Online Dating

Being a thirty-something single woman who doesn't frequent bars, I've found it pretty tough to meet guys. A couple weeks ago I joined one of the many online dating services. I had a couple of pretty "blah" dates--one guy was a bit of a jerk, and with the other there was just no chemistry.

To make a long story short, the next guy I went out with turned out to be an absolute DREAM come true. He's super sweet, intelligent, funny and has a good stable job--not to mention the fact that he's VERY good-looking! We've been on three dates and we're both having a blast. We have tons of stuff in common, and we just talk and laugh constantly. My question is this--I've heard so many bad stories about online dating gone awry. Is it possible to meet Mr. or Ms. Right online? I tend to be very cautious about this stuff, but it just seems like I've hit the jackpot with this one. I'm old and wise enough to be skeptical, but I'm trying not to be too skeptical! Any advice, thoughts or success stories out there?

Go for it! Good luck!

Yes, it is possible to meet Mr./Ms. Right online...Lady Syc and I have been together for 5 years. Online dating--though you have to be more careful--is just like regular dating really. Have fun with this guy and see where things go.

:thumbsup:

Jacquelita and I met there... still goin' at it and gettin' better.

It has worked out well for me (us) - Of course, there's only 1 UT out there - so good luck :lovers:

Hmmmm,......it appears that the one UT isn't "out there" anymore. :haha:

Jacquelita wrote:

Of course, there's only 1 UT out there

And thank goodness for that too! :D

I say go for it, the stigma is well gone, this is the internet age. Go for it!

Dirty old man in south who post in Do-Dads along w/ oxB "Lonely please reply asap"
OOOPPPs forgot horney also. :-P

Online dating is as valid a way of meeting people as any, and better than the bar scene IMO. I tried it for a while before I met my current BF (we were introduced by mutual friends). I never got that serious about it, but I did meet a man who is a fellow writer and while we didn't click on the chemistry level, we have become good platonic friends for about 3 years now. One of my BF's friends met a woman from Canada online and they ended up getting married and seem very happy together. I'd say go for it, using the same caution that you would after 3 dates with anyone that you'd met some other way.

I once started a brief chat-liaison with someone I knew only as Mr London. We agreed to swap photos with a view to meeting but when I got his through I realised he had, lets say, embellished his appearance, and was more, lets say, Mr Michelin, aged 45 not 25, and then found out, instead of the beauty contest winning career his moniker had inferred, he had an incredibly boring sales job (I could never take someone in sales seriously who takes sales seriously). I thought if he could lie about that he could lie about other things.

Anyway, back to the point, I think if you have already met and get on with this guy there's no problem - it would be just as if you had met him in a bar. Have fun!

Catwoman wrote:

. . . but when I got his through I realised he had, lets say, embellished his appearance, and was more, lets say, Mr Michelin, aged 45 not 25, and then found out, instead of the beauty contest winning career his moniker had inferred, he had an incredibly boring sales job

So what had he told you he did? Perhaps you were hoping for someone in the glamorous IT management field? ;)

it would be just as if you had met him in a bar.

Oooo that safe! :luv:

Before you completely throw caution to the wind, have you met any friends/family/co-workers? Just a thought.

dar512 wrote:

Before you completely throw caution to the wind, have you met any friends/family/co-workers? Just a thought.

Yup. He took me to his office and I met some of his co-workers, and we also ran into some of his friends when we were out one night and we all hung out for a while. I also met his neighbor who he's pals with. No family yet, though, because they're all out of state. So far everything he says seems legit--he has a fairly high-profile job in the community and I was able to do a little "research" on him online. It all checks out so far. We went on date #4 last night, and had a great time! I'm still being cautious of course, but no complaints so far. Amazing! :p

are you sure it is really him though? i mean, what if you are dating the talented MR Ripley??? :eek:

garnet wrote:

Any advice, thoughts or success stories out there?

In most bars it seems like you can't swing a dead cat without hitting some asshole willing to lie to a woman to get her into bed. The only difference on the Internet is that it's easier to lie about appearance and age... but once you've met the guy you know whether he was honest(ish) about those things. If he's the kind of guy to lie about other personal details (job, hobbies, criminal history, etc), it doesn't make a difference whether you met him on the street or online.

Quite a while back I used to date online quite a bit, but after a few duds I abandoned the medium. A few months later, I got a reply to my latent online profile, from a girl who seemed like a spiffy number, so we went out on a date, which led to some more dates... long story short, we celebrated our first wedding anniversary last month.

So for me, it worked out well. For my wife, it was a disaster. :D