Sundae
Sundae's Mum called me this morning and asked me to post this on her behalf.
Unfortunately, Sundae is in hospital once again and has been through a something of a rough time.
She was admitted on Wednesday morning but in the early hours of Friday suffered the first of two fits.
During the second fit, she went into cardiac arrest and had to be resuscitated.
As of this morning her condition was described as serious but she is making progress.
She's presently in an intensive care ward and her transfer to a general ward will depend on the speed of her recovery.
As you might imagine, a prolonged stay in hospital is expected.
If you've sent Sundae a PM, Email, text or letter recently, and not had a reply, you'll understand why.
Shit. Thanks for letting us know Carruthers.
Damn, I thought she was doing much better. :(
Is "fit" British for "seizure," or does it mean something less specific? Thank you for keeping us in the loop, Carruthers, and I hope she starts improving very soon.
Is "fit" British for "seizure," or does it mean something less specific?
Yes, I think that seizure and fit can be considered the same thing in everyday terms.
I'm thinking of you, my dear sundae.[emoji22]
tarheel
Sending love from me and Mr Limey. xx
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Get well soon, SundaeGirl!! You're in our prayers, also.
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Thanks for letting us know, Mr. Carruthers.
Just had a chat with Sundae's mum. Sounds like she's had a horribly worrying few days. It also sounds like Sundae's condition is improving, though she may need to stay in critical care another day or two - the doctors are hoping she'll be well enough to move to a general ward very soon. Which is something at least.
Yeah. It doesn't get too much worse than cardiac arrest. Scary.
I finally got to open my card from her the other day after I got home from the road. It was very sweet, and I hate to see her in such shape. I wish her the best for a speedy recovery!
Carruthers, do you know if she's in hospital near her mum or up north?
I wish you the best Sundae.
My words are hopelessly inadequate. I wish for the best for Mum and the rest of the family as well.
Thank you Carruther and DanaC for keeping us informed. One small request... if you can manage it, send better news if possible. Thanks in advance.
Praying for her recovery soon.
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Carruthers, do you know if she's in hospital near her mum or up north?
She's in hospital in Leeds and her mum is also in Leeds and visiting daily.
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:( Poor Sundae. Praying for speedy healing and full recovery.
Thanks to those of you closest for keeping the rest of us informed.
Got a message from Carruthers - Sundae's taken a turn for the worse. She's in a side ward at the critical care unit.
From the message he got from her mum, I think they've stabilised her again, but she's not in good shape.
her mum's had to return to the South - Sundae's Dad needs her care too (poor Sundae's mum, how torn she must be feeling) and there's currently nothing she can do here. I think she's planning on coming back north if the situation changes.
I'm on a shitty late shift which pretty much stomps on any hope of getting over to Leeds without taking short notice leave (not much tolerated unless for immediate family needs). I'm monitoring messages and depending how the week plays out I might just have to.
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Well, dang. Thanks for the updates :-|
Sundae,
I hope you will be able to read this. Get well.
All my blessings and hopes for your recovery.
This is not the news I wanted to get.
Sarge hasn't been around here lately, I assume someone in more regular contact with him has let him know...
:sniff:
A brief update.
I called in on Sundae's Mum and Dad this morning and was told that she had had a 'steady night' but was still very unwell.
I'm sorry that I don't have more positive news for you but I will keep you abreast of developments.
Carruthers.
Thank you C. I thought she was doing better as well. :sniff:
Yes, thank you Carruthers.
Damn again. Hope steady turns into good soon.
Thinking about her a lot. I hope she gets way better really soon.
Dear Lord. This is terrible, makes my stomach churn. She is in our prayers. Classicman, thanks for the heads up
A brief update.
I called in on Sundae's Mum and Dad this morning and was told that she had had a 'steady night' but was still very unwell.
I'm sorry that I don't have more positive news for you but I will keep you abreast of developments.
Carruthers.
Damn again. Hope steady turns into good soon.
Steady sounds good for now.
I'll take steady.
I am thankful for the update. I hope and pray that her progress continues to improve.
You are more than welcome, Sarge. Glad you checked in. Will call you in a bit.
Sundae come back to us. We all love you.
tarheel
is there any word on how Sundae is doing? She's in my thoughts :(
Holding my breath with every new post here, but update wanted.
I can't go into detail, but I had a text from Sundae's mum this morning which indicates a slight improvement in her condition.
Progress seems slow, but at least it's progress.
Thank you. Have been thinking of her throughout the holiday. Glad to hear she's making some progress.
Progress is good. Slow, or otherwise.
Thanks for the update, I've been thinking about her also.
I want Sundae to be well. Get well soon Sundae! Some of us are counting on you! Our lives are incomplete without knowing you are well!
I can't go into detail, but I had a text from Sundae's mum this morning which indicates a slight improvement in her condition.
Progress seems slow, but at least it's progress.
It's all we can hope for...thanks Carruthers.
Its that shitty hospital food that makes the sick arise and get outta town. Just the smell of breakfast made me want to puke. Thank God there is a lid on those plates. Nothing better than a turkey cheese burger except a 2 piece dark from KFC. After a few days I just had a plate of macaroni and cheese with chocolate pudding for lunch and dinner, everyday.
Sundae needs a mess of baby fried catfish, collards, rice and maters. A pitcher of sweet ice tea with a slice of lemon meringue pie.
This is our lunch for tomorrow. I will save a seat for you dear Sundae.
tarheel
Part of me thinks that sounds wonderful, Captain. Then part of me feels my cholesterol balloon.
OK, knock it off you attention whore. Get the fuck out of that hospital, I'm tired of being worried sick about you. I'm sure your Mum and Carruthers are too.
Part of me thinks that sounds wonderful, Captain. Then part of me feels my cholesterol balloon.
This is my once a week cholesterol party.
tarheel
Mine's once a week, all week long.
I was away since Wed. Been worried about her and almost sick thinking about checking back here. ANY progress to me is great and should be celebrated.
My dear Dwellars,
I am so sorry to have to tell you that Sundae lost her fight for life yesterday evening at 7.40 pm (GMT). Her passing was peaceful, and her mother and her brother were at her bedside.
A few days before Sundae's death, her mother said in a text to Carruthers:
She does smile when I mention that her friends on The Cellar all send their love to her, but then she closes her eyes and is ‘out of it’ for a while.
There is not much else I can add at this point. I know that many of you have been praying for Sundae, and worrying about her. She is now at peace.
xxx
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OMG. She was such a kind spirit. I will miss her so.
May she finally find the peace that seemed to elude her here on earth. :sniff::(:sniff:
Oh no. Oh god.
If ever there was a heart to the Cellar, she was it.
The consolation is that she is at peace.
Thanks Limey.
Good bye Sundae.
*sniff*
Tis a hard blow to know she is gone. I'm looking at the presents she sent for me and the kids. I do take comfort in knowing she is in a better place.
Yeah, fuck.
I am sad, very sad, but I also feel a little better that Sundae is resting, well, not suffering. I felt a lot of suffering from her posts and posts on her behalf. Now that's done, good, but what's replaced it isn't better, not now.
My love and support goes out to her family, and to our family of choice here. Fuck.
This is heartbreaking ... lovely, funny, persevering, generous Sundae, we'll miss you so much. Glad there is no more suffering but ... :sniff:
Oh God. That's so very sad.
[YOUTUBE]qdszl0YlIeY[/YOUTUBE]
rest well, love
Nice. I was going to look for that video when I got a chance to sit down at a real computer.
That's how I'll remember her.
Damn - that was 10 years ago! So happy, so full of love and cheer. I gotta be honest,
that was heartbreaking to watch. Damn...
Tell me about it. Had to step outside. Everything is blurry
Holy crap - thought it was just me. for a few months now she has been sending letters pretty regularly to Daniel & I. Rereading them is ... hard ... with tears in your eyes.
You guys make me cry. My poor Sundae. Rest well my love.
tarheel
God,Jim, that pretty much broke me.
That's how I want to remember her.
Damn it, I'm glad her pain is over, but mine is not. :(
I wondered why she sent so many gifts and so early, as she certainly wasn't swimming in money? I wonder if she knew it was getting real bad quickly?
I'm sure she went to the same place the rest of us are going so she'll prepare for us by charming the shit out of our host.
I last saw Sundae on 8th November when I called at her parents' flat where she was staying for a few days.
Pressure of time meant that our chat was not as long as either of us would have liked but I'm glad we managed that last meeting.
On the way back to Yorkshire the next day she sent me this selfie:
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Sundae was warm-hearted, quick witted, possessed of a fine sense of humour and I shall miss her.
Goodbye Cherry and thank you for your friendship.
I hope she finds Brianna up there
And Diz-cat.
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My heart is broken. Cherry was one of the best of us.
I got a card from her a few weeks ago. There was an awesome credit card sized multitool enclosed. I didn't know at that time that I'd need to use it to disconnect my heart and soul from Reality.
Fuck.
I am gutted.
I really misunderstood how sick she was. Every photo of her she was smiling and cheery, and her posts had an upbeat quality even when she was complaining about something. I really can't wrap my head around this. She was a fixture around here, one of the core dwellars.
This is so fucked.
Goodbye sweet Sundae!
The sweetest of us all.
Oh, dear. Fuck whatever it was that finally got her.
:sniff:
She must have known that things were really that bad when she went off into nowhere to die.
Nobody was more revealing of themselves and I think nobody got so much back -- is that how it really works? In this world?
Well this just sucks !!!!!!
the world is a whole lot place with out her
Damn it.
Cherry sent me the first Christmas card of the year. I guess she maybe saw how things were going. She was so real and honest with us that she embodied the cellar for me. 2016 has been a taker. Thanks for posting the song Jim. That was so beautiful, its gonna take a bit to build up the nerve to play it.
[YOUTUBE]qdszl0YlIeY[/YOUTUBE]
rest well, love
Made me cry. Going to miss you, Sundae. You were a shining light in my world.
This saddens me greatly :sniff: :sniff: :sniff:
Good bye Sundae.💔😞
Made me cry. Going to miss you, Sundae. You were a shining light in my world.
What Stormie said. I love you Sundae, and always will.She was like another sister to me. Her photos, and text about her travels around Otley and Bucks were very fun and I enjoyed them greatly. I lost my Little Sister.
After hearing the news last night, I proceeded to get staggeringly, porcelain worshipping, had to sit on the bathroom floor for two hours shitfaced *drunk*. It did NOT help one little bit. Now I have a broken heart *and* a hangover.
Life is so unreasonable. Death is so unfair.
I keep thinking about Sundae's mother and what she's coping with - having to make final arrangements for a child, and her husband not being well enough to understand or to be a support for her. I wish we could reach out with a message of condolence and support from the Cellar. Don't know what would be considered appropriate vs intrusive.
Perhaps we should throw in together and send a card and a plant, something along those lines?
If there is a way to help or show support, I'm all for it.
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I am lurker. I just don't have anything to add to the discussion here. I have always been jealous of your interaction with Lovely Sundae. I am sad for you all, who've lost a lovey friend, and for myself, who never had the privilege of knowing Sundae.
Let us remember fondly the meetings, while we mourn the partings.
-Hideouse
I keep thinking about Sundae's mother and what she's coping with - having to make final arrangements for a child, and her husband not being well enough to understand or to be a support for her. I wish we could reach out with a message of condolence and support from the Cellar. Don't know what would be considered appropriate vs intrusive.
Perhaps we should throw in together and send a card and a plant, something along those lines?
If there is a way to help or show support, I'm all for it.
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Same here.
Do we have information regarding Cherry's arrangements? Date, time, location?
It looks as if a Paypal account could be set up to receive donations in GBP - one of our UK Dwellars could then access the account and put the funds toward an agreed-upon item like a plant etc. Unless it's possible for a North America-based Dwellar to just order something directly (I'm feeling embarrassed about proposing something that means time and inconvenience for someone else).
Has this sort of thing been done before, here in the Cellar? I'm probably laughably behind on the technical details of things. If there's interest, though, it would be nice to do.
Elspode, it is perhaps a little early for Sundae's mum to have this organised. Funerals can, in the UK, typically be a couple of weeks after a death. I think Sundae's mum would really appreciate some gesture of support from Sundae's online family.
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Ortho, all your suggestions are eminently doable. I'm very happy to be the agent to make this happen. And, as I've said, I think the gesture would be welcomed by Sundae's mum.
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Limey, do you think monetary donations to her Mum are best, or the plant for the funeral route? Mum is going through a very tough time, as someone has already noted. Whatever, the case, I'm in to contribute as soon as details are available.
I've thought of this yesterday and was thinking of pming Limey. However, I was afraid I won't be able to give much and little might be just too little. And I didn't want to bring it up in the Cellar and guilt others into giving too being the holiday is around the corner. Funeral expenses can't be cheap.
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I believe any amounts people donate out of love are sufficient amounts, and for those who did not feel the connection, or who cannot afford to donate, there is absolutely no guilt. From all, according to their ability.
[emoji4] Let's see what Limey say would be the best to do.
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What Elspode says about "from all according to their ability" is spot on. After all, Teh Cellar bought UT a car once on that principle.
We brits are notoriously embarrassed about receiving financial gifts, however. I think a floral tribute would be more the thing, unless Carruthers has another opinion?
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What Elspode says about "from all according to their ability" is spot on. After all, Teh Cellar bought UT a car once on that principle.
We brits are notoriously embarrassed about receiving financial gifts, however. I think a floral tribute would be more the thing, unless Carruthers has another opinion?
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I think the floral tribute option would be the one to pursue, limey.
In the event of there being surplus funds perhaps a donation to an appropriate charity could be made.
I think the surplus should go to Mum's favorite booze, she could probably use some. I don't know what that is but I remember Sundae mentioned it in one of her posts.
I like Bruce's suggestion.
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Yeah money is pretty embarrassing, but it still spends. Mum's daughter has died and her husband is out of the loop so I think it would be appropriate to send funds instead of a plant. Americans are generous when it comes to money.
tarheel
I assume her Mum has to foot the expense of the funeral. I don't know about there, but here that's pretty expensive.
Perhaps it's a cultural thing. Asians like to give money to help out with funeral expenses. But then, they also give flowers.
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If we come up with enough, we could do both. I would interject that I personally favor giving plants, because they live on after the ceremony as a reminder of the loved one who departed. We have a couple of plants in our arsenal that we were gifted following funerals. Most precious is the one from Leslie's father's service.
And, if embarrassment is a concern, well...a cash gift could be sent anonymously while the plant could bear our names and well wishes on a card. It would be harder to be embarrassed with no idea of the origin of the donation, and Bruce is right...funerals are goddamn expensive.
I was thinking it might be nice to create a collection of Sundae's best posts, or our favorites, and include them. The appropriate ones, I think. Although, remembering the whole Zengum and his mom debacle, maybe calling greater attention to her online presence might not be something she'd want.
Just a thought, something along the lines of how much she meant to us.
How about the Dwellars picture LJ made many years ago? And perhaps a Cellar mug? Is that design still reproduceable?
Prayer plants are nice in that regard.
Count me in, i want to help. :sniff:
Damn, I got behind and just saw the bad news.
Farewell Sundae, but only for a little while. We will meet again. For my part, tears are being shed. I also will donate for a gift or whatever.
I think I shall dye my hair some bright color in her memory.
These are my thoughts at this point:
The Cellar is a warm and amazing community that I feel honoured to be a part of, and an example of how the internet can bring people together in the best of ways. I have no wish to frustrate anyone's desire to express their respects to Sundae through a gift or gesture to her mum.
A plant and, if there is an amount left over, a request to Sundae's mum about what she would like to do with the money is the most sensitive way to handle this, in the U.K.
An anonymous cash gift would be very difficult to arrange, potentially upsetting for Sundae's mum, and I think Carruthers and I would be fending off questions about it from the recipient in no time.
Drawing family attention to Sundae's presence online is probably not wise , but personal memories from Dwellars, of letters and kindnesses received, of smiles and witty writing and a warm presence remembered would be treasured for years to come.
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Of course, limey. I feel like i will defer to what you carefully consider to be best. Whatever we can do with the most grace and thoughtfulness...
It just doesn't even seem real right now, to me.
I think her Mum is well aware of Sundae's heavy involvement with the Cellar, so she'll know what's up with anything she receives signed Cellar.
What Limey suggests sounds good.
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Of course, she knows the customs of the natives. :D
I concur with limey's assessment for a collective effort.
I think the surplus should go to Mum's favorite booze, she could probably use some. I don't know what that is but I remember Sundae mentioned it in one of her posts.
Mum:
- Raspberry Schapps with glitter, for when the girls come round ...
Perhaps, since it's something Sundae would give her.
I was thinking it might be nice to create a collection of Sundae's best posts, or our favorites, and include them. The appropriate ones, I think. ...
That would be more for us than her mum. Sundae has probably already shared with her mother everything she wanted shared around the time that they happened. If she wanted mum prompted to see more, she would have left mum her password to make it easy.
... perhaps a Cellar mug? Is that design still reproduceable?
That would be a nice memento, if it's even possible.
The final collage is there in the thread. I'd have to do some digging to find the one of her individually. But I'll do it, if that's what we want to do.
Count me in for anything.
Thank you for your guidance on this, limey. I would like to contribute toward a floral arrangement or plant. Is there an address to which a personal note could be sent?
I agree that Limey would know best how to proceed.
I think the surplus should go to Mum's favorite booze, she could probably use some. I don't know what that is but I remember Sundae mentioned it in one of her posts.
I disagree FWIW. Given the problems Sundae had with booze and that when she was off the sauce she boozed vicariously through her parents...... I'm sure I don't need to elucidate further.
I have been gone some time from the motherland, but I believe the norm (and therefore appreciated thing) would be a floral contribution -if not specified "no flowers please" then a donation of any further funds to charities suggested by the family. Which I think is in concurrence with what Limey suggested. Sorry if I'm repeating, I find this thread hard to read.
I disagree FWIW. Given the problems Sundae had with booze and that when she was off the sauce she boozed vicariously through her parents...... I'm sure I don't need to elucidate further.
What does Sundae's drinking problem have to do with her mother now?
I have been gone some time from the motherland, but I believe the norm (and therefore appreciated thing) would be a floral contribution -if not specified "no flowers please" then a donation of any further funds to charities suggested by the family.
I strongly disagree with distributing to charities. Mum has a huge expense dropped in her lap, and I want to help with that. It may not be standard custom, but she should understand the actions of those bloody colonials are to be forgiven.
I think a floral arrangement or plant and whatever is left going to her mum is a great idea. She is going through a very difficult time right now and (most likely) will be dealing with the passing of her husband in the very near future as well. Thats the best "charity" we could possibly donate to. In that, I'm with Bruce.
Limey, please let me know where to send my contribution.
We brits are notoriously embarrassed about receiving financial gifts
This.
From what I understand about Sundae's mom from her posts, she was generally very traditional and did worry about "what people would think". I worry that a cash donation to her directly would cause awkwardness for her, no matter how much it would undoubtedly help and how well-intended
This.
From what I understand about Sundae's mom from her posts, she was generally very traditional and did worry about "what people would think". I worry that a cash donation to her directly would cause awkwardness for her, no matter how much it would undoubtedly help and how well-intended
How is this only obvious to limey and monster? This is the deal, folks, whether it jibes with our sensibilities or not. We have to be together on this.
If Mum doesn't tell her peers, I won't. If it bothers her, then she can chose a charity and pass it on.
With respect to funeral expenses... In the UK, is it like it is here? Would she have had some type of insurance in place to cover the expense of the burial? Is she to be buried or cremated?
Wanting to give her mom money is maybe an action that would make us feel better. We're powerless to attempt to console her family because of the distance. Yet we need to do something. Do we need it for her, or for ourselves?
In my estimation, the cellar was Cherrys best friend. Collectively. But for Carruthers, limey and Dana, we are all to remote to attend the funeral, to hug her mum, to cry tears over her grave. It's frustrating. But that's our problem.
Is it possible for one of you that have spoken to her mum to ask what she would allow us to do? I know it's a lot of pressure to represent this community. And I appreciate whatever guidance you can offer.
This sucks so bad
If Mum doesn't tell her peers, I won't. If it bothers her, then she can chose a charity and pass it on.
that's just not how it works ... :( That would be rude and ungrateful, even if the giftor didn't know about it. Limey, Carruthers, Dana and other Brits right there right now will know best, but.... this stuff is instilled from birth. That would be a terrible burden, not a terrible relief. I can't explain better than that, I'm sorry. The only way you might ever get away with helping with funeral costs is to make an anonymous donation directly to to funeral director and have them discretely apply it to the bill. But that's a lot to ask someone to do on behalf of a collective. It's just an entirely different culture.
With respect to funeral expenses... In the UK, is it like it is here? Would she have had some type of insurance in place to cover the expense of the burial? Is she to be buried or cremated?
prepaid/insurance highly unlikely. Too young and no income :(
It's not as expensive, but I see costs have been rising exponentially recently.
Most are cremated these days, unless religious reasons prevent. There is no space for burial
OK I finally had an idea
Sundae liked parks and feeding the birds etc. Her mom might be OK with us buying a bench in a public park with a dedication plaque if it was possible. Or in a city center
^^^I'm down with this. I'm also down with sending money directly to Limey or one of the other Brits to do what they believe is best in this situation.
that's just not how it works
They are indoctrinated with their customs. That's why we threw the tea in the goddamn harbor, and do things our way.
OK I finally had an idea
Sundae liked parks and feeding the birds etc. Her mom might be OK with us buying a bench in a public park with a dedication plaque if it was possible. Or in a city center
There was a shaded arch of trees she posted pictures of a couple times. Like a path exiting a garden.... I can see it in my mind, but have no idea where to begin searching for those pics.
I'm devastated. She was the perfect woman
They are indoctrinated with their customs. That's why we threw the tea in the goddamn harbor, and do things our way.
This isn't about us and making us feel better. It's about making her family feel better. If that means we don't give money, as has been stated multiple times as being unwelcome in the British culture, then we don't.
Why force the issue? Do you really want to make her mum feel even worse?
Let's not squabble over the details when our intentions are all of one accord, and for the best.
I am sure that the gesture of "taking up a collection" in Sundae's memory would be very positively received. We could send a plant with a message of condolence from the Cellar, and that would also be very well received. We could certainly convey to Sundae's mum that Dwellars would be very happy for any "leftover" funds to be used to cover funeral costs, but also give her the option to donate to a charity of her choosing if that is what she prefers.
As to a memorial bench - I think you are thinking of the park in Otley, LJ. Although she loved the park, Otley was not a particularly happy place for Sundae. Also, there can be a lot of red tape around getting permission to put new benches in such places.
Sundae's mum is grappling with red tape in Leeds and won't get home until tomorrow. We'll let you know what's decided about the time and place of the funeral - that would be a good deadline for donations.
I'm happy to collect donations, if everyone else is happy with that. Paypal payments as a "between friends" transaction so that there are no costs. I'd be grateful if you could put "Sundae's memorial" in the description so that if the taxman takes an interest I can show him that it's not a commercial transaction. PM me for my email address - discretion as to your participation is assured.
Thank you Limey, Dana, and Carruthers for being such very good friends to our Sundae.
I know your friendships meant so much to her.
OK I finally had an idea
Sundae liked parks and feeding the birds etc. Her mom might be OK with us buying a bench in a public park with a dedication plaque if it was possible. Or in a city center
I'm in...but we should still send a plant and a card.
I'm happy to collect donations, if everyone else is happy with that. Paypal payments as a "between friends" transaction so that there are no costs. I'd be grateful if you could put "Sundae's memorial" in the description so that if the taxman takes an interest I can show him that it's not a commercial transaction. PM me for my email address - discretion as to your participation is assured.
Sending PM now...is it too early to set a deadline for donations to be made?
We could send a plant with a message of condolence from the Cellar, and that would also be very well received. We could certainly convey to Sundae's mum that Dwellars would be very happy for any "leftover" funds to be used to cover funeral costs, but also give her the option to donate to a charity of her choosing if that is what she prefers.
Yes.
Limey, thank you so much.
Thank you for everything you are doing limey. Pm sent.
Damn! Just looks what happens when you don,t sorry can,t find the key. Come much anymore,
I must had a nice card and small gift from her last week,
Rest now lovely lady.
Went from my @#$%&tablet. Bb
I will donate also, just say where. I can't until the 16th, but on that date, absolutely.
Stormie, PM limey. She was headed for bed a few minutes ago, so you probably won't get an immediate answer.
Damn! Just looks what happens when you don,t sorry can,t find the key. Come much anymore,
I must had a nice card and small gift from her last week,
Rest now lovely lady.
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Buster!
Sorry that this is what brought you back, but it's good to hear from you.
Sundae's Mum has quite a sweet tooth. She may enjoy a box of chocolates. If anyone has Sheila's current address I'd be very grateful for it. I met her once and she is a lovely lady. I can't imagine how she's coping. I will contribute to the collective donation in whatever form it takes.
Sundae's Mum has quite a sweet tooth. She may enjoy a box of chocolates. If anyone has Sheila's current address I'd be very grateful for it. I met her once and she is a lovely lady. I can't imagine how she's coping. I will contribute to the collective donation in whatever form it takes.
See your PMs.
Y'all decide what to do. I don't have pay pal, but Jim does and I will send him a check.
tarheel
Fuck this you guys
Sundae just can't be gone
I understood...
Step 1 = denial.
Thanks Bruce
El told me last night but it didn't really hit until I came back here
Be gentle with each other, folks.
The funeral is set for Friday 23 December and, weather permitting, Mr Limey and I will be there and at the wake afterwards.
Contributions, should you wish to make one, close on 21 December so that I can tally up and so on.
You've misunderstood big time
Oh, good.:)
I'm sorry I misunderstood. And I apologize for my previous post. Which I will now delete.
Fuck this you guys
Sundae just can't be gone
I somehow missed the last part of that post.:(
Well it's all Sundae's fault for causing this mess. But we'll forgive her like always, because it wasn't intentional, she didn't have malicious bone in her body. :p:
weather permitting, Mr Limey and I will be there and at the wake afterwards.
You and that Mr. Limes. You're good people, you are.
I hope the ferry is running for you.
You and that Mr. Limes. You're good people, you are.
I hope the ferry is running for you.
Thanks. So do we ... so do we.
Sent by magic.
@$##
I checked in last late last week. Maybe I skipped the last few days because I could guess what was going to happen.
I am going to miss her. I Skyped with her a few times and as nice as her posts were, her cheerful voice added so much. The Mrs talked with her a few times and we both thought she was such a lovely woman.
I am so sorry to hear the news.
Rest in peace
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that 2nd one is how she is in my mind
[emoji2] [emoji2] you are a caring man, keep up the good work.
tarheel
We like this one at Chateau Limey.
She'll always have pink hair in my mental snapshots.
I find it hard to reconcile with how good she looks in all her most recent pictures (apart from the one where she fell). In hindsight maybe the sudden and dramatic weight loss was not a good sign.
Still so hard to believe.
Yeah. It was hard to process, when she would talk about some horrible symptom or scare she had and then posted a great picture a couple days later.
I'm still in shock and disbelief.
Okay, so I'm stupid....at this very moment. How do we send money via paypal? We use the option "send money to friends and family," right? This way Limey won't have to pay a fee, right?
Yes, please!
Sent by magic.
Is it the same address as always?
I forgot until now I have a cherry necklace I started for her at pottery but I guess it got sidelined. Can't get back in to the studio til January, guess it will be too dry to finish by then anyway :( Shame, because I had figured out the glaze already. oh well we know which road is paved with good intentions.....
Is it the same address as always?
Yes.
Sent by thought transference
I forgot until now I have a cherry necklace I started for her at pottery but I guess it got sidelined. Can't get back in to the studio til January, guess it will be too dry to finish by then anyway :( Shame, because I had figured out the glaze already. oh well we know which road is paved with good intentions.....
They built a rest area with a Starbucks and a Roy Rogers on that road with my good intentions.
What is the Road to Good Inclinations paved with? Because that's the road I'm usually on. :(
It's paved with the pulverized bones of your enemies
Is it tarred with the blood of my defeated foes?
What is the Road to Good Inclinations paved with? Because that's the road I'm usually on. :(
Do you mean where does the road paved with good inclinations go?
Or are you being difficult on purpose? Again.
:p:
:)
I realized later i said that wrong. But i liked the answers anyway.
Do you mean where does the road paved with good inclinations go?
Or are you being difficult on purpose? Again.
:p:
I've just received a PayPal donation from someone with the initials (IRL) L.S. Just to let you know it's been safely received. X
Sent by magic.
My dear Dwellars, this is the published obituary notice for Sundae, duly edited for discretion.
Of your charity please pray for the repose of the soul of Sundae, who died in Hospital, in early December, aged 44 years.
Dearly loved daughter, loved and missed by her sister, brother-in-law, brother and sister-in-law. Loving aunt and great aunt.
Funeral to be held on Friday 23rd December.
All who knew Sundae are very welcome. Please wear something pink, her favourite colour.
Family flowers only please, donations if desired to MIND.
'May she rest in Eternal Peace.'
If you wish to have access to an online book of condolence, please PM me.
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Sundae's health problems were many and varied, and troubled her greatly at times, but in all the pictures I've ever seen of her, she had a huge beaming smile.
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We chatted almost every day or exchanged texts or Emails at the very least.
I still expect her to call.
Requiescat in pace.
I didn't want to put RIP as the Cellar tag line. I don't know what to do. I didn't even change the tag line for a while because I didn't want to put that.
So I just... went into the tag lines thread and found the ones she suggested, right? Maybe that's what you do?
they were all so witty and on point, so her
and now I'm bawling again.
It's a good tribute. I like it.
She called a couple of times, and I called her a couple of times. she was always so pleasant and upbeat. I've got her cards, and our Christmas present on display. She really was Amazing People. I never saw a pic of her when she didn't have a big bright smile for all to see. I'm going to go and cry now.
I didn't even know her real name until I got her Xmas card this year. She had sent me a card for my first wedding, and I couldn't read her handwriting, God love her.
Every time I look at my wallet ninja, I'll always be reminded of her...including when I get hauled off by TSA for forgetting to leave it at home. :)
I didn't even know her real name until I got her Xmas card this year. She had sent me a card for my first wedding, and I couldn't read her handwriting, God love her.
Every time I look at my wallet ninja, I'll always be reminded of her...including when I get hauled off by TSA for forgetting to leave it at home. :)
Tell me her real first name please. She would cut up with this noob just like she knew me forever. I miss her so much.
tarheel
Tell me her real first name please. She would cut up with this noob just like she knew me forever. I miss her so much.
tarheel
Her name is Cheryl, but in my heart she will always be Sundae Girl.
Some people from Cellar call me Syc on FB...it probably confuses the shit out of my other friends.
From now til the end of the year I'll put up a different Sundae tagline every day.
It's a good tribute. I like it.
Yes, definitely.
She called a couple of times, and I called her a couple of times. she was always so pleasant and upbeat. I've got her cards, and our Christmas present on display. She really was Amazing People. I never saw a pic of her when she didn't have a big bright smile for all to see. I'm going to go and cry now.
Me too. I'm probably being ridiculous with this, but I can't seem to get past the denial. I still expect to see her posts.
Her name is Cheryl, but in my heart she will always be Sundae Girl.
Absolutely! OUR Sundae Girl...
Some people from Cellar call me Syc on FB...it probably confuses the shit out of my other friends.
I think I've done that more than once. lol
Some people from Cellar call me Syc on FB...it probably confuses the shit out of my other friends.
Sounds better than elSi.
tarheel
I don't know what to say. Sundae represented the very best qualities of an internet community citizen. It's a serious loss, like losing a family member.
And when a family/community loses a member, one of the social functions of having a funeral is for the friends and family to get together, maybe people that haven’t conversed or been very close for a long time, and catch up on each others’ lives. It’s too bad that it takes a death to bring people together, and maybe they should have done it sooner, but it is a positive that comes out of the loss, and maybe we could do something like that.
If I never said it before, many of you have been an important part of my life, and I’m better for having known you. People like Sundae, from a part of the world I’ve never been to, and would have had no reason to know, if not for the magic of the internet, and the people who have put forth the effort to create and maintain internet communities like The Cellar. I don’t make many serious or personal comments, but I’m sending my love to you all, and I’ve gotten a little teary-eyed at my desk while typing this.
Sundae was the first person I called friend that I'd never met.
I don't do that easily.
I don't know what to say. Sundae represented the very best qualities of an internet community citizen. It's a serious loss, like losing a family member.
YES, exactly.
And when a family/community loses a member, one of the social functions of having a funeral is for the friends and family to get together, maybe people that haven’t conversed or been very close for a long time, and catch up on each others’ lives. It’s too bad that it takes a death to bring people together, and maybe they should have done it sooner, but it is a positive that comes out of the loss, and maybe we could do something like that.
Maybe this would help with the closure... maybe this is what I am missing.
If I never said it before, many of you have been an important part of my life, and I’m better for having known you. People like Sundae, from a part of the world I’ve never been to, and would have had no reason to know, if not for the magic of the internet, and the people who have put forth the effort to create and maintain internet communities like The Cellar. I don’t make many serious or personal comments, but I’m sending my love to you all, and I’ve gotten a little teary-eyed at my desk while typing this.
And I you. I often think about being wealthy enough to travel all over the world and visit my cellar friends... maybe one day.
I was going to suggest the tagline "with a cherry on top" but I think your idea is more fun and more fitting, UT. we know, there's a cherry on top without being told :)
I don't know what to say. Sundae represented the very best qualities of an internet community citizen. It's a serious loss, like losing a family member.
And when a family/community loses a member, one of the social functions of having a funeral is for the friends and family to get together, maybe people that haven’t conversed or been very close for a long time, and catch up on each others’ lives. It’s too bad that it takes a death to bring people together, and maybe they should have done it sooner, but it is a positive that comes out of the loss, and maybe we could do something like that.
If I never said it before, many of you have been an important part of my life, and I’m better for having known you. People like Sundae, from a part of the world I’ve never been to, and would have had no reason to know, if not for the magic of the internet, and the people who have put forth the effort to create and maintain internet communities like The Cellar. I don’t make many serious or personal comments, but I’m sending my love to you all, and I’ve gotten a little teary-eyed at my desk while typing this.
She was real. Because she was honest and shared her life as it really was. Not just the triumphs. Same like Brianna. Dwellers like her are family because they shared all of it. Some folks on here only share the winning. Some only share the losing. Chrisinhouston, orthodoc.
Whatever. It's fine. Share as much as you are moved to share. You get out what you put in. Cherry had dreams about the cellar. So much so that she made a thread about it. I was in them in the beginning. Not so much as my involvement waned. We were family to her, clearly.
Aw fuck
Fuck
Eventually, we're all going to die off. Let me just say that right now, today.... I love my family. My kids, my parents, my siblings, my imaginary cellar friends, my meat space friends. Be excellent to each other
Dear Dwellars
With great reluctance Mr Limey and I have decided that due to poor weather forecast in the next few days we cannot risk going away to Sundae's funeral as the ferry will almost certainly not run on Christmas Eve, leaving us stranded for Christmas. We hope you will understand.
I have ordered a Peace Lily to be delivered to Sundae's mum tomorrow, with this message:
Remembering "Sundae". Forever in our hearts. With love from all at the Cellar.
You lovely generous people have contributed around USD 1,400 to a fund which I will convey to Sundae's mum for her to do with as she sees fit. I will explain that the Dwellars' wish is that she use it to help pay funeral expenses, but that she may obviously donate it to a charity or otherwise use it as she sees fit.
Anyone wishing to make a last minute contribution may do so throughout today.
My love to you all - you are a most excellent community and I am so sorry that I cannot represent that at Sundae's funeral on Friday. x
The tributes here mean as much to me as representation would have. This is where we know her, please don't feel bad about it not working out. One of the wonderful things about you guys is willingly living somewhere where travel takes planning and luck don't despair of that.
You've done plenty, limey. Thank you so very much.
Limey-topia, where above and beyond is de rigueur.
Don't feel bad, you've done good and we appreciate your efforts.
Thank you, limey, for all the coordination and effort. You did great by Sundae's memory.
limey - you've done so much already. No need to apologize at all.
As for the rest of you knuckleheads, you rock too.
What an amazing community this cellar is.
I don't care what Interpol says about em, Limey is all right with me.
tarheel
Limey, I saw the storm forecast and was ever so worried about you travelling. I think it was a hard but sensible decision. Thanks for all that you did and are doing for Sundae and her mum
For Sundae, we'll all miss you
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No need to apologize, limey. Thank you so much for everything you've done.
I received an Email from Sundae's Mum a short while ago which I've posted below.
I have made a couple of small edits for reasons of family privacy, otherwise it is shown as received.
Just had a marvellous huge plant delivered from a local florist in memory of Sundae.
Please thank all at ‘The Cellar’ who contributed and sent their love.
So kind of them all.
I only wish they could all make it to the funeral so I could thank them in person.
The family wish each and every one of her friends a peaceful and healthy Christmas and New Year.
Sundae's Mum and Dad.
xx
Hello all,
This is my first post on this forum, and I assure you I am not snooping. I just wanted to pass on my gratitude on behalf of my family.
Today my nan informed me of the kindness and generosity of you all in aid of my aunts funeral. I cannot put into words how overwhelmed we all are. You are wonderful people, and we all know you had a special place in Cheryl's heart.
I'd like to leave you with the poem I have chosen and will be reading tomorrow:
Think of me as one at rest,
For me you should not weep,
I have no pain, no troubled thoughts,
For I am just asleep.
The living, thinking me that was,
Is now forever still,
And life goes on without me now,
As time forever will.
If your heart feels heavy now,
Because I've gone away,
Dwell not long upon it friend,
As none of us can stay.
Those of you who liked me,
I sincerely thank you all,
And those of you who loved me,
I thank you most of all.
And in my fleeting lifespan,
As time went rushing by,
I found some time to hesitate,
To laugh, to love, to cry.
Matters it now if time began,
If time will ever cease.
I was here, I used it all,
And now I am at peace.
X
Well hello Abigail. That is a beautiful poem and I'm certain your aunt would have love it!
I know I do. Thank you so much for visiting us here. Your aunt will be sorely missed...
Hugs to all - especially your grandmum. <3
Thank you Abigail, it is very nice of you to stop in and share this. Our hearts go out to you and your whole family. We are with you in spirit tomorrow, and forever.
Thank you Abigail! I am so sorry that I cannot be there tomorrow to represent how much Sundae meant to us. You will have got a sense of that from this thread. X
Dear Dwellars!
I spoke to Sundae's mum on the phone today and when I told her that the Cellar had contributed £1,250 (around USD 1,400) in Sundae's memory she was overwhelmed. I did express the Cellar wish to help with funeral expenses but Sundae's mum was adamant that the money should be donated to the mental health charity, MIND.
I will do this via the funeral directors and will let you all know the total raised in around three weeks time.
Sundae's mum has said she will send me the order of service and given me permission to share it with you all.
I offered to collect up the Cellar memories and tributes (in this thread and the one that IM started) and send them to Sundae's mum - I hope this will be OK with you guys.
Sent by magic.
Thank you, Abigail. You're done us a great service, and honored Sundae in in a manner she would have loved. :notworthy
Dear Abigail
I am almost always happy to welcome new members to the cellar. I'm happy to do so now. I *never* do so through a veil of tears. I'm happy to do so now. Sundae was a huge part of the cellar family when she was an active poster, and I am certain she'll remain a huge part of the cellar family in the future, though I expect her posting frequency to drop off dramatically.
I don't know what she's shared with you about us here, but I think we know some about you. Don't you have the adorable little twin boys? She loved you (and the "kittens") very much. Just stuff like that, Sundae shared with us. And around here, she was loved right back. And now you've shared your poem... well. Thanks for that. Give my love and support to your family for me, please.
Thanks for taking the time and trouble to come to us. It reminds me of her.
So nice to meet you, Abigail! Your aunt cared about you very much, and was especially fond of your two little boys. There is no such thing as snooping here, and you would be more than welcome to pop in anytime you like. Thank you for the poem, it is a lovely tribute.
High Abigail, Welcome to the cellar, and we Keryx and and myself Loved your Aunt and worried about her, and prayed for her. So stick around for awhile it might be fun. We like Kittehs.
Welcome, Abigail. We all loved Cherry, and I hope you find us all amusing enough to hang around and see what Dwellars are all about.
We loves us some Sundae, that's for true.
Dear Dwellars,
I received the following account of Sundae's funeral from her mother yesterday.
The funeral and Wake went so well. Tears and laughter. Everyone seemed to like our choice of songs, and most people wore something pink in her memory. Her Godfather, was wonderful and said such moving words in his eulogy. It proved how well he knew her.
Her brother's tribute was amazing. I wish I could have taped it and sent it to you.
Over 50 people at the crematorium and nearly 30 at the Wake. ...
Her ex-husband, was there and also an ex-boyfriend who lives now at Hebden Bridge and she saw occasionally. They were both gutted. One of her bridesmaids flew in from France and went straight back to the airport after the service. 4 school friends from her school when she was aged 5-11 attended and they brought a card and a donation from themselves and 6 others that they had traced. Everyone has been so kind.
Sent by magic.
Sounds wonderful. I'm happy.
A lot of people liked her as much as we did.
Half of us liked her half as well as we should have liked her, to paraphrase...
Sometimes it was hard when she was acting against her own well being. Couldn't be angry with her, even when she was obviously fucking up, because she was such a free spirit. Tell her she shouldn't be doing something and she would readily agree, then keep doing it. Since we never met, following her exploits here in the Cellar, plus a lot of personal correspondence, she was like a television character that you know so well, but not quite real. Television characters get into jams but always make out OK by the end of the show, or at least next week.
A genuine loss for the world. :flower:
thanks xob, closest to what I feel. I was often told off for being mean to her so I stopped communicating with her at all, but it was just because she frustrated me in that way and I didn't have the skills to really help. I wish I could turn back the clock and do it differently just in case it could have made a difference :(
... I was often told off for being mean to her so I stopped communicating with her at all ... I wish I could turn back the clock and do it differently just in case it could have made a difference
... I will stop drinking or die. ...
Opinion? Entitled.
Sort my life out? Up to me.
It wouldn't have made any difference. She wouldn't let it. Like you, I moved on back then after I pushed in that thread to see what kind of prognosis she had. The writing was on the wall. There are sooooo many others in need who will let you make a difference for their lives that the ones who won't don't make the time cut ... life is too short.
Yeah, but you're a medical man, you can help people who will accept it because you know how to render aid for maximum effect.
We the great unwashed, are drawing on "The Days of Wine and Roses", Uncle Joe who is rumored to have drank himself to death, and old wives tales.
It may also have something to do with those who have dealt more closely with their own mortality, like monster, and those who have dealt with a lot of unwelcome deaths, like me, having a little different perspective on anyone who insists on throwing their life away.
There are sooooo many others in need who will let you make a difference for their lives
We are not here to help in that way. We can't help from here. It's inappropriate. We're not trained therapists, we could actually cause harm - actual therapy requires something that just can't happen on a semi-anonymous, public message board.
But what we can do is provide a social network of the kind that gives people something meaningful - over time, makes them feel good about themselves, specifically because there are others in their lives who do care about them.
In turn, that's why we should care for others even if they don't want to be "fixed".
And we did that. We changed Sundae's life. We made a difference. And she changed many of us and made a difference in many of our lives. It worked exactly like it was supposed to.
That's all very nice; but, people here may be in competition for attention from those who are giving more in real life. IRL always trumps virtual for the reasons you stated. This venue worked; but, within it's limitations. That's why it's not the venue of choice for everyone who's making differences in people's lives.
Like I said, it's not FOR that. And this thread is not for this either. Good day sir.
I talked about making differences in people's lives.
You said it was FOR that right here:
We changed Sundae's life. We made a difference. And she changed many of us and made a difference in many of our lives. It worked exactly like it was supposed to.
Are you posting under the influence? Your short term memory and/or reading comprehension seem to be out of whack.
You have my permission to remove from the public board any of my posts in this thread that offend your sensibilities.
Render unto Cesare and all that.
I'm sorry. I didn't mean to start a row. I guess i was trying to process some stuff. :(
I'm sorry. I didn't mean to start a row. I guess i was trying to process some stuff. :(
So are we all. Be gentle with each other, people.
Sent by magic.
She touched so many lives
I thought sexobon was making a comment to console monster re: her feeling that maybe she could have made more of a difference with Sundae.
I don't see how that was out of place. As someone who has spent a lot of effort helping IRL friends who then went on anyway to drink or drug themselves to death, both of their comments resonate for me, and so, in that sense, this thread and the board are doing exactly what it says on the tin.
Now, let's chill out before I start a round of Kumbaya.
I agree with the Foots. By considering the source's perspective, all the comments seem reasonable to me.
No, not bad nor an apology needed. Everybody gets to voice their opinion. I think you're taking Uncle Ben's wisdom too seriously.
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Please take that somewhere else.
Monster - thanks for saying that. I too was most critical of her at times in an ill-advised attempt to "help".
Uncle Ben?
What's tiny, white, and and tries to look up your skirt?
Uncle Ben's perverted rice.
No, Spiderman's Uncle Ben.
I have a copy of the order of service from Sundae's funeral. If you would like a set of pdfs PM me and I'll send you the link to a Dropbox location.
Here are Sundae's Cellar taglines that were in use for the last few weeks. They are so "her".
With a full complement of ho, ho, hos
More enlivening than Pop Rocks up the poop-chute
Decent place, indecent people
As retro as an R2D2 hat
Not a three beef patty kind of place
Get off the fence and start posting
It's all fun and games til somebody gets hurt
We were Edvard Munch's muse
Did anyone think to dredge the lake?
Lukewarm on tyranny removal
Don't worry about the dead hobos; they don't worry about you
We might press the advantage but we don't press charges
Sexing up history - and everything else!
We buy second-hand furniture
This isn't a competition to see who can be most cute
If you haven't paid full price you have no right of refund
When life hands us lemons, we make a party
We are the future of this great planet
Got love and now can travel
That last one will be tagline for a while.
Ah man - I missed Abigail's post.
If you find yourself back in this thread and read this response, Abi - thank you for taking the time to post. It means a lot to us dwellars to hear from you. Your aunt spoke of you often and with great love and fondness. She was so very proud of you.
'big big sigh'
Nice to hear from you Dana...:)
A total of over £2,000 was raised for MIND through donations in Sundae's memory. Over £1,650 of this (around $2,000) was contributed by the Cellar.
Thank you Limey. You done great! :notworthy
No ... you guys done great. Sundae's mum says in an email: "we are very grateful to you all, not just for the money, but for being friends to Sundae".
This evening, I finished the candy bar she gave me. I'd been nibbling just a little bit at a time, and with all the candy around Christmas it was easy to hold off for a while. Thinking about how her hands had touched the candy wrapper that I was holding.
I'm still in a strong level of denial.
I used my Pocket Ninja for the first time the other day. It was a bittersweet experience.
Holy shit - I just got the news about Sundae and am gutted. I'm mostly a lurker here and mainly in the pics/videos arenas so didn't see this news until today. I've been happy to have the shit sandwich of 2016 behind me only to find out it was worse than I thought.
The Cellar is a relatively small group with some BIG personalities and it's hard to imagine it without one of its biggest. I never interacted directly with Sundae but just loved her posts for her sheer joy and brutal honesty.
Just awful....
Thanks gtown, we feel the same way.:(
I couldn't make myself open the Christmas pressie she sent me until like a week after Christmas - and then when I did I laughed. And really wished she was still around so I could phone her and laugh with her.
It was a t-shirt with a picture of a magnificent cock(erel) on the front.
God I miss her.
She always "did cock" so much better than any other Dwellar.
I cried thinking about her last night.
I cried thinking about her last night.
:grouphug:
She always "did cock" so much better than any other Dwellar.
She totally did. Over the years, she filled my home with cocks ...
I cried thinking about her last night.
You two always had a special connection. She thought the world of you.
Sundae's brother has been kind enough to send me the tribute he read out at her funeral. Anyone wanting a copy please PM me.
Sundae's brother has been kind enough to send me the tribute he read out at her funeral. Anyone wanting a copy please PM me.
I can't pm you. It shows loading and won't load to your profile. Anyways I just finished watching The Color Purple and I need another good cry. I would be sad/happy to read it.
Ed
tarheel
If you click on limey's username in one of limey's posts, a drop down menu should appear in which the second option is Send a private message to limey. That option takes you to YOUR user Control Panel which is where your private messages are sent from.
It's right on the money, her brother was her soul mate.
i was looking thru you tube subs the other day clearing out the un watched stuff , Sundays stuff is still up , i watched a few for old times , she was a delightfull person an d is missed , brought a tear to my eye , a sad but joyous tear for haveing known her
If you click on limey's username in one of limey's posts, a drop down menu should appear in which the second option is Send a private message to limey. That option takes you to YOUR user Control Panel which is where your private messages are sent from.
No shitt. Really? I may not be the brightest bulb on the tree, but I figured that one out long time ago.
tarheel
Hmm. It pm today. Must be magic.
tarheel
Well, I am apparently several months behind the times and just saw this. I am deeply saddened to hear of Sundae's passing. I'll be honest, once I saw the post that she passed I couldn't manage to read much of the rest of thread through my tears. She was always so kind, a beautiful soul, and she will be dearly missed. :bawling:
Yes, she made a big impact on the Cellar and it's denizens. :sniff:
Today Mr Limey and I visited Sundae's parents.
We chatted about their lovely daughter and have collected her ashes which we will scatter, when her brother visits us in October, on the moor where she had planned to scatter Diz Cat's ashes.
You may remember the Cellar gave Sundae's mum a peace lily ...
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Thanks limey! They look good.
How nice of y'all. Thank you for the pictures.
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Outstanding. Thanks limey and Mr limey.
That's cool of you.
They do look good, don't they?
Outstanding picture. Parents should not outlive their children. :headshake
I still miss Sundae. I am jealous of those who knew her longer.
Beautiful Limey, thank you.
Parents should not outlive their children. :headshake
One of the reasons I'm still alive.
Well done, thank you limey!
Well fuck. First thread I opened.
Sorry, Man.
Welcome back.
Well fuck. First thread I opened.
It gets better.
Hi guys. We have Sundae's brother staying with us for a couple of days. This evening (our time) we are going to scatter her ashes at her favourite spot here, on a moor with dramatic stone circles and a lovely sense of peace. We'll be there from around 5.50pm BST (4.50pm GMT) if you want to join us in spirit for a few minutes. I'll post some pictures later.
xxx
Thank you Limey. My warmest regards to everyone on the moor. I am tearing up again.
(This will be 12:50pm Eastern)
We're talking about three hours from now, right?
We're talking about three hours from now, right?
Yes.
I'll be there, in spirit.
Thank you, limey. Give my best to her brother, please.
Sundae on Arran in the sun.
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I miss Sundae. How can ya miss someone you've never met?
Limey is the greatest. :notworthy I guess I should say Team Limey.
I have no trouble believing that.
So beautiful, thank you for sharing the eye moisture.
It was a year ago yesterday that Sundae departed this world and I've had an Email from her mum asking me to pass on the following few lines.
If you are still on ‘The Cellar’ please send seasonal greetings to all of them who knew Cherry.
I still think of you all with affection as you brought love and fun into her life.
God Bless.
Sundae's mum. xx
I was fortunate that Sundae and I shared a sense of humour and one thing I shall never forget is her laugh. :)
Touched, thank mum please.
I still think of Sundae with affection too. Please give my best to her parents.
Thank you Carruthers.
Carruthers! Thanks for passing the message on. Also, she wasn't the only one we thought fondly of. Stick around for a bit?
Quite chivalrous of you Carruthers, thanks.
Thank you Mr. Carruthers.
...one thing I shall never forget is her laugh.
I wish I could have heard it.
You have been missed, also, sir. How's things?
Thanks Carruthers, please bounce it back to her Mum.
It was a double tragedy because we lost you too. :(
I still carry the last present she sent me in my wallet. Miss her. Sigh.
Can't believe it's been a whole year.
I miss Sundae Girl, there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her.
I miss her, especially at XMas time. Hugs and love to her family.
Thank you Mr. Carruthers.
...one thing I shall never forget is her laugh.
I wish I could have heard it.
You have been missed, also, sir. How's things?
I remember during one our frequent phone conversations I gave Sundae an account of a Doc’s appointment I had attended that day.
Let’s just say that the nature of the consultation was such that it would be difficult to emerge from with even a shred of dignity intact. Oh, and did I mention that the GP was a woman?
Suffice to say that when I got to the ‘best bit’ (depends on your point of view, of course) she roared with laughter.
I can still hear those gales of laughter in my mind’s ear
* as if it was yesterday.
As we all know, Sundae had more than her fair share of troubles but she did know how to laugh. :)
*If you can see something in your mind’s eye, you can hear something in your mind’s ear. QED.
How am I? Kind of you to ask Mr G.
I’ve been very lucky with my health but now I am in er… ‘later middle age’ the ageing process has set in with an intensity for which I was not prepared.
I must stress that my troubles pale into insignificance compared to what some poor souls have to endure but I’ve really been felled by my energy levels falling off a cliff a few months ago.
I haven’t slept well for years and although lack of energy is a separate issue, the two problems overlap somewhat.
Mental energy has suffered similarly so it could be said that my get up and go got up and went.
There are two or three other problems with which I will not trouble you.
Consider yourselves lucky that you've been spared accounts of those. :eek:
I'm sure you'd make us laugh as well. I completely understand the issues of advancing middle age, shredded dignity in medical matters, and having that one person in your life who's laughter makes your heart sing, brother. :yesnod:
This is such a sad thread. I've been away from the Cellar for some time, so I had no idea that Sundae had passed away (although I wondered why I wasn't seeing any posts from her). She always had something interesting to say and her posts often made me smile - I especially enjoyed the pics she shared with us.
RIP sweet Sundae. You are missed. :sniff:
I'm sure you'd make us laugh as well ...
You have done in the past, after all, Carruthers! x
Sundae's mum tells me that the Peace Lily the Cellar bought her is flourishing. She wishes all Dwellars well this Christmas on behalf of herself and Sundae's dad. x
That's good news, thanks Limey.
Skol
What Lumberjim Said.
:cry:
Just re-read the thread.
:cry:
That big grin at the end of the song makes me miss her
Thanks, limey. Hard to believe it's been a year.
Thanks, limey. Hard to believe it's been a year.
That's because it's two, I think, unless my math skills are failing me :(
That's because it's two, I think, unless my math skills are failing me :(
Perhaps she was referring to the year between limey's two consecutive posts in this thread, the last of '17 and the first of '18.
That's because it's two, I think, unless my math skills are failing me
Goddammit. I think I must be trying to erase 2018 from my memory. What a shitty fucking year.
Whats ' Skoal' mean? Gee Jim has it really been 2 yrs?
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It's derivitive of skull. Vikings would drink from the skull of fallen enemies aa a sign of respect for the vanquished foe. They'd yell Skoll! Now it's a football cheer and a toast word.
What a shitty fucking year.
In spades. For me, it's been one long, continuous kick square in the nards.
It had its ups and downs.
I wouldn't of missed it for the world, great entertainment!
You just want to watch the world burn.
I'm with Clod and Grav, worst year in a long time.
When the world burns, toast marshmallows and life is sweet again.
When the world burns, toast marshmallows and life is sweet again.
Yeah, if ya got any left.
It ain't the world I'm worried about.
Fuck the world.
