poll: group sex

i remember arguing with someone recently about the existence of real live orgies. i cant remember who, but i think they were aus......show yourself.....

so i am wondering.....am i just missing all the action, or does it not really happen...really.

this may not be the best demographic to survey, but since you are all so cooperative, and honest......;), ;) I'm gonna ask anyway.

When do we get to start guessing who choose what options? Obviously Tomas hasn't seen this one yet, or we could chalk up at least one "yes, I frequently attend orgies".

I know this is "every guy's fantasy" but honestly, I don't know if I would be up for the task, and if so whether I would even enjoy it over the voice in my head screaming "What the FUCK! You're in a threesome! What do you do now genius? Which one do you fuck? Come on, this isn't Penthouse! This is a dream and it's about to become a logistical nightmare! You really fucked yourself this time buddy."

"How do you know you're not ready to date, Perth?"

Because I spend my time thinking up shit like that.

I chose option 1. LJ, why did you make this one multiple choice? Technically you could choose more than one without conflicting, but each level up pretty much guarantees you've been involved in the lesser options.

am i just missing all the action

yes

Perth, that's assuming you were lucky enough to get into a threesome with two women. What if it were a question of sharing the one woman (who, for the sake of argument, let's say specifically was into the threesome experience and wouldn't want either of you individually) while studiously avoiding the other guy, eh?

Originally posted by Clodfobble
while studiously avoiding the other guy, eh?

You mean ignoring? :)

Mannnn this is one of those threads I WANT to post on, but my better judgement says..

Dagney, don't do that!

Someone needs to gag my judgement *WEG*

when i was 16, my best friend and i used to have sex on the same bed with our boyfriends all the time, but her and i never messed around, nor did we share boyfriends (although her man DID feel me up and called me the next day to tell me about it, but she didn't believe me...)

and this is sad...:when i was 15 i was a little slut. don't know why, i was just stupid and easy. (i'm not like that anymore :)) so anyway, i was hanging out with this guy and i drank 2- 40 ouces and i smoked a BUNCH of weed and ended up sleeping with two guys at the same time.
i felt like a slut the next day. somehow word got out around school and i developed a bad reputation-with the girls (i guess a good one with the guys, because they all seemed to like me...)
at some point i figured out that when you let a guy bang you right away, they have no respect for you and don't want to see you again. it seems so simple and common sense to me now, but back then i didn't get it.

I went to a conservative boys catholic school, but I am straight and I have no sisters who might have helped make introductions. I almost didn't even have a conversation with a girl in my teenage years, I didn't kiss anyone or loose my virginity until I was 21, both things happened on the same day.

I often listen to peoples tales of teenage sexploits with much regret, and find it ironic that most people tell them regretfully!

Reminds me of an add (an add for what I can't remember) that used to be on UK tv, the camera zooms in on an old guy in a wheelchair and a caption introduces him as a former poet laurate or nobel prize winner and then the voice of a narrator asks him if he has any regrets from his long life and the old guy replies "yes I wish I had more sex"

Ah well no more sex for me now I guess, I'm married :rolleyes:

"What the FUCK! You're in a threesome! What do you do now genius? Which one do you fuck? Come on, this isn't Penthouse! This is a dream and it's about to become a logistical nightmare! You really fucked yourself this time buddy."

lol. I have nearly had a threesome with two guys (everything but) and they seemed to love it (we didn't carry on because my best mate came in - ah the exhilaration of trying to 'clear up' in about 3 seconds before she walked in the door). It made me think though, how does the guy feel about the other guy? I didn't feel uncomfortable, because I was in control, but I imagine there must be status issues going on with the guys, and with a guy and two girls, he must feel under enormous pressure to be a sex god and satisfy them both. Would this pressure undermine the whole experience? For those who have had group sex, was it as good as the fantasy? Maybe there are some fantasies that should stay that way?

Where's Frank when we need him?

"I'd like to have sex with two women at the same time, so that when I'm done they'll have someone to talk to." (from memory, it's in the cookie file somewhere)

It's far easier, I believe, to get involved with things like that when you're younger - not only because you're more likely to have the physical attractiveness factor working for you, but I remember just being far less concerned about everything in general when I was that age (early 20s). I think somebody who is younger is less likely to worry about the possible consequences or implications of group sex, and just do it because it sounds like fun.

On the other hand, with life experience often comes a better sense of proportion and perspective, and some people no doubt begin shedding their sexual hangups as they get older and want to experience something like that before it's too late. Really, everybody's different, I guess...some people 'loosen up' as they get older, and others go the other way.

My one-time threesome happened five or six years ago, when I was in my mid-40s, and involved me with a couple. I guess like most real-life experiences, it didn't exactly live up to the fantasy in all aspects, but it was fun.

It really is one of those stereotypes that spring from truth, I think, that men - not every man, obviously, but men generally - tend to take sex far less 'seriously' than most women do. While I'm sure that there are women who are every bit as sexually uninhibited as any man, right here on this board (and by all means, contact me if you're ever in the Phoenix area :cool: ), I don't think that's the norm. I remember hitting puberty at 12 or so, and wondering why people didn't just go around having sex all the time; I guess I've learned and matured somewhat in the intervening 38 years...oh, bullshit, no I haven't...who am I kidding?

heh..

well.. uh.. suffice to say that in Kansas sometimes there isn't much to do besides get drunk and have deviant sex.. atleast when I was younger.. there was (and to the best of my knowledge still is.. although it's been a while since I've seen/talked to any of these people) a group of people who work in the downtown area who routinely engage in 'sex parties' whereas I discounted this for a while.. until one night after drinking too much and flirting with apparently one of them.. I was invited to said party.. and against my better judgement (it's hard to say NO to a beautiful woman who is..well....touching you in all the right places.. so off I went.. and well... it was interesting to say the least.. there were alot of people.. and lots of 'party favours' and then well.. suffice to say the next day I didn't feel the way I expected to... no 'wow I stuck my &*^% in 5 different women last night.. how cool is that?' feeling.. more like I had compromised myself and my basic belief system or just kind of 'dirty' (honestly I'm glad I did it, I got to do what most men fantasize about.. but it wasn't really satisfying).. heh.. maybe I am a lesbian trapped in a mans body.. NO NO don't get me wrong on that.. I like having a penis and I like being male.. I just tend to think I'm too emotional on some things.. maybe I ought not have said this.. oh well

Hmm...I picked the first option.

Not much else I can say. Never had the opportunity. I can't say I have strong feelings about it either way.

I do wonder, however, what a guy *does* with 2 women. Maybe the women are expected to *do* with each other, while the guy sort of half-assed participates...

I guess i could understand an orgy a little better, because there is at least a chance for equal representation between genders. For some reason that seems more fair with regard to the emotional aspect of it. I dunno, though.

Anyway, this is a hilarious thread. I hope it gets more responses.

Originally posted by perth


I know this is "every guy's fantasy" but honestly, I don't know if I would be up for the task, and if so whether I would even enjoy it over the voice in my head screaming "What the FUCK! You're in a threesome! What do you do now genius? Which one do you fuck? Come on, this isn't Penthouse! This is a dream and it's about to become a logistical nightmare! You really fucked yourself this time buddy."

not a bad problem to have, imo. there are always toys. logistically, a girl,girl, boy threesome would work best if the girls were " friendly" with each other......a boy, boy, girl would be interesting too as long as you could trust the other guy not to try anything untoward. I agree with case....a 4some or more would be more fun and probably last a lot longer, too.

Originally posted by vsp
Where's Frank when we need him?

"I'd like to have sex with two women at the same time, so that when I'm done they'll have someone to talk to." (from memory, it's in the cookie file somewhere)

Oh yesss I remember that quote.. an all time Cellar Classic[size=1](tm)[/size]!

Originally posted by case
Maybe the women are expected to *do* with each other, while the guy sort of half-assed participates...

You say that like there's something wrong with the voyeurism....

Originally posted by SteveDallas

You say that like there's something wrong with the voyeurism....

Nothing wrong with it...I just think the guy has to do a little bit of work if he gets 2 women together. You know, be a little grateful for the honor. :)

Originally posted by godwulf
It's far easier, I believe, to get involved with things like that when you're younger - not only because you're more likely to have the physical attractiveness factor working for you, but I remember just being far less concerned about everything in general when I was that age (early 20s). I think somebody who is younger is less likely to worry about the possible consequences or implications of group sex, and just do it because it sounds like fun.

On the other hand, with life experience often comes a better sense of proportion and perspective, and some people no doubt begin shedding their sexual hangups as they get older and want to experience something like that before it's too late. Really, everybody's different, I guess...some people 'loosen up' as they get older, and others go the other way.

My one-time threesome happened five or six years ago, when I was in my mid-40s, and involved me with a couple. I guess like most real-life experiences, it didn't exactly live up to the fantasy in all aspects, but it was fun.

It really is one of those stereotypes that spring from truth, I think, that men - not every man, obviously, but men generally - tend to take sex far less 'seriously' than most women do. While I'm sure that there are women who are every bit as sexually uninhibited as any man, right here on this board (and by all means, contact me if you're ever in the Phoenix area :cool: ), I don't think that's the norm. I remember hitting puberty at 12 or so, and wondering why people didn't just go around having sex all the time; I guess I've learned and matured somewhat in the intervening 38 years...oh, bullshit, no I haven't...who am I kidding?

I found that both were true.......I had my first threesome in my 20's, both way's....me and a buddy double teamed his girlfriend once and while in college a chick I dated, we were screwing in her room in her sorority house....her roommate came in and just stripped and joined us.

As I got into my 30's I hooked back up with a girl I dated in high school, we lost touch after she went into the navy and I went to college. Well I guess in the Navy she got a taste of female 'love' and was BI for a while.

We've been dating again for about 5 years and while her BI tendancies have gone down some, we have had some GREAT threesomes.....I would say about a dozen in the past three years..

And although NOT swingers we have attended a few parties and joined in some group stuff......I wouldn't say it was a full blown orgy, if you didn't want to participate, you didn't, so not everyone was fucking, but at any given time, there were at least three couples doing something......close to an orgy I guess....

It's all cool though, you only go around once, why not!!! :doit:


Later!:rattat:

What is you favorite sexual position???

Guys: Do you like going down on your women?? Would you rather have sex or a BJ???

Women: Do you like giving a BJ, or is is something you tolorate?? What do women think about Anal sex???


Just curious.....Had my fiance and a good friend of here's get into the whole 'dirty girl' talk over the weekend......who give's a BJ, why women do it but don't like it......how some women like it from behind and some hate it......just figured I would ask for my own knowledge...

:doit:



Later :rattat:

When I was 19 I was boy-scout chief and we went to an international scout-camp in France. In the evening after the boys and girls are gone to sleep, normally chiefs come together to discuss problems and life and normally have one or two glasses (or more). Well I was asked if I wanted to join in an "orgy". But I didn't because my sister has been asked too (she didn't either) and actually I was afraid of what could happen...

Originally posted by lumberjim
not a bad problem to have, imo. there are always toys. logistically, a girl,girl, boy threesome would work best if the girls were " friendly" with each other......a boy, boy, girl would be interesting too as long as you could trust the other guy not to try anything untoward. I agree with case....a 4some or more would be more fun and probably last a lot longer, too.

I think a foursome wherein all parties were bi - or at least bi-curious, as the personal ads say - would be the most fun. A lot of straight, bi, and even lesbian women are fascinated and/or turned on by seeing two guys doing...whatever...probably not to the extent that men like watching women together, but it's nevertheless true, women in all three above-mentioned categories have told me.

I'm curious whether anyone else has had the experience of having a long-time spouse or partner with whom fantasies of threesomes and perhaps even group sex were discussed, especially during sex, but have actually done nothing remotely like that in the real world...in other words, it's all stimulating talk, but nothing else. And if so, how you would feel if they made a serious suggestion that the two of you make your fantasies come true.

Originally posted by godwulf

I guess I've learned and matured somewhat in the intervening 38 years...oh, bullshit, no I haven't...who am I kidding?

But you see, you have matured enough to realize you haven't outgrown fun.;)

Two guys and a girl, works, because girls have so many interesting places to concentrate on at any given moment.

One night I had a wonderful time with 5 beautiful women. Wish they could have been there to enjoy it.:haha:

dated a girl who was bi and she was very close with her 2 roommates. I'm glad it happened because I can say been there done that. But physically, it is just a little too much pressure. Trying to stay in the game while watching the one you are working on have a little fun on her own... Well, adrenaline rushing stress might be a good way to say it.

Originally posted by phillybilly
What is you favorite sexual position???
Women: Do you like giving a BJ, or is is something you tolorate?? What do women think about Anal sex???

[COLOR=indigo]Favorite position: doggy style, rough and hard.

And I really really like giving head. Like...alot.

No anal. No exceptions. [/COLOR]

just wanted to see if i can upload this.. heh.. been on my mind

Originally posted by phillybilly
Women: Do you like giving a BJ, or is is something you tolorate?? What do women think about Anal sex???

BJ's:
I love giving them. The power, the pleasure (providing it's nice and clean), the feel of it in your mouth, feeling it get harder and harder, mmm I love it, especially when they can't take it any more and pin you down and fuck you afterwards.

Anal:
I used to like it a lot more than I do now. It can't be too big, if you know what I mean, or it just aint happening, too painful. But if it's average size it can be quite nice, very dirty, I went out with a guy for about a month and he was obsessive about anal, that's pretty much all we did, and I loved it, probably because it turned him on so much.

Fav position:
Any, seriously, but if I had to choose, it would be me on top, facing away from the guy, and then I can either squat and go for it or lower myself back so he can reach and touch me and watch at the same time.


PS. What a brilliant thread! Lets keep it going!

I predict that before too long, <b>Catwoman</b>'s post will have spread far and wide beyond the cozy confines of the Cellar.

Hmmm....favourite position?.....Doggy....Blowjobs? Dont like giving blowjobs but always feel good afterwards like I did something for my man! So kind of like and dislike really. Anal? nope never tried. I imagine it would be waaay too painful. Its the sort of thing that sits well in my fantasies but which I dont intend to actually try:P That of course is the beauty of fantasy sex *smiles*you get to try stuff out in your head.

Sex is one of those things I always had a few minor problems with reallly. I am one of those many women for whom it is often inexplicably painful. Consequently I grew to be a little conservative over the years in terms of what I will/would try. When I was a strip of a girl (18) I was yet to discover/selfimpose those limitations and would probably have tried anal had the opportunity arisen then;p

Originally posted by Catwoman


BJ's:
I love giving them. The power, the pleasure (providing it's nice and clean), the feel of it in your mouth, feeling it get harder and harder, mmm I love it, especially when they can't take it any more and pin you down and fuck you afterwards.

Anal:
I used to like it a lot more than I do now. It can't be too big, if you know what I mean, or it just aint happening, too painful. But if it's average size it can be quite nice, very dirty, I went out with a guy for about a month and he was obsessive about anal, that's pretty much all we did, and I loved it, probably because it turned him on so much.

Fav position:
Any, seriously, but if I had to choose, it would be me on top, facing away from the guy, and then I can either squat and go for it or lower myself back so he can reach and touch me and watch at the same time.


PS. What a brilliant thread! Lets keep it going!

Funny thing about a BJ, most guys never think about having the captian clean...My wife always seems to give it a little lookover before she starts, now I understand why....TRUE STORY!! About a year ago a friend of mine got married, so of course we threw a VERY crude bachelor party, the stage 'talent' didn't care what got stuck were......No sex from us mind you, but they had plenty of 'toys' on hand to give us a show.......

WELL we were WASTED!! My buddies house is only a few minutes away from the scene of the cirme and he is ALL charged up from the show....(I was so drunk I couldn't have gotten it up if money was involved )
:eek:

So he calls one of his booty call chicks, a girl he hadn't seen in about three months, well she come over and as I drift in and out of a drunken haze I hear her yell....'GOD when is the last time you washed that thing'!!!!!! you ain't putting that in any part of me, condom or not!!!! I was ROLLING!!!!

I guess even at our age (when we should know these things) you gotta make sure to wash the captain behind the ears.....that was TOO funny.....

As to anal, my wife says the same thing, she enjoys it greatly (we do it MAYBE twice a month or so..) but she always said, any bigger and NO WAY, sometimes average is good :thumb:


As far as positions......We have just gotten into her on top facing away from me, besides doggie, which she loves for the pounding I can give, she loves the new position, because she can just ram herself up and down on me (and of course the other little area I can tease, although we haven;t tried anal that way YET)and she says she can control when she has an orgasm better that way, some hand action I think :p

So hey, cool, perverted thread.....love it


Later :doit:

Originally posted by phillybilly


So hey, cool, perverted thread.....love it


Later :doit:

I figured you would like it, given what I recently discovered about you, phillybilly......or is it John Lookbill?

although that may have been the badge of my former profession!:thumb:


Like I say, or now I'm saying, thier is a little pervert in all of us....which is what makes the world go around....


My Wife says guys talk about three things when together, War-Sports & Meat.....I told her meat should be replaced by Porn!


Later :rattat:

A good friend of mine went to Bryn Mawr College, which she described as hedonism central; three-or-mores were common, with or without men involved.

The closest I ever came to a full-on threesome involved two Bryn Mawr-ites; a dull evening ended up turning into a three-way makeout session, with the ladies experimenting a bit, and I was used as a visual aid (so to speak) by the more experienced of the two, instructing the novice in how best to perform a certain act. The novice's enthusiasm helped make up for her lack of prior practice. Had the one's parents not been downstairs, it might've progressed further than that, but it didn't.

Steve-O of the Jackass crew had a great rationale for threesomes when he was on Stern recently with Pontius. "You know how when you get a girl, the first thing you do afterwards is call a bud? If he's there and you're sharing her, it saves a phone call."

So to conclude, either there is a lot of exaggeration going on or this group sex thing is happening quite often for people..

.... but not me :confused:

Reminds me of what happened to me when I went on a French exchange at age 16 (I should send this in to geek stories ) soon after I arrived my exchange partner was explaining to me in a mix of French and English how he "made love" to his girlfriend..I argued with him for 20 minutes that he was making a mistake in his English, he should have said "kissed" as he was only 16 and couldn't possibly be making love yet..finally it dawned on me that he did in fact make love to his girlfriend and that she was hot...I felt small :(

They must have though I was such a nerd and this was before they caught me pissing in the bidet

To quote Chef from South Park, "There's a time and a place for that sort of thing, and it's called college."

Originally posted by Yelof
So to conclude, either there is a lot of exaggeration going on or this group sex thing is happening quite often for people..

Or maybe those that have no stories to tell are not posting...

Could be that some of us just don't grope and tell.

Best non porn movie about threesomes is "Threesome"....

Originally posted by glatt


Or maybe those that have no stories to tell are not posting...

we could always make some up! ;)

I love being a deviant.

I'm part of a triad. (often participate in group sex)

(though unfortunately, it's not the most stable relationship I've ever been in :( )

This one time, at Band Camp...

though unfortunately, it's not the most stable relationship I've ever been in

...you don't say...

at band camp..

don't stop!

continue please, make it one with you and 3 chicks, please :D

It's been a while since I saw American Pie, and I didn't see the sequels... that's all I can remember.

...you don't say...

I /do/ say. :p
Triads can work just fine - but like any relationship, all parties have to actually put some effort into making it work. This case, it ain't happening.

Originally posted by elf


I /do/ say. :p
Triads can work just fine - but like any relationship, all parties have to actually put some effort into making it work. This case, it ain't happening.

Um, please excuse my ignorance, but what, by definition, is a triad?

a three way relationship. roseanne was in one for a time....and i think Nina Hartley is in a permanent one.....although she's a porn star

elf,

in your triad, is it 2 girls or guys? I imagine it would be more contentious with 2 guys......thoughts?

Case - In my definition a triad is a steady relationship between three people rather than the standard couple. . . in my case, it's two females and one male. (my husband and our 'girlfriend')

The thing about triads is the fact that usually it starts as a couple and then a third person joins in. I've been married for eleven years, but we've only had our girlfriend around for about a year and a half. So there's balance issues that aren't found in 'standard' relationships. I don't know a lot of people in this sort of situation, so I don't know if male/male/female relationships are very different, but I've really found that a triad works pretty much the same as any relationship, only with more variables.

. . all in all, it's interesting and can be a helluva ride.

do you guys normally all have sex at the same time, or is there turn taking?

do you all sleep in the same bed at night?

Elf, does this woman live with you? If so, have your menstrual cycles synchronized?

Originally posted by Nothing But Net
I predict that before too long, <b>Catwoman</b>'s post will have spread far and wide beyond the cozy confines of the Cellar.

Yeah, what about OnyxCougar's?? It wasn't bad either :blush:

Anyways, the way this thread is going, forget the whale penis... we can start vying for Google positioning (pardon the pun) for "doggy style"!

From a guy's (at least this guy's) perspective, doggy-style intercourse is definitely better in every way - the visual, the way your hands are left free to touch, caress and squeeze, and especially the intensity and duration of the orgasm. It also puts the woman in a good position to touch herself at the same time that you're inside her, if she wants to. I've told my wife that the only way it could get better for me is if she were going down on another woman while we were doing it that way, and she agrees.

I really love going down on a woman - the only drawback to doing too much of it before intercourse is that sometimes things get too wet as a result and friction (and pleasure) are reduced a bit.

I understand that I'm probably in the minority of men here in that I'm to some extent openly bisexual, so I don't expect all the other guys to identify with this, but...being the 'active' partner in oral sex is virtually the only thing I have ever wanted to do with another guy. Anal sex, whether as 'top' or 'bottom' has zero appeal for me...I'm just very turned on by the idea of going down on another man. According to those (like the writer John Rechy) in a position to know, this is what most 'straight' customers of male prostitutes want to do, as well. The act has a certain fascination for a lot of men who (like myself) are otherwise only attracted to women.

Wow godwulf very informative! I love doggy too because you can get sooo deep... is it really true that you get a better orgasm from it? Most guys love it, now I know why!

Guys seem to love it when I get really wet after going down on me, but I've always been told I'm seriously tight so maybe the wetness just helps things out a bit..!

I am curious about two guys together, it is kind of a turn on, and I love watching a man play with himself, you can see how he does it, what he likes, and its so dirty if he shoots all over you afterwards.

Elf - sounds fascinating - do you ever get jealous? Do you think your relationship would be as satisfying without the 'girlfriend'? I have never properly slept with another woman, what's it like?

Geez man who let all the pervs in? ;-)

Fascinating threads but way TMI. And it could use a few pictures for perspective.

Too sexy for this handle eh blue?

Originally posted by glatt


Or maybe those that have no stories to tell are not posting...

Well, we could look at the poll. We no nay nevers are way ahead.

LOL, yeah...have you seen my picture? I'm godlike. ;-)

No I haven't, where can I find it?You can see my pic on the mobile phone mast thread.



*Ha ha - and you were so turned on before that, I had to go and spoil it

Originally posted by Griff
Well, we could look at the poll. We no nay nevers are way ahead.

Not exactly... ahead of any one particular category, yes. But as I type this the "never" category has exactly 50% of the vote (it was less yesterday) as compared to all the various individual permutations.

Originally posted by Catwoman
Wow godwulf very informative! I love doggy too because you can get sooo deep... is it really true that you get a better orgasm from it? Most guys love it, now I know why!

I think it must feel so much better that way because you don't have the physical distraction of trying to prop or hold yourself up in any way, and also (and this may be a bit selfish) you're pretty much in total control of the rhythm and speed, so you can adjust those things to make it feel better for you, especially at the very end.

Originally posted by Catwoman
Wow godwulf very informative! I love doggy too because you can get sooo deep... is it really true that you get a better orgasm from it? Most guys love it, now I know why!

Guys seem to love it when I get really wet after going down on me, but I've always been told I'm seriously tight so maybe the wetness just helps things out a bit..!

I am curious about two guys together, it is kind of a turn on, and I love watching a man play with himself, you can see how he does it, what he likes, and its so dirty if he shoots all over you afterwards.

Elf - sounds fascinating - do you ever get jealous? Do you think your relationship would be as satisfying without the 'girlfriend'? I have never properly slept with another woman, what's it like?

My wife say's two of the same things you do....

How much deeper I can get when I'm behind her......she just goes nuts when we do it that way, which is often......also the best when she's in the mood for some backdoor action.....like I said before, we do that maybe twice a month.

She also LOVES when I go down on her!! She get's absolutely soaked, especially when she guides me, you know tells me how she would like me to do it, info ALL guys need.....

She does have one 'friend' she still sees (well WE see) maybe every two months and old friend of her's comes over and we either get loaded up leagally :drunk:
OR
Sometimes not so leagally:joint:

And we have some good perverted fun....the best is me on my back, my wife sitting on the captain and her friend on my face....IT'S GREAT!!!

My wife also likes (as you also said) to watch me jerkoff, not to finish, but as a part of foreplay...I LOVE watching a women masturbate, so I guess it goes hand-in-hand.
My wife was out of work about six months ago, her conpmay down sized and with her spare time she would make me some nice video's of her alone with her magic box of toys and one even had our neighbor in it, which shocked me because our neighbor seemed so straight laced...well straight.....I was out of town for a conference and the neighbors husband was out of town, he drives a truck......so they got loaded and made me a nice movie :thumb:

She says that being with a women, although I certainly do please her (I HOPE :eek: ) being with a women is so different, because women are softer, tend to take more time then us guys do and so on.......so I guess that is why she still likes it.....cool with me..


Later :rattat:

G'morning, folks. :)

The three of us live and sleep and have sex together - and she's on the Depo thingy, so we're not synchronized.

I'd realized a long time ago that I have a bit of a quirk, you might say. . . I don't feel jealous about him having sex with another woman. At All. We'd gone through a phase of experimentation, and I'd had a liason (he does feel jealous when I'm with another man - but not unbearably so), and another time when he had gone off to play with a girlfriend. I mulled it over in my head for awhile, wondering why I didn't feel jealous. I knew the girl he was going with, and like her very much - but she's pretty much straight. It took me a little while to grasp the fact that no, I truly was not jealous - and that while it probably isn't 'normal', it's OK.

In typing that out, I do still feel a little odd about it. The little green monster is in hiding, no matter how I poke and prod him.


Catwoman - I wish I were more eloquent, I could tell you what it's like, but I'm not. . . I think to sum up, I could tell you that two woman vs. hetero sex is a lot more balanced - turn-taking and (in my experience) a lot more giving than receiving on both parts.

phillybilly: My wife also likes (as you also said) to watch me jerkoff, not to finish, but as a part of foreplay...I LOVE watching a women masturbate, so I guess it goes hand-in-hand.

I love that too. If I say 'you're not allowed to touch me, just watch' while I play with myself, it drives him wild, and I get to do exactly what I want, which is such a turn on.

I'd agree, women are softer, I have kissed a few women and got kinda close with another, and it was very gentle, yes - soft is probably the right word, but never got to see how good it could be.

Elf how do you manage not getting jealous? I am quite a jealous person when in a relationship, I wish I wasn't, do you have any tips?

In regard to my wife being with others,

I don't feel jealous when my wife is with another women, since it happens either with my knowledge or I am present.

She has not been with another guy, but she HAS been talking about maybe a threesome that way, she saw a few 'special' movies I have :p that feature a few DP sessions. She has expressed interest in MAYBE that, but were not sure yet....Not sure how jealous I would get if she's with another guy, although she's cool with me beign with a women, as long as she's there.

She loves to play with herself while I'm having my debasing fun with another chick. She also likes me to spank it while they go down on each other. Guys, your chick, other hot chick, 69...better get ready to clean the ceiling!!!


Later:rattat:

Catwoman -

I'm pretty sure it's just my nature - I get jealous about time more than anything else. If work keeps the hubby away, I get all grumpy and belligerent and snippety. If I could change that, I would in a heartbeat. But there's no helping it at all.



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[COLOR=indigo]I have done the threesome thing quite a few times, but it was all girl girl guy. I found out that if I had an emotional attachment to the male, I got all jealous, but if I had an attachment to the female, there were no problems in the jealousy department. I still don't understand WHY that is. In my monogamous (sp) relationships with women, I was never jealous if a male made advances, but went crazy when she gave attention to another female. *shrugs* [/COLOR]

Originally posted by phillybilly
What is you favorite sexual position???

Guys: Do you like going down on your women?? Would you rather have sex or a BJ???

Women: Do you like giving a BJ, or is is something you tolorate?? What do women think about Anal sex???

LOL Good God this thread! :eek:

Welllll...let's just say that I won't turn down the opportunity to give some head. There's an element of power that's great for the ego..LOL! Anal...not happening. That's strictly an "exit" hole no entry allowed (unless it's a well gloved and lubed finger of a medical professional..which I had to have done once...highly uncomfortable. It was just a finger so no WAY is a penis getting up there!).

As far as the orgy thing goes (and threesomes, foursomes, etc.), that ain't happening either. I'm stingy, and I don't like sharing...seriously. I like having Syc allll to myself (smile honey!) :D

And Jim: All you have to do is watch "Real Sex" on HBO, and see that those things (and many other situations) happen, and more often than people think. ;) I love that show, because it shows real people in sexual situations, not perfect looking models with bodies they probably paid for. :mad:

Well, since we're all having such a nice sharing time... I never did try the group thing, although there was a moment when I am pretty confident I could have, if I'd just taken a not-so-subtle hint. Two girls... my girlfriend at the time, and her best friend.

I played dumb rather than acknowledging the thinly veiled offer, largely because I didn't want to add complexity to a relationship already tangled with strangeness (she was a thirty-something Russian girl whose English was not great, I was in my low twenties and spoke no Russian... yada yada yada), but also because, despite a healthy curiosity, group sex was never my cup of tea. I'm definitely a one-woman man, and anything else feels unnatural.

So, an opportunity came and went, but no regrets.

Originally posted by hot_pastrami
I'm definitely a one-woman man, and anything else feels unnatural.

Well, heck...you say that like unnatural is a bad thing!

generally if it feels un-natural, then it must feel good.....


You remember 'If you keep doing that you'll go blind'!!


We we did and we didn't (for the most part I guess:worried: )


So Threesome, not so sure i would call it un-natural, but different. And no, it isn't for everyone.....


Later :rattat:

:cool:

Originally posted by elf
G'morning, folks. :)

The three of us live and sleep and have sex together - and she's on the Depo thingy, so we're not synchronized.

I'd realized a long time ago that I have a bit of a quirk, you might say. . . I don't feel jealous about him having sex with another woman. At All. We'd gone through a phase of experimentation, and I'd had a liason (he does feel jealous when I'm with another man - but not unbearably so), and another time when he had gone off to play with a girlfriend. I mulled it over in my head for awhile, wondering why I didn't feel jealous. I knew the girl he was going with, and like her very much - but she's pretty much straight. It took me a little while to grasp the fact that no, I truly was not jealous - and that while it probably isn't 'normal', it's OK.

In typing that out, I do still feel a little odd about it. The little green monster is in hiding, no matter how I poke and prod him.


Catwoman - I wish I were more eloquent, I could tell you what it's like, but I'm not. . . I think to sum up, I could tell you that two woman vs. hetero sex is a lot more balanced - turn-taking and (in my experience) a lot more giving than receiving on both parts.

I am not in the least jealous when my wife want's indulge in some girl-girl love, usually I'm there so how could I be.....As far as other guys??

My wife has been hinting that maybe in the future she maybe want to incorporate another guy....but as she puts it 'I don't want to get stuck doing a lot of work'.......so I'm not sure how jealous I may be???:confused:

My wife say's almost the same thing you said about sex with another women, they know the exact place to touch and button to push, although during sex my wife does guide me to what feels good and what doesn't well feel at all.....so that is a BIG help.....just from her reactions I think I've given her some orgasms to rival her female partners :thumb:

gotta love a good three-way.....like I said if it feels un-natural, it must feel good then
:doit:


Later :rattat:

Elf,

how do you think the relationship that your husband and you have with this other woman must effect her? I mean, you and your husband are MARRRIED, a lifelong loving commitment. Whereas she is just some chick that you have moved in with for a while.. does she feel jelous of your marraige at all? how long do you expect this all to last?

when you and your husband go out for a romantic date, or to visit the relatives... does she tag a long too?

Its a very intreguing situation that you have there!

I was apprehensive at first for just that reason. . . the hubby and I have been together for more than a decade, we've got all those set patterns and understanding of each other's motivations and suchnot, and perhaps that's adding to the fact that this whole thing isn't working out. She's not jealous of the marriage, and as far as I know, she's perfectly content just being with us. But I know that whatever happens, he and I will still be us, and if we go our seperate ways, she'll be the one 'out' so to speak. She'd been in a similar situation in the past and feels comfortable in finding a niche within our family circle. . .

I don't know if I could put myself into that situation, I would probably feel off-kilter coming into an established relationship, but everyone's different.

As far as romantic evenings, it's always a trio.

We figured to let our families know that we've got a close friend living with us and keep all the 'sordid' details to ourselves. There's no need to stress the old folks, dontchyaknow. The only ones that know the reality of it are my mother and siblings, for the most part. The stickiness of the extended family thing is buffered by the distance - we'd moved out to CO from NY to be with her. 1800 miles sure does make it easy.

It's kind of sad, but I don't think that it's going to last all that much longer. We've become a tad in debt to her while my hubby was regaining his feet in the workplace after recovering from a heart condition (long story). . . I've kind of decided that once we get her back on solid ground financially, we're going to move on. That is, if things don't shift for the better.

We'll stay in CO, though. I kinda like it here.

Elf,

Wow, you must be a very self confident person to be able to live in such an environment and not become jelous, or feel insecure about it. Just being able to cope with the alternative living arrangements so well is a huge achievement to you as an individual person!

May i ask though, does your husband ever just spend time alone with you to make you feel special? or time alone with her, or do you and her?

I think this would be MY biggest concern in such an arrangement, i mean for me, the best times in a relationship are when you are alone, close and face to face intimate and relaxing with someone you love. Like sleeping in on a sunday and chatting and just staring at each other etc. I imagine it would be hard to do this if there are three in the bed.

I mean threesomes and all that extra fun stuff is all good but when it comes down to being in love, and having those 'couple' moments - how do you do it? and how do you cope when he is off giving her one of those moments, or vice versa?


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Confident? Sometimes. . . I'm more secure than anything else. I think that if anything ever did tear my marriage up, I would fall over and die purely from shock.

As for achievement, I don't really see it that way - S.O.C.K.S., as I like to say :D (which is phonetically spelled 'it is what it is' in Spanish).

There's times where there's 'couples' going on - say if I'm at work and their schedules have them home at the same time, or sometimes one pair of us or another will find the time to do lunch, that sort of thing. More often than not, there's at least two of us available to do something on a weekend or in the evenings. When all three of us aren't busy, we try to go and do something.

Three people lazing in bed on a sunday morning is just the same as two, only moreso - 'cept for the gazing-into-each-other's-eyes thing - you'd have to go cross-eyed!

All in all, it can be comfortable and secure - there's no need for 'coping' when the others are doing something - sometimes it's nice to have some alone-time. Of course, if any one of us were a jealous person by nature, it wouldn't work very well at all. He's got a little bit of an advantage, though, because he's the only male involved. To him, the relationship between she and I is completely different than his and mine. I would be happier if she and I could be closer, but somehow, it's not working right, and there's a limit to how much time she and I want to spend together... thus the feeling that it's not going to be a long-term thing.

[SIZE=1]Edit: S.O.C.K.S. is not a translation, it's a pronunciation! Eso si que es! {/dork}[/SIZE]

that is a pretty farking incredible situation. Not really sure what to think. Just...strange I guess.

I never really was one to let the norm keep me in line. . . I do what feels right, what seems right to me.

*shrug*

Maybe it's not the best way to be, but as for me and mine, we're happy with it.

Originally posted by elf
Triads can work just fine - but like any relationship, all parties have to actually put some effort into making it work.

I've never been happier than when the triad I was briefly involved in was healthy and happy.

That moment must have lasted...maybe a week, total? :/

We weren't all on the same page, we weren't equal, and we weren't honest with each other about expectations and roles and...you get the idea.

I was also much too insecure.

*sigh*

Originally posted by phillybilly
What is you favorite sexual position???

Women: Do you like giving a BJ, or is is something you tolorate?? What do women think about Anal sex???

Position:
I'm casting another vote for doggy style, for the reasons previously stated. :)

I think going down on a guy is a huge turn-on, and it's fun figuring out what exactly he enjoys...what will get the best response...even if it's as simple as making sure he has a good view of what's happening.

Anal sex: Unless he's really well-endowed, I think it's fun. I didn't like it much when I was younger, but later experiences showed me it could be a very good thing, indeed. Mostly, granted, because of my partner's reaction - I don't think I'd ever choose it over other, more traditional forms of sex....but I've found myself having a very good time during the act as well.

Originally posted by Elionwyr
I don't think I'd ever choose it over other, more traditional forms of sex....

Hey, wait a minute.. who said anal sex wasn't traditional?? :angel:

Originally posted by SteveDallas

Hey, wait a minute.. who said anal sex wasn't traditional?? :angel:

It says right here in the Old Testament!

"And lo, thee that shall allow the Rod of Manhood to penetrate thine ass shall be unclean in the eyes of God.

(Unless the Rod in question belongs to a priest. Then party on, my child.)"

I stand corrected--who am I to argue with such erudite hermeneutics? (I just hope that Rod of Manhood isn't related to the Rod of Correction.... :eek: )

More likely Rod Sirling.;)