It turns out that it will just be my host, "Bill," Bill's niece, her S.O. and me. The niece is pregnant and not married to her S.O. She is being supported by Bill who complains about the situation often. I feel very uncomfortable being the outsider in what may be a tense family situation. I would never have said I'd come had I known. How do I deal with this in a gracious manner?

Pie · 12-23-2009, 04:06 PM

Um... unscheduled emergency?

"I think I'm coming down with H1N1"
"My cat's sick"

SamIam · 12-23-2009, 04:26 PM

I have to admit that "calling in sick" is highly appealing. How do I get myself into these things, anyway?

Pie · 12-23-2009, 04:39 PM

Quote:

Governor Tarkin: You're far too trusting.

xoxoxoBruce · 12-23-2009, 04:53 PM

Go, get real drunk real fast, the rest won't matter.

Nirvana · 12-23-2009, 05:37 PM

Psssssssssst XOB

http://cellar.org/showthread.php?t=21666

Griff · 12-23-2009, 06:02 PM

Tell them you're hiking the Appalachian Trail.

xoxoxoBruce · 12-23-2009, 11:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nirvana

Psssssssssst XOB

http://cellar.org/showthread.php?t=21666

Oh yeah, sorry.

SamIam · 12-24-2009, 11:50 AM

No problem, Bruce!

monster · 12-23-2009, 06:50 PM

What is your relationship with "Bill"? As in, are you close to the extent that his invitation might be a request for emotional support? And if so, you might need to be more sensitive in your excuse than you would if you were little more than passing acquaintances, for who a potential h1n1 relapse would be just fine. If you do chuck a sickie, pick something pregnant women should avoid being exposed to.

SamIam · 12-23-2009, 09:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

What is your relationship with "Bill"? As in, are you close to the extent that his invitation might be a request for emotional support? And if so, you might need to be more sensitive in your excuse than you would if you were little more than passing acquaintances, for who a potential h1n1 relapse would be just fine. If you do chuck a sickie, pick something pregnant women should avoid being exposed to.

Bill is more an aquaintance than a friend. I think he would go to other people besides me if he wanted support. Its amazing how quickly those flu symptoms come on, isn't it?

footfootfoot · 12-23-2009, 08:57 PM

SamIam,

Being that you are all "on the wagon" and shit I think it is entirely ok for you to bow out gracefully saying you truly need to manage your very real holiday stress by excusing yourself from Bill's gathering. Be gracious and thankful, but be firm in taking care of your needs, vis-a-vis sobriety and avoiding triggers that would make you, and just about everyone else, want to seriously bevv-up.

Bill should understand. Especially if his last name begins with a W.

BTW. You don't owe it to anyone to take care of them unless they are your own underage spoor.

zippyt · 12-23-2009, 09:43 PM

Its amazing how quickly those flu symptoms come on, isn't it?

You Are Looking a Bit Green around the Gills .

Best stay Home and heal up .

glatt · 12-23-2009, 09:49 PM

I like foot's advice. Honesty is usually the best policy.

monster · 12-24-2009, 12:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt

I like foot's advice. Honesty is usually the best policy.

usually, but not always, especially if honesty involves revealling some personal issues that you'd rather not share.

eeeeewwww, sam, please try to do that in your elbow or a Kleenex next time. I had no idea it was possible for lurgy molecules to fly that far. impressive!

12-23-2009, 04:02 PM	#1
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	Slightly wierd Christmas Eve I accepted an invitation for Christmas Eve, thinking it would be a group gathering. It turns out that it will just be my host, "Bill," Bill's niece, her S.O. and me. The niece is pregnant and not married to her S.O. She is being supported by Bill who complains about the situation often. I feel very uncomfortable being the outsider in what may be a tense family situation. I would never have said I'd come had I known. How do I deal with this in a gracious manner?

12-23-2009, 04:06 PM	#2
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	Um... unscheduled emergency? "I think I'm coming down with H1N1" "My cat's sick" __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

12-23-2009, 04:53 PM	#5
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Go, get real drunk real fast, the rest won't matter. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

12-23-2009, 05:37 PM	#6
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	Psssssssssst XOB http://cellar.org/showthread.php?t=21666 __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

12-23-2009, 06:02 PM	#7
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Tell them you're hiking the Appalachian Trail. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

12-23-2009, 04:26 PM	#3
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	I have to admit that "calling in sick" is highly appealing. How do I get myself into these things, anyway?

12-24-2009, 11:50 AM	#9
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	No problem, Bruce!

12-23-2009, 06:50 PM	#10
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	What is your relationship with "Bill"? As in, are you close to the extent that his invitation might be a request for emotional support? And if so, you might need to be more sensitive in your excuse than you would if you were little more than passing acquaintances, for who a potential h1n1 relapse would be just fine. If you do chuck a sickie, pick something pregnant women should avoid being exposed to. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

12-23-2009, 08:57 PM	#12
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	SamIam, Being that you are all "on the wagon" and shit I think it is entirely ok for you to bow out gracefully saying you truly need to manage your very real holiday stress by excusing yourself from Bill's gathering. Be gracious and thankful, but be firm in taking care of your needs, vis-a-vis sobriety and avoiding triggers that would make you, and just about everyone else, want to seriously bevv-up. Bill should understand. Especially if his last name begins with a W. BTW. You don't owe it to anyone to take care of them unless they are your own underage spoor. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

12-23-2009, 09:43 PM	#13
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Its amazing how quickly those flu symptoms come on, isn't it? You Are Looking a Bit Green around the Gills . Best stay Home and heal up . __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

12-23-2009, 09:49 PM	#14
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I like foot's advice. Honesty is usually the best policy.

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