The little things

We have all been told that we should stop and smell the roses. That sometimes we can't see the forest for the trees. In relationships especially, I think we sometimes only give credence to our overall feeling about our partners. Nonspecific feelings about how things are going are the basis of how we see our success or failures in that realm. The big problems and obivous strong points of our spouses demand their own attention, but I think that it is important to recognize the little things about them as well. These are the things that you may not even know you like or dislike about them. But they are what makes that relationship personal and unique.

So what do you like or dislike about your significant other?

I'll start with a little one about jinx:

Many nights, we'll hang out and watch a movie or something in our attic. She will invariably fall asleep, and when the movie ends, and it's time to go to bed, I'll say her name to wake her up. I could say it ten times with full volume, "Shelby!......... C'mon Shelb, time for bed!...... SHELB!" and even shake her a bit, but she won't wake up. But....if i whisper it...."[size=1]shelb[/size]!"... she jerks awake like she's been jolted. I think that's pretty cute.

What sort of movies do you have to watch in the attic?

I think it's cool that you both love each other so much and compliment each other's personalities.

blue wrote:

What sort of movies do you have to watch in the attic?

I always forget you're so naive. no, actually, it's a finished attic, and that's our 'adults only' area. nothing is safe in my house if the kids can reach it. especially dvds and electronic equipment and musical instruments. so after they go to bed, that's where we hang out. ...not to say we don't watch some.....well .....nevermind that. what little things about your <strike>master</strike> wife would you miss if she wasnt around anymore?

Be honest, Jim...you did NOT write this paragraph:

We have all been told that we should stop and smell the roses. That sometimes we can't see the forest for the trees. In relationships especially, I think we sometimes only give credence to our overall feeling about our partners. Nonspecific feelings about how things are going are the basis of how we see our success or failures in that realm. The big problems and obivous strong points of our spouses demand their own attention, but I think that it is important to recognize the little things about them as well. These are the things that you may not even know you like or dislike about them. But they are what makes that relationship personal and unique.

;)

April is always surprising me...from a Hello Kitty birthday cake to heads for my electric toothbrush ("You mentioned that you needed a new toothbrush head, so I bought you a pack of them."). Goddamn...she's amazing.

Wait...April?? What happend to Rho? Was I gone that long? You've actually had 2 girlfriends now?

LJ why don't you just lock the little monsters up there?

Mrs. Dar and I quote movie dialog to each other. The girls make gagging noises.


"It must be beautiful this time of year."

"All that snow."

sycamore wrote:

Be honest, Jim...you did NOT write this paragraph:

who do you think wrote it? I don't understand why you would doubt it's originality. it's not particularly well written or eloquent. it took me maybe 5 minutes to write it. are you just surprised that it doesn;t include the word 'cock'? or is it the lack of apostropholons?

blue wrote:

Wait...April?? What happend to Rho? Was I gone that long? You've actually had 2 girlfriends now?

I'll try to summarize my year in as few words as possible:

--Diagnosed with heart condition in January.
--Was on disability from March-June.
--Split up with Rhoda in March.
--Moved back to St. Louis in June.
--Started dating April in July...we've been friends since 1998.

There ya go. :)

lumberjim wrote:

who do you think wrote it? I don't understand why you would doubt it's originality. it's not particularly well written or eloquent. it took me maybe 5 minutes to write it. are you just surprised that it doesn;t include the word 'cock'? or is it the lack of apostropholons?

You used a big word ("credence") and the structure of the paragraph is too good...and it took you over one minute to write.

lumberjim wrote:

are you just surprised that it doesn;t include the word 'cock'?

Yes.

sycamore wrote:

You used a big word ("credence") and the structure of the paragraph is too good...and it took you over one minute to write.

'credence' isn't a big word unless your intellect is tiny.

lumberjim wrote:

'credence' isn't a big word unless your intellect is tiny.

Exactly...hence, it's a big word for you. ;)

your logic is dizzying

Let me spin around first...then it'll be dizzying.

:bawling: that's beautiful, man.

lumberjim wrote:

who do you think wrote it? I don't understand why you would doubt it's originality. it's not particularly well written or eloquent. it took me maybe 5 minutes to write it. are you just surprised that it doesn;t include the word 'cock'? or is it the lack of apostropholons?

Actually, Sycamore you may not realize it but a lot of the better car dealerships are making their finance managers take sensitivity training, so it could be the real Jim.

I like it when I catch my wife and my kids in one of those moments that can only happen between a mommy who loves her children and a child who loves his or her mommy.

At some point you begin to realize that you only get so many of those moments.

Had one of those moments the other day.

I come inside and SWMBO is wearing a pair of paisley courduroys. She asks me:

"Do I look OK in these or do they make me look like I am a camel's foot?"

Initially I have no idea what she is talking about. I look at the pants and search for a desert theme, or dust or sand. Then I notice that despite the pants being somewhat baggy on her, the cut of the fabric creates a little pucker of cloth around her crotch.

"Yes honey, they do make you look a little bit like a camel's foot." ( ;) )

"Shit, now I have to change."

Here you go...

footfootfoot wrote:

"Yes honey, they do make you look a little bit like a camel's foot." ( ;) )

"Shit, now I have to change."

So the "Yeah but it's damn sexy, so let's go upstairs and *** like bunnies" was out of the question? Great sex and an opportunity to score husband points.

richlevy wrote:

So the "Yeah but it's damn sexy, so let's go upstairs and *** like bunnies" was out of the question? Great sex and an opportunity to score husband points.

hahaha, only in the movies!
she was running around, late for class, elfin bedwe'er was circling her chanting: "I nurse, I nurse, I nurse" and I was knee deep in mud.

The only way I can score husband points these days is by going into hyper chore mode (on top of fulfilling all the line items on my "honeydo" list) and chilling with the bedwe'er so she can get her work done. :sniff:

I nurse???

Please do not let Bedwe'er be one of those children you see on Maury ... "In the next segment we'll have the attorney for some second graders who are demanding that their mothers' be allowed into the classroom to nurse them. We'll also hear from the school superintendant who is being sued for discrimination because he described this natural process as 'intolerable and reprehensible.' We'll also hear a very young and attractive social worker's take on the increasingly popular practice of 'late nursing.' Make sure you're back after the break!"

Inch3 is only like 2 years old, right? Why wouldn't he be nursing and speaking in 2 word sentences???

I can think of 3 right now:
He sings stupid made up songs under his breath, putzing around when he thinks no one can hear. It kills me, its so cute. He also convincingly channels a goofy, wide-eyed 12 year old during major hockey events. And, he wont let me touch his feet, so of course I must try.

That's what I thought at first, but just wanted to be sure...No opinion on it, just looking for clarification. I wished I could have nursed a lot longer than the 6 mo. I did, but such is life...Back to your regularly scheduled topic.

I ditto the moments caught when father and daughter are doing what they do, and not aware you are watching them. I always thought he's make a great father, but he's even better than I imagined.

jinx wrote:

Inch3 is only like 2 years old, right? Why wouldn't he be nursing and speaking in 2 word sentences???

Yes the inch3 will be two at the end of the month. Actually he says "I me nurse". He usually inserts "me" right before any verb that he will perform.

However, it is: "we go playroom, play trucks daddy?"

or:

"Where [are you] going daddy?"

but, "I me go stairs" or "I me [drink] more blueberry juice pease" pease is usually only trotted out when he wants to be especially charming. (I think this is a long, slow, buttering up for asking for the car keys)

And he has already started weaning Wolf; no Maury for us. (FWIW, SWMBO went to H.S. with Ricki Lake) He is beginning to accept the fact that mom's units need a rest and aren't producing anything like half and half mixed with honey or sucanat.


Another favorite question of his is

him: "How dooning, daddy?"
me: "I'm fine, how are you doing?"
him: "I pine too"

After a while he could say 'fine'. Later that week he was having a bath and pointed down at himself and said:
"That's my fenis"

I'm sure he'll sort it out sooner or later.

Warch, is he twelve or just channeling a twelve year old?

footfootfoot wrote:

Another favorite question of his is

him: "How dooning, daddy?"
me: "I'm fine, how are you doing?"
him: "I pine too"

After a while he could say 'fine'. Later that week he was having a bath and pointed down at himself and said:
"That's my fenis"

har!

my nephew says, "Hi, Jim-min. Whatch yer doonin'?"

What started as a cute kid quote, is now a standard greeting in our family: "watch'er doonin'?" which is sometimes substituted with a version in Hindi accent: 'Vhat you are doing?!'

This morning my husband was making up a song in the shower. He doesn't do it often (at least when I'm in earshot) and it made me smile.

Something that actually usually annoys me, but secretly I would miss if he quit doing it is in the morning when I get out of the shower and am drying off he always has to grab my butt, or squeeze a boob, (or more obnoxiously come from behind dry hump me) while make a comment about how he loves my big butt, or my breasts etc.
On one hand, when I'm running behind, it drives me nuts. Get out of my way and let me get dressed! On the other, After 12 years of being together (6 married) and a baby I am pretty lucky that my husband still thinks I am hot. I would definately miss him bugging me in the bathroom in the morning if he weren't around.

Yes! When he couldn't say "buddy" but said it as "bahdoo" that name kind of stuck, so now he is sometimes bahdoo. It is funny when he calls me by his own name.

me: Goodnight James.
him: Goodnight James.

maybe he is a re–incarnation of Gracie Allen.

Tonight I was playing "diving hand" game where he was playing trucks and I'd hold my arm straight up with my hand like a claw and make a buzzing sound as my hand slowly descended. He'd stop and look up and I'd freeze my hand and stop buzzing.

As it got closer to him he pointed at my hand in the air and said "Stop Daddy! Park it there!"

How'd he come up with "park it there"?