Thread: Deal Breakers
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Old 12-02-2008, 11:35 AM   #122
Locoluis
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Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Santiago, Chile
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Hi. Hahaha. I'm much more slob than neat, but when it comes to the toilet, I always leave it clean. And I leave the lid down. A seat pisser is someone who hasn't yet succeeded at potty training. OTOH, someone else having a weak bladder is not my problem.

Back to the topic. I have never dumped anyone (or dated; honestly, I haven't tried much), so I have no much idea about deal breakers and stuff. Let's make a short list:

- Lies.
I'm known to be brutally honest about stuff, and I don't like people who keep trying to wash away the truth with lies and illusions just to make it look pretty. For that reason, I like it all natural. Keep the make-up to a minimum and don't ever dye your hair. Just be yourself.
- Excessive desire for material things.
If you can't live with just the basics, then I'm not the one for you. I'm poor anyways. Credit cards? Expensive gifts? Forget it. No need for shiny, useless pieces of rock or metal hanging from your body. True beauty comes from the inside, not from some primitive symbol of status.
- Being unforgiving.
Everybody makes mistakes, and people are prone to fail. It's very important to understand this and be able to forgive each other's faults. For instance, I'm known for being absent-minded and forgetting important stuff once in a while; it's a big problem to me, and I'm doing all I can about it. Some things are break dealers indeed, but for everything else, we can talk about it.
- Lack of trust and mutual respect.
Trust is fundamental in every relationship and, as I learned, is only lost once. I won't keep secrets from you so don't keep secrets from me. A closed heart is worse than a closed mind. Similar thing with mutual respect. We talk about what we like and we don't like, we learn about the what the other person likes or dislikes, and we avoid stepping on each other's feet; otherwise, we end up with something else instead of a relationship.

Oh, and this is a particular pet-peeve of me. I'm really fed-up of coarse "music" trash like reggaeton, cumbia villera (shantytown cumbia) and the like. I'm tired of telling my sister to stop putting that radio station while I'm there (and it's *my* house, so I should have a say). Everybody has their tastes, I like a lot of music from classical to sappy romantic ballads to most kinds of rock, blues, country, pop, hip-hop, funk, reggae, etc. No, I don't like thrash metal, punk, goth, emo or the like, either. Again, let's talk about it and find a common ground, or let's just forget about it and find someone else.

I was going to put "Stupid demands" there, but then it hit me. What for a person are just "stupid demands" could very well be "deal breakers" to someone else, so let's not be so quick.
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