Internal sexual dialog
 

I get this totally random sex dialog thing going on. Out of the blue, I'll be performing normal daily tasks or at work, when a little voice in the back of my head will say, "Fuck me. Fuck mefuckmefuckme . . ., " or "bite my neck" or something. Not related to anything going on, specific people, or even to other things I'm thinking.

Weird. And I imagine guys have it much worse. Do you have this kind of thing going on?

That's interesting, Cloud. I don't get a voice in the back of my head so much as I get an entire scene, complete with the Yummy Feeling, that flashes in my brain. The scenes are always with men I have been with, usually the one I was with last or the one who rocked my world the hardest in the past few months. It can take my breath away because it's so visceral. It's nearly real.

What happens after you get that little voice going? How long does it last? Mine only goes on for a min. or two and that's because I've cultivated the feeling and encouraged the image.

Wow, laundry day must be really interesting at your house. I don't want to get personal, but it almost sounds like something associated with menopause, not that I am qualified to judge. We guys have enough trouble managing testosterone to take time to learn the ins and outs of estrogen.

I've had the occasional daydream, but I don't think it's ever resolved into an internal dialog. I can look at really hot women in brief summer clothes and find them attractive and desirable, but I've never had a voice in my head say.

"Wow, I'd like to grab those melons and ride her into the sunset".

But that's just me. 6 billion people, 6 billion stories in the naked planet.

And ladies, you're both invited to a BBQ at my house.

these thoughts just flit in and out. And gee, thanks Rich, but I've kind of always had these thoughts. :p They're not related to any specific, sexual daydreams or fantasies, 'tho got those too.

Ya know, Cloud, I've met women with very strong libidos (like me and you and ducks and sundae ;) and I know women with either "i don't care" or weak sex drives. I just think it's part of having a strong drive---we just think of it more due to hormone levels or something. If you enjoy it (and I enjoy the hell out of mine!) go with it! try to expand on it! I think it is a fun spot in the day, don't you? :)

Sorry if it's too personal, but didn't you say you were divorced? Who divorced who?

I can't imagine someone getting tired of an attractive, tattooed, nipple-pierced (just guessing), woman who's always thinking of sex. Unless you wore him out.:rolleyes:

BTW, the BBQ invitation still stands.

BBQ? ribs? thick meat patties drooling sauce . . . fluffy buns . . . dare I say it? (whispers) hot dogs? :drool:

so, you want personal? I divorced my drunk husband 20 years ago, and I'm so happy to be single. Can barely take care of myself, let alone any others. And yeah, I'm menopausal. Thank god. Want to make something of it? Huh? Huh? :boxers:

and no, I don't normally hear voices. What's that? Uh . . . excuse me.

I think I hear someone calling me . . .

:)

I don't get specific short sentences, but will get the occasional intrusive thought that's explicitly sexual. While I enjoy those, I don't place any more emphasis on them than any other intrusive thought.

It sometimes is related to whatever I am doing. I used to work at a large table surface that could be raised or lowered or tilted. I was often enough bending over it while standing. Definitely had some interesting random ideas that would take me by surprise...

Like Brianna, I've cultivated them. Why not?

Cultivate your garden! ;)

and decorate your own soul. I hear you. I was just curious . . . to see if I was weirder than I thought I was. Not sure that's possible. . . :)

I don't think you're weird, Cloud. Not in this respect anyway ;)

Well, if I were single, which I am not, then the bee king would have been happy to offer any pollination services.

my internal dialog is going like this:

He said he was 'alternate sexuality' I think that means he was gay or at the least a 'closet homosexual' who didn't have enough self knowlege to stop playing these 'role games' with women that went out in the 1940s.

I wonder if he was allowing his buddy to blow him? Was his buddy allowing him to poke him?

Are bi sexual men usually lousy in bed?

The playboy magazines didn't convince me he liked women any more than he liked his guitars.

Actually, I prefer to toast the buns on the grill. The extra time is worth it. I also prefer splitting the dogs to maximize the grilled surface. I usually don't do this a lot for guests because people aren't used to it.

BTW, you mentioned the drooling meat patties, buns, and hot dogs, but you forgot the chicken. It will probably be mostly drumsticks, but I may also have some golden crispy breasts and thighs.:yum: If you're into that kind of thing;).

Sorry about your ex. He sounds like a jerk. We've been married for almost 25 years. The woman has the patience of a saint.

grilled hotdogs, split open and on the grill? Make mine with ketchup and cheese, please!

see? am so weird!

I will often have a completely random attraction to a man I see in a public place that's the same as Bri describes - visceral and literally takes my breath away.

It doesn't even have to be a man that conforms to my idea of attractive (tall, broad men, preferably with a few pounds on them). It doesn't last long, but I do often get startlingly real images of them topless, or coming up behind me and sticking their tongue in my ear or suchlike. My heart speeds up, my skin flushes, I am overtly aware of my sex and often I feel the need to lean against a wall and fan myself like a herione in a Victorian novel.

This is sometimes triggered by the smell of a man if I am in close proximity. I used to take minutes at a meeting attended by a male social worker. Not my type at all - small, scrawny, terribly earnest and would probably rather bite his own tongue out than expect a woman to swallow after oral sex. But he had such a lovely clean smell to him - soap and fabric conditioner, and I spent meeting after meeting fixated on the idea of just licking his neck. I had to be careful what I wore to those meetings, because my nipples were like bullets.

Its smell that gets me too.

Mostly its the same scent (Cologne) that gets me hot n bothered, but sometimes it can just be a mans scent.

The scent triggers my mind and then the dialog starts up and explicit visual accompaniments

Ok, just out of curiosity, not that I would ever misuse this information, is there any one particular cologne that does this? I'd put up a Cellar poll but I only know about 2 names that are still on the market.

Joop gets me every time, and then Linx deodorant doesnt do too bad a job either.

Then there is just that manly smell, not BO, but a guy thats done a bit of work and just smells devine. I'm a mess at the gym....muscles, sweat, man smell....:drool:

health makes a difference in a person's natural smell. Clean living, i.e., well-hydrated and exercised, lots of natural foods as opposed to processed foods, and anyone will smell better.

Is Joop one of the mens colognes that has PigMate (TM) in it? That could be an urban myth, but I haven't checked Snopes.

The scent of a man can drive me crazy sometimes, too. Can't predict how or when, but it doesn't have to be a particular type of man. yeah, been there.

I love that.

Now I know I am an ice queen.

Not a cologne, but Old Spice deoderant. Hot day-um. I can smell that stuff from 15 feet away. I think my father might have worn it, but I'm afraid to ask.

My dad was an Old Spice dad!

For that very reason, your *Hot day-um* kinda wiggs me out ;)

Yes, Old Spice does it for me.

In fact, guilty secret here, when my significant other switched to a different brand of deodorant, I started using old spice myself.
But it's yummy!

I don't know if it is this way for every guy, but I think about sex and situations constantly. It is truly amazing I can get anything done at all. I have everything from passing thoughts to full out day dreams. I can't remember the last dream I had that did not involve sex. I may have a problem. Sometimes, when some of the women in the office stop by mine, I will have a really tough time paying attention because I am having some pretty strong images. Luckily, I don't think anyone things I am a complete pervert or I would have lost all respect here in the office. I am sure that this one particular lady is going to walk in wearing something one day that will cause me to say something completely off the wall...I better start saving up for my attorney's fees now.

I can similar scenes in my head, but since I am a gay male who has a partner they are often a little different than hetero ones.

So do someone a favor and have some random sex with the next guy/girl you see that makes you hot. Take advantage of it. It will not last forever.:D