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Originally Posted by Undertoad
There's a sorta zen answer to all of this:
It's wonderful that he has given you the opportunity to be the bigger person.
Surely he will give you more opportunities in the future. It makes you wonder if he feels badly about himself, in some way. Is there a father-son resentment that he's carrying out in his relationship with you? How's his life with dad been?
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Good comments as usual UT. Yes, I've calmed down and am sort of taking a Budhist like response at this point that I'll be a better person for just taking care of this then lowering myself to get in a quarrel.
As for son and birth dad; he was a rather rebellious child who bucked his father's authority as a teenager. He walked away from a fully paid scholarship to college to join the Air Force which upset both parents. Dad died not long after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and although he had visited him just before, he was not there when dad died as he was still in the Air Force and on duty. 20 years later he is much like his dad and more so than his older brother.