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Originally Posted by smoothmoniker
If you are wrong, and they stay together in wedded bliss, your interference will always be a dark cloud between you and your new bro-in-law. If you are right, and they are self-destructive toward each other, your interference will be an eternal silent "I told you so" between you and your sister.
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My open disapproval of my now BIL, when he first started dating my sister was the first big crack in our until then fairly reasonable relationship. He was an office romance, who split with his fiancee to date my sister. They were living together within a couple of months - she's a practising Catholic, but some things were quite flexible when she was 19!
They got engaged the day they moved in and started saving for the wedding immediately. She got pregnant on her honeymoon.
And they're still together. Still happy as far as I can tell. He's a wonderful father. Not my cup of tea, and I think he's made her very insular, but that's not for me to comment.
You won't change her mind MTP. No-one changed mine when I got married even though it was definitely for all the wrong reasons, and I resented those conversations. By all means speak mild caution. By be clear that you love her and want her to be happy. And if it goes tits-up, which I really hope it won't, you can be there to help her through that too.