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Originally Posted by Aliantha
Well if he means that much to you, why don't you leave your husband? I know that sounds cruel, but seriously, do you really love this guy, or are you just deluding yourself with the romance of it all?
Take a step back and look at the bigger picture mate. You might find that the grass isn't all that much greener on his side of the fence after all.
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The above scenario isn't
exactly what's going on in my life, it's just an example of how people can always "miss" that window of opportunity.
I'm currently going through a divorce, and my best friend is going through a reconciliation. The thing is, I truly loved my husband... I wouldn't have left him for my friend. You can love more than one person at once. My husband and I have a child together, as does my friend with his wife. Sometimes you work on what you have, out of principle. I wouldn't love my friend so much if he didn't share that principle. If my husband hadn't left me, I wouldn't see any irony in the scenario at all.
I will probably never marry again, but I also don't want to put my life on hold waiting for my friend to get a divorce. That's pathetic, and borders on pathological. If he gets a divorce and we end up together, I think that it will be the best thing that could happen... but if I meet someone wonderful, I don't want to turn it down because I'm waiting and hoping, you know? Refusing the joy before you for dreams of a better joy is foolish.