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Old 08-20-2015, 02:42 PM   #16
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Videos/DVDs of his favourite TV shows (my Dad loved Open All Hours)? You might find things of the right vintage on EBay/in charity shops for a steal?


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Old 08-20-2015, 03:18 PM   #17
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Thank you!
They Sky+ Dad's Army every week, have done or years, and Dad still laughs at the same things. But on your suggestion I looked around the internet and saw things like Dad's Army socks (he always needs socks) and a book I can get 2nd hand, so even if he never reads it won't cost more that £3 etc etc.

Exactly the sort of thing I wanted - meaningful, not immediately disposable (Mum would read the book) and/ or useful.
Knew you'd come through.

But all suggestions considered.
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Old 08-20-2015, 03:32 PM   #18
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I worked for a while in an old folks' home. There was one old dear who laughed at my jokes and also appreciated that I could tell her the same jokes the next day and she'd find them just as funny all over again! Whatever your dad loved will not pall (for him. Your mum may have a different opinion). CDs of music? Favourite comedians?


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Old 08-20-2015, 06:10 PM   #19
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Any "tat", your Mom can ditch before going home and he won't miss it.
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Old 08-24-2015, 09:03 PM   #20
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Here you go, a dad gift.
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Old 08-25-2015, 06:49 PM   #21
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Is he diabetic/off his food? If not, handmake some chocolates and just wrap them nicely, individually. Make things like you did when you were a kid. Get some pictures from when you were little and put them in frames from carboot sales.
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Old 08-25-2015, 10:15 PM   #22
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He is off his food, sadly.
He'll occasionally perk up and clear his plate, but Mum can't predict it, and she's with him 24/7.
Whenever I've been there, even the offer of a chocolate, or some really good cheese has been met with, "No, I'm okay." And that is sad, because the way to his heart used to be through his stomach...

I bought a little bell from the carboot sale - 50p.
Will drive Mum mad
That'll be the first thing that goes to the charity shop!!!
Although maybe I'll talk to her quietly and suggest she uses it instead. In their enormous flat, the sound will carry much better than a shout. She can ring it from the computer/ dining room and I bet he'll hear it in the living room (half a mile away). Then again, he'll probably pick up the phone or try to work the intercom...

Blew up this photo for Mum.
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Going to get a blank frame from somewhere like Hobbycraft and decorate it. Saw a lovely idea using only glue and egg cartons. Either that or wallpaper offcuts, sanded down to make a shabby chic look. Can you sand something down with a nail-file? I have more of those than I do nails...
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Old 08-25-2015, 10:27 PM   #23
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I think nail files would be too fine. Sandpaper is cheap.
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Old 08-25-2015, 10:31 PM   #24
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Okay. probably a poor attempt at budgeting then!
Save the nail files, buy sandpaper.

Although only if the egg-cup flowers don't work out.
Because I can get those free. I have glue here, and I'm almost certain I know where it is.
Almost.

Also, Mum might not get the shabby-chic/ distressed thing.
She might just think it's knackered.

Oh, sorry - meant to say - if Dads still wore ties that bowling tie would be spot on.
One of m favourite photos of him is one where he's a young man in horn-rimmed glasses, bowling for the work's team.
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Old 08-25-2015, 10:32 PM   #25
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Use the egg whites for glue.
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Old 08-25-2015, 10:39 PM   #26
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Nah, talked to a man on the market.
He's happy to let me have one of the big trays he sells eggs in. Never underestimate the super-power of a good bra.
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Old 08-25-2015, 10:44 PM   #27
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Right on, Bra.
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Old 08-25-2015, 11:02 PM   #28
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Old 08-25-2015, 11:18 PM   #29
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Looks like they're bowling in the hallway of somebody's apartment building.
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Old 08-26-2015, 12:17 AM   #30
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Looking at it in light of that comment... yes it does!
Then again, many pubs had backrooms which they'd turn into "skittle alleys" to bring in extra money. It was darts in my barmaid days, pub quizzes now - although those were already in ascendancy back then.

The hardest thing is not talking to Mum about all this. I'm so happy and excited. But if I tell her what I've bought Dads I ruin the surprise. Partly because she'll guess that I'm doing the same for her, partly because she'll get as much of a kick out of Dad's prizes as he will.

I so wanted to tell her last night that I was working my way through The Only Way is Essex box-set. But couldn't. Because it's actually for her. What? It was second hand so it's not like I broke it open or anything. Oh, you mean why am I even watching it?
Shaddup. You're just well-jel. \/\/hatever...

Actually this was such a cool find, because she didn't get into it until I moved in, so she's never seen the first episodes. She watches it when she irons because Dad hates it. Gets him out of her hair. She has baskets of ironing to work through now; six series worth!.
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