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Originally Posted by limey
And, there's the practical stuff to deal with ... dispersing her stuff, deciding what things she will have with her in the home ...
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This is where I'm at today. After an emotional rollercoaster week of "yes she can move soon"/"no we need you to jump through more and ever higher hoops first" my mum is moving to the care home on Monday. Initially to a shared room: she'd prefer her own room, but a shared room in this home is far FAR preferable to the hospital ward she's on now.
So now I'm making a list of the things I must collect from my mum's house to take to the home. And wondering how I'll have the nerve to sell or give away the bulk of my mum's possessions. I don't have the room to store them, and I don't really feel I have the right to get rid of them. And no, I can't ask her about it because most of the time she lives in a delusional world where terrorist attacks have happened and/or will happen later. When I have a conversation with her I'd rather it was more pleasant than "I'm getting rid of your stuff. How'd you want me to do it".
I never thought I'd be delighted at the idea that my mum is moving to a care home, but I am, along with being appalled and heartbroken in equal measure.