There's never going to be a good time to tell you

That beest has advanced cancer :cry: It's a horrible shock, we don't really want to talk about it (please respect that), but we at least owe you guys the knowledge of what is happening to us. Chemo starts Thursday. And don't offer to cook meals or clean the house. We know you mean well, but we just need rides for the boys to keep them on our usual completely crazy unmanageable schedule. We understand if you're too far away ;)

And yes, still atheist. :flipbird:

Aw man, fuck cancer.:mad:

I'm glad you told us. And this sucks. And we (silently) got your back.

cancer = chemo = no fucking. which is fun. so let's "DrWho" cancer and go back in time and mess up that first mutant cell mmmkay? ;)

Fuck Cancer

Fill some paintballs with a cocktail of wonder drugs, and hunt that sumbitch down.

many paintball experiences on the bucket list, apparently

sadly, the next big adventure was this weekend coming, so this is not a go, but he did get cleared to paintball with his port, so watch this space :D

Thanks for letting us know beestmonster. We'll be watching.

It's better to know. I respect your wishes and so my silent thoughts are with you. Go kick ass as always.

Fuck cancer. I'll say no more than that.

Sent by thought transference

Mother. Fucker.

*sigh* goddammit.

Aaaaugh. So sorry. Fuck cancer.

goddamn it. Thanks for letting us know.

monster;939161 wrote:

but he did get cleared to paintball with his port, so watch this space :D

Good. Gotta try to keep things normal where you can and enjoy what you can.

You've also got my silent support.

What the cock

This blows so many donkeys I stopped counting at infinity.

Super fucking shitty.

Thanks for keeping us in the loop, hon. Hugs to you both.

'Dr Who' the almighty fuck out of cancer.

monster;939151 wrote:

And yes, still atheist. :flipbird:

Praying for you guys anyway. :flipbird:

Fuck cancer.

What Grav said. Except I'm not gonna flip you off.

Friendly flip off, friendly...Hope you guys know that, Beest & Monster & clan.

oh yes, it's the family greeting

Not saying anything.
You know what I'm thinking.

Just thanks for telling us.

Shitshitshit fucking fuck...
Damn ... :(

that fucking sucks !!!!

Thinking of you and beest and the family. Very sorry you're going through this.

That's shit. I fucking hate this world sometimes. Thoughts are with you from over the pond. xx

Thank you for letting us know. Everyone, atheist or not, could benefit from prayers. I will silently send one or many your way.

We're here with you. Fuck cancer.

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:( been beating the odds (and getting biweekly chemo) for a year but the drugs don't work anymore. New chemo drug added, this one's gonna cause the real sickness and hairloss :( just keeping you updated, still don't really want to talk about it.

Thanks.

Shave his head before he goes.

Got Weed? Srsly, it helps.

Thanks for letting us know. Be brave.

:hug:

Well...

Shit.

Fuck cancer.

Fuckit.


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Fuck Cancer

:(

There's never going to be a good time to react

Undertoad;971218 wrote:

There's never going to be a good time to react

:) This is just a way of keeping you all updated so nothing comes as a hugemongous fucking horrible surprise. . We know you care, thank you :)

Power to the Beestmonster.

Uggh. Thinking of you all.

Fuck fucking cancer. :(

*hugs*

OK, maybe I'm ready to talk a little. Maybe one of the hardest and easiest things is he just doesn't look sick. No-one knows unless we tell them. His doctor is kind of flabbergasted by this. He said when we met he expected him to be in a wheelchair after seeing the images. he still says he doesn't look sick and he is surprised every time. he also said he shouldn't play paintball anymore because he has to take blood thinners and the welts might be risky.

:rolleyes:

...so here he is a couple of weekends ago, all set to play with his team in Indiana, 'cept for the small matter of the chemo pump still attached and running in that sexy black fanny pack. Chemo infusion actually lasts 2.5 days -first 8 hours at the hospital then home with the pack. Once it finished, he removed it, taped the armor we made from the bottom of a coke can over his port and entered the fray :D

Fuckin A. never give up. Go Beest.

Coke can armor... Nice

I like Beest's attitude. I sincerely believe that has a significant impact on his physical health health, and I know it has everything to do with his mental health. I'm rooting for you Beest.

I really don't know what to say that doesn't sound trite or cliche, but I'm sorry you guys are having to go through this cancer bullshit.

My thoughts are with you all.

And mad props for the DIY armor.

It's hard to know what to say.

But I will say that the couple times I've been lucky enough to hang with the beestmonster clan I've been impressed with beest's demeanor. He has this quiet strength about him. In my opinion, that is a big compliment.

The Beest be hardcore.

:fingerx::fingerx:

What Grav said.

Yeah, hardcore, look who he married. :lol2:

He's as hard as woodpecker lips.

He's harder than Chinese arithmetic.

Headed to Rome in two days to see the things he's always wanted to see. it was supposed to be in the "good week" of his current oral chemo treatment, but today doc declared that a dead duck with growing tumor and new nasties so he's back on infused chemo the minute we get back, and we have a letter requesting last on and first off the long haul flights. And some anti clot shit to go through. but we're still going. when I heard there was bad news yesterday. I was sure we'd have to cancel. sorry, just can't be arsed to capitalize sentences properly

Not good news but could be worse news. Hope the trip goes smoothly for you.

Glad you are going anyway

Rome is beautiful ... or so I hear. Hope you have an awesome time!

classicman;992903 wrote:

Rome is beautiful ... or so I hear. Hope you have an awesome time!

Yes. What they said. Hope it goes well for you. X

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I hope you guys enjoy every minute of it.

Truly. Try to enjoy it.

Have fun!

Have him throw coins in the fountain. ;)

Wishing you guys a fantastic trip. Hes lucky to have you Monster.

xoxoxoBruce;992988 wrote:

Have him throw coins in the fountain. ;)

Coins???

Bellyflop!!!

No coins, throwing a coin from the right hand over the left shoulder will ensure that you will return to Rome in the future.

were at the Trevi this evening, no coins were thrown.

[COLOR="PaleTurquoise"]The legend doesn't say anything about how/when you'll return and if you'll actually want to.... you might be on the flight home and get turned back, for example...[/COLOR]

Or a volcano in Iceland might erupt, canceling all transatlantic flights. Like a couple years ago.

egg zacktly. knowing our luck, we'd have hit a cop and ended up with a free room for the night

I am so sorry

I thought you'd want him to be able to return to Rome under any circumstances. My bad.

Hashtag corrupted wish


Have fun you guys, and travel safely.

Update: a few weeks ago he had a life-threatening reaction to the chemo, so that's over and there's nothing to stop the growth of the tumors attacking the liver. He's in liver failure and has a couple more months. yesterday we told the kids and today his mom. So now it's not a secret. but I'm still not discussing it on facebook.

Life sucks, dudes. :( But we did have a fucking good time and have three amazing offspring to show for it. Would just have liked to be able to grow old with my best friend and partner in crime, and do all the things we put off because we were raising beestmonsterlets.

I will keep you posted, but not very often because I'm not really into discussing it most of the time.

Tomorrow a surgery and another overnight in the hospital to deal with the bleeding issue from last week.

:mecry:

:sniff:

:sniff: damn, so sorry.

Fuck. I'm so sorry.

:sniff:

xoxoxoBruce;939160 wrote:

Fill some paintballs with a cocktail of wonder drugs, and hunt that sumbitch down.

I've told him I'mm'a have him made into paintballs :)

Well that just sucks. I'm sorry guys. :sniff:

Sorry to hear this

It brings tears to my eyes to read this, because my brother went the same way.

He's 46, btw. 46

Goddamn. I've erased a hundred words here. I've got no advice, no wisdom. I cannot grok. My mind just goes blank.

I'm so sorry monster.

thanks all. I know. 2 hours into the 4ish hour surgery.

sat in the cafeteria looking out of the window, killing time on the interwebs when my computer doesn't crash. somehow managed not to put the mouse in the backpack, so can 't really play my favorite mindless game..... ho hum

monster;1004603 wrote:

He's 46, btw. 46

My brother made it to 50. He was not one to trust doctors, but finally had to do something. He had a colon cancer was like a donut around his intestine. It metasfied to the liver and that was all she wrote. The surgeon said it probably started 7 years before it was detected. Turns out he wasn't fat at all. His body was drowning in fluid.

So sorry to hear that news, monster.

Best wishes to you all.

captainhook455;1004606 wrote:

My brother made it to 50. He was not one to trust doctors, but finally had to do something. He had a colon cancer was like a donut around his intestine. It metasfied to the liver and that was all she wrote. The surgeon said it probably started 7 years before it was detected. Turns out he wasn't fat at all. His body was drowning in fluid.

with all due respect, this is not comforting

Shit. Shit shit shit. So sorry Monster.

Yeah, trying to come up with something to say is mind-boggling. This news just sux!! Hopefully they don't got it right, maybe?!? My heart goes out to all of you.

It's of little comfort now, but going forward you'll appreciate you two had a hell of a run, did amazing things, produced smart kids, things most do not accomplish in a hundred years on earth.

Even if it seemed like chaos much of the time. :)

Oh monster. :sniff: 46 is so young...

My heart is breaking for you and your family.

Goddamn, life can be so fucking unfair.

Love to you all.

Five hour surgery but it went well. Should be home tomorrow. Im headed home getting Chinese takeout for dinner

That's good to hear. :thumb:

you're right--never a good time.

But you post here whenever the fuck you want to. you're my friends and I care, even if , no, *especially if* you have terrible news. Give Beest a hug or a fake high five or some googly eyes or whatever it is you guys do to express my internet-endearment. And have him give you one from me, too.

Fuck.

Fuck cancer.

I'm so sorry to hear this monster. My heart breaks for both of you.

Fuck cancer. Twice!

We are continuing to pray for ya buddy :)

monster;1004583 wrote:

Update: a few weeks ago he had a life-threatening reaction to the chemo, so that's over and there's nothing to stop the growth of the tumors attacking the liver. He's in liver failure and has a couple more months.

So last week (Thurs) the doctor's visit changed the months to weeks --at the start-- ...by the end, the "out in the hallway" discussion was down to days. It's been horrible, we're on home hospice, if&when we decide to let them intrude ;)

OK I'm done sharing. I'm kinda cool with no responses/thought and prayers if you catch my drift. Just don't want you to be shocked when the next news comes. :(

OK. Sorry, I was being unfair. I'm cool with responses too :) It sucks. All y'all know him and love him too, it sucks for you too. Sorry. It is ok for me to be selfish right now, but that was overly-selfish. Have at it.

There's not a fucking thing I can say to express my sorrow or help yours. :mecry:

no words :(

Goddamn.

:(

Sorry Monster. Fuck cancer

monster, you and Beest and the whole aquatic clan are my dear friends. I feel horrible right along with you. You all have my love from waaay out here. So, so sorry.

I will say little, but know that I feel it hard.

I can't imagine how hard this must be. If you need to vent, rant, wail, sob . . . know that we are all here for you.

:(

so soon. god.

Good day, Beest. I said Good Day.

sorry Monster. Let me know if you need anything at all.

Shit. I hate this for you guys.

Any day now. maybe today. it's like we suddenly plunged off a cliff. I'm so sad and lonely (but I don't want any other company). He's just sleeping, occasionally waking to shift position but ignoring me mostly. he knows I'm here and appreciates it, but just has other issues to deal with

and.... we did most of the necessaries -wills financial plan etc, but we didn't get to the passwords for everything. So I'mm'a need a good hacker. i wonder how good thor really is? he seems to accidentally manage to get round any app/game blocker we put on his phone
:D

(real worry, though, I don't know his email password -he had to change it and I never learned the new one....)

I keep checking this thread with a lump in my throat every time it updates. Your family is our family and I'm sorry.

ya know, I'll start another thread when he's gone, one that's straight to the point. so don't worry, cf. thanks all. i just decided to facebook message a group of swim mom friends and that was helpful. I felt less alone

Is banana lady here?

kind of.

she's in a hotel round the corner. My awesome sis helped change the short notice flights she had for April to immediate flights, but she was only supposed to be visiting while he could still spend quality time with people, but it's suddenly gone so fast.... He just wants to slip away quietly, just me here, no kids, no mom. No-one watching him when he looks and feels like crap. she leave thursday. allegedly. call me harsh, i don't fucking care. i want to spend all my time looking after and worrying about him, not her. She "doesn't want to be any bother" but she is

So sorry to hear this

We're as here as we can be hon.

Yep, I'm here too.

Be whatever you want. No apologies, no justifications, be, be with. You are all good.

We are here for you, and your family.

Monster, you and Beest and the weans have been in my thoughts every day. And still are, and will be. xxx

Yeah. I'm not saying much, but am thinking about you pretty much constantly.

Me too, a lot. :sniff:
monster, I know you are distraught but please be patient with banana lady, she has loved him longer than you have.

Hi monster

Thinking about you a your family

xoxoxoBruce;1005622 wrote:

Me too, a lot. :sniff:
monster, I know you are distraught but please be patient with banana lady, she has loved him longer than you have.

please feel free to fuck right off any time you like

As you wish.:notworthy