What an idiot I was!

When I was 16 years old, I thought about the person I was at age 14; and the 16-year-old me thought, what an idiot I was back then.

16-year-old me knew everything 14-year-old me didn't understand. (But 16-year-old me didn't know what he didn't know. Which was tons.)

This has gone on my whole life. I'm 54 now, and I look back at me at 45 and I think, damn, wow, what a fuckup.

But I know, 45 looks at 35, and says, oh, the things you don't know. Oh, the pain you are due!

35 looks at 25, and says, wow, what made you think you were special? You were mentally ill.

Everybody, or just me?

Me Too. I'm still not as smart as I think I am.

I dunno. I few years ago I found my old college work in a trunk and I read a paper I wrote in college. I was smart then. Now I say things like "I dunno."

Life is a continual learning process for most people, just when you've pretty much got a handle on it the reaper knocks.
Maybe you can take that knowledge to the next life and be the wisest Dung Beetle on the heap.;)

I try very hard to not look back.

It's quite depressing.

That's actually a pretty healthy attitude. Mindfulness. Focus on being present in the now. The past doesn't exist, and neither does the future. We are always in the now.

♫ Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow
♪ Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here
♫ It’ll be better than before
♪ Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone

xoxoxoBruce;1015068 wrote:

♫ Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow
♪ Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here
♫ It’ll be better than before
♪ Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone

I could play this song all night. It gets asses on the dance floor, too.

glatt;1015067 wrote:

Mindfulness. Focus on being present in the now. The past doesn't exist, and neither does the future. We are always in the now.

Hard to practice, to "unlearn" the industrial-style culture we're immersed in. Activities that allow your mind to "zone out" are very restorative. YouTube has some great meditation videos-- 8 hours of ambient music set to a tie-dye type kaleidoscope. Great for "tuning out."

I think it's a good thing to look back and say, "what an idiot." It means you've improved, and should be proud. The real trick is extending forgiveness to the other 25, and 35, and 85-year-olds you meet everyday, knowing that they, too, will agree with you someday that they were being an idiot just then.

Me too, but I may just be getting dumber.

I used to could spell.

Now, I write/type out a word and look at it, and say to myself, "That doesn't look right."

Then, I look it up, and I was right.

The older I get, the less sure I am.

If I don't get enough sleep, I can no longer think of the words I want. Basic words, not SAT words. Anything less than 8-9 hours, and I become a moron.

Clodfobble;1015144 wrote:

If I don't get enough sleep, I can no longer think of the words I want. Basic words, not SAT words. Anything less than 8-9 hours, and I become a moron.

Same. I never get enough sleep due to stress, insomnia, hectic schedule, and I've been a ƒucking useless zombie for like 6 months.

In all honesty I've been deeply troubled that I can't seem to regain the level of executive function I had as recently as 2013-- a time when, notably, I was capable of maintaining functioning filters/rules/categories on my personal email account.

I think lack of regular cardiovascular exercise is another culprit.

I'm stupid now. I have occasional insights, spontaneously able to make a contribution to society in a way that is completely beyond my control.

I don't read anymore.

I have to turn this around soon, or I'm heading to early dementia.

One of my old business cards. I used to be able do ALL that stuff. Sorry to say, I'm no longer up to the task of castrating alligators.

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On top of that I used to be cute. Now, I merely look distinguished. Life is cruel.

Anyways, I just wanted to say that all of you old people give me the creeps.

I have a somewhat puzzling relationship with ageing.

I hope that I'm a bit more worldly wise than I was say, two or three decades ago, but I never look back and compare distinct ages with the present.

I think that most people will have more life events than me on which to pin a particular age, so perhaps that has something to do with it.

There's been a few knocks and bruises and occasions when the effluvia has interfaced with the air conditioning, but broadly speaking nothing significant that I can nail down to a definite age.

As for learning by experience,* well I've always been aware of the risks of acting in haste, consequences of actions etc, and that awareness becomes more acute by the year.

Can timidity be far behind?



*Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.

(Oscar Wilde)

Lower resilience and limited recovery time play a bigger role with age.

xoxoxoBruce;1015330 wrote:

Lower resilience and limited recovery time play a bigger role with age.

As does not giving as much of a shit about shit as one used to. I count that as a big bonus.

Glinda;1015453 wrote:

As does not giving as much of a shit about shit as one used to. I count that as a big bonus.

An outlook on life which has an honourable pedigree.

Arthur Balfour (Prime Minister 1902-1905) said "Nothing matters very much and few things matter at all".

I'd have voted for him. :)

Glinda;1015453 wrote:

As does not giving as much of a shit about shit as one used to. I count that as a big bonus.

Too wise or too tired?

BigV;1015487 wrote:

Too wise or too tired?

A little of both, I suppose. :rolleyes:

I was a total idiot and a complete emotional dunce when I was a teenager. I think I've improved with age, but I still have my demons. Nobody is perfect, or will ever be. That's part of what makes us human I believe.

Undertoad;1015037 wrote:

When I was 16 years old, I thought about the person I was at age 14; and the 16-year-old me thought, what an idiot I was back then.

16-year-old me knew everything 14-year-old me didn't understand. (But 16-year-old me didn't know what he didn't know. Which was tons.)

This has gone on my whole life. I'm 54 now, and I look back at me at 45 and I think, damn, wow, what a fuckup.

But I know, 45 looks at 35, and says, oh, the things you don't know. Oh, the pain you are due!

35 looks at 25, and says, wow, what made you think you were special? You were mentally ill.

Everybody, or just me?

When I grow up to be a man
Will I dig the same things that turn me on as a kid?
Will I look back and say that I wish I hadn't done what I did?
Will I joke around and still dig those sounds
When I grow up to be a man?
Will I look for the same things in a woman that I dig in a girl?
(Fourteen, fifteen)
Will I settle down fast or will I first wanna travel the world?
(Sixteen, seventeen)
Now I'm young and free, but how will it be?
When I grow up to be a man?
Will my kids be proud or think their old man is really a square?
(Eighteen, nineteen)
When they're out having fun yeah, will I still wanna have my share?
(Twenty, twenty-one)
Will I love my wife for the rest of my life?
When I grow up to be a man?
What will I be when I grow up to be a man?
Won't last forever
It's kind of sad
Won't last forever
It's kind of sad

Turns out, they got a song for that...


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