I always try to hold out hope for folks, but I dunno...some aren't fixable or worth fixing.

"She want my pimp juice...oooooooooo!"

Oddly enough, a ex-girlfriend of mine is having some marital difficulties, and she deals with it by doing exactly the opposite. She doesn't do damn thing that he wants an dsimply doesn't worry about what he's doing. Oddly enough, they are living together more amicably.

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You two seem to have it together. Good for you. So many people forget the catharsis that shared laughter can bring. You're lucky. Not everyone can learn to see it that way.

Marrage is a simple equation 1+1=1
Meening One indivigual plus One indivigual = Marrage
It is give and take , you BOTH have to do both .
My wife or I will come up with an idea , we will discuss it rationaly ( and if we are to pissed off to speak rationaly the other partner has the power to say "lets disscuss this when you arn't so pissed off ") , each of us have veto powers over the other. It has worked for 15 years come march 24 :D :D

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Congratulations Zippy,
15 years is something to crow about for sure. Marriage isn't for the weak-hearted.

That's a good run, congrats.
I once told a girlfriend "we should talk about this when you're not emotional"
And she said " You think this is emotional, huh? YOU THINK THIS IS EMOTIONAL ?"
Well, you can guess the rest.
I wonder how she's doing.

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Novice,
You are very wise. Congratulations on chewing your leg off and getting out of that trap. Maybe you could look her up on the "Bipolar poster girls 2004 calendar" website.

How about 40 years? And we still laugh together. But argue too. The problem is each person gets set in his ways whether you're married or not.

One for 7 and one for 22. Wonder how long the next ex will last?:)

Too bad more people don't seem to think that way. I see, everyday, examples of people who are married thinking "me" "I" and "mine" instead of "we" "us" and "ours." They don't believe in give and take, only take. Your track record is admirable.

I once told a girlfriend "we should talk about this when you're not emotional"
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We're seldom not emotional. That's what makes us feminine. Ta da....... :eek: :eek:

It has been my observation and experience that most women want men to express our emotions, share our feelings, and tell them exactly what we are thinking...right up to the point when we say something that they don't want to hear. Then, we are undiplomatic, insensitive and rude. For their part, women tend to remain silent about a lot of the things that are going on in their heads, but that's okay - because if we truly cared, we men would know what they're thinking "without having to be told".

Most women would prefer to talk about a problem for six hours than solve it in five minutes. Nothing will piss off a woman faster than offering a possible solution to a problem that she has presented to you before she is ready to hear it.

Most women tend to be very understanding and forgiving when it comes to the more negative traits and tendencies most commonly seen in women (like the two mentioned above), but very unforgiving when it comes to the general tendencies - even the fairly benign ones - of men. Many women would seem to prefer that a man be simply a woman who happens to have a penis.

Where as you would prefer that a woman be simply a man who happens to have a vagina?

If everyone would accept the opposite sex is just that, opposite, we’d all be much happier.
He says, why can’t you be less emotional and more rational?
She says, why can’t you be less impatient and more sensitive?
I say, why can’t you accept your partner’s differences and not try to change them.
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