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Originally Posted by morethanpretty
I'm not going to marry the person they want me to (at 18 nonetheless!)
and its proven, I've done it "their way" in the past, I got suicidal
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Its funny: all ya'll who decided to rag on me for sayin my parents do not always know whats best for me, decided to overlook these two statements completely. So I'll say it again, and dumb it down for ya.
My parents wanted me to
GET MARRIED AT 18! They think me
getting a college degree is probably a waste of time. They believe my ex-boyfriend
"owns a piece of my soul" because we had sex. That although I was terribly unhappy with him, and with him mainly because he was the first guy to ever pay attention to me,
THAT I SHOULD STILL MARRY HIM AT 18! That I should get a SECOND job, and
support HIM through school.
I spent FOUR YEARS on anti-depressants, not able to look up from my feet, hiding in my closet or a book. I was suicidal, and took pain-killers recreational. When I wasn't doing these things, I was goin to church or youth group, or praying to God. Trying to be a good Christian, and not understanding why my heart was still devoid, when I had all the "faith" I could muster. When I begged my parents; no I did not "throw a fit," I wrote out all of my arguments, asked them to sit down with me and tried to discuss the issue with them, it ended in literal begging, I begged them to let me stop youth group. I was endlessly harassed at it, not just by other kids, by the youth minister herself. They knew this, they believed it. They made me keep going even though 9 out of 10 times I came home in a complete wreck. Its hard now, not to tear up and talk about it. That was 5 or so years ago.
A couple of years ago, my mom actually told me: "I don't really believe you were ever depressed." That makes sense, since 3 separate doctors and a family counselor all believed it. My thoughts of suicide probably meant nothing either.
Those are a couple of examples, I don't feel like giving anymore, those are personal enough. So while, my parents have years of experience that makes their advise very valuable. They don't know what is best for me.