What's the Best Question to ask on the First Date?

The Guardian suggests...

What's the best question to ask on a first date? Many forests have been felled for books dissecting this question, but a few years back the dating website OKCupid.com made a startling intervention.

If you want to know the chances of a first encounter ending in sex, its analysts said, the question to ask is, "Do you like the taste of beer?" If you're concerned with long-term compatibility, the question is, "Do you like horror movies?"

When registering, OKCupid users answer hundreds of seemingly innocuous queries – the one about beer, it transpires, is most strongly correlated with positive views of first-date sex. Liking or disliking horror films, meanwhile, is a better predictor of a lasting relationship than beliefs about God.

We could invent theories to explain this: maybe people who score highly on "sensation-seeking", as psychologists call it, enjoy both casual sex and cheap ways to get drunk? But the point about Big Data is that you don't need theories. The correlations are there, whether or not they seem to make sense.

I would have said, ask what you want to know about them. No wonder I struck out so often. :haha:

I reckon a good one is, "where do you see yourself in ten years".

Also, you could ask how they feel about sex on the first date.

if I want to know her taste in beer i'll ask her about beer, that decides where we drink.
if i want to know her taste in sex i'll ask her about sex, that decides how and where we shag.
surely nobody can be dumb enough to confuse beer with getting jiggy-jiggy?

It seems rather desperate, to need to know whether you're going to get laid a whole two-three hours before you find out for sure. I understand wanting to know if you're going to get laid within the first month, or if you'll have to go so far as to marry her first... But asking about the first date on the first date smacks of impatience, it's like spoiling the end of the movie while you're sitting in the theater.

I ask "How do you feel about buying jewellery?"
Funny how I've never even got to the sex part.

best question for a first date:
"well, do you want a shag or not?"
get that out the way and then you can both get on with enjoying the date.

is that cool or what?

Clodfobble;889989 wrote:

It seems rather desperate, to need to know whether you're going to get laid a whole two-three hours before you find out for sure.

But how will I know if I should bother with that expensive toilet water, and unripped underwear?

I understand wanting to know if you're going to get laid within the first month, or if you'll have to go so far as to marry her first... But asking about the first date on the first date smacks of impatience, it's like spoiling the end of the movie while you're sitting in the theater.

What? It's the first concern on every date.




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first date first question, both participants:

Did you bring condoms?

"WTF are you doing on a date with someone like me?"

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Q: What's the Best Question to ask on the First Date?

A: Do you have any questions?

The OK Cupid blog is fascinating reading even though they haven't updated it in two years... even if you aren't in the dating game.

xoxoxoBruce;890005 wrote:

But how will I know if I should bother with that expensive toilet water, and unripped underwear?

And the boner pill.

I thought the best question was "What's the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?"

"...what's the matter, you don't like pizza?"




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So if one likes beer and horror movies, is that a good sign or a bad sign?

I think that's a perfecta. If the person also owns a movie theater or is a beer distributer, then that's a trifecta.


Hey farto.

I love beer. I love scary movies. I own a movie theater that has a 'make your own beer' bar. I own a bar that shows scary movies 24/7. The movie theater is named Beerz and the bar is named Moviez.

Yet here my ass sits all alone. :lol:

Well, I'm off to buy a pizza parlor that serves beer and shows scary movies 24/7. Not sure what I'm gonna call it. Any suggestions?

infinite monkey;890448 wrote:

I love beer. I love scary movies. I own a movie theater that has a 'make your own beer' bar. I own a bar that shows scary movies 24/7. The movie theater is named Beerz and the bar is named Moviez.

Yet here my ass sits all alone. :lol:

Well, I'm off to buy a pizza parlor that serves beer and shows scary movies 24/7. Not sure what I'm gonna call it. Any suggestions?

Home Sweet Home?

That's funny. I just went to get a frozen pizza and some beer for later.

Yeah, I'm a real catch. ;)

What kind of frozen pizza?

And less importantly, what kind of beer?

My refined tastes are just a small part of why I'm such a catch:

Totinos pizza and Miller Lite. :D

I like Miller Lite.

And I'm sometimes curious about who makes the best frozen pizza. Haven't heard of Totinos. Must be a regional thing. Is it good? What kind? Pepperoni?

Oh, it's not good. They're little tiny cheap pizzas...but I love the crispy crunchy crust. And it cost a buck. I got triple pepp 'cause they were out of combination pepp and saus. Triple pepp means there are about three small pepperonis slices like you would find on REAL pizza, cut into tiny pieces and scattered around. They used to be about the size of an album and now they're the size of a 45.

Mom always kept them in the freezer when we were teenagers.

They sound perfect for an after school snack.

Digiornos.

lumberjim;890478 wrote:

Digiornos.

Bless you!

First date question:

"Do you hate these family reunions as much as I do?" :D

I think it's more important to take a good history, do a mini mental status and run a criminal background check before proceeding.

"I'd like to talk to you about your record."
"MY RECORD? What the hell you wanna talk about that for? I done my time. I paid my debt to society. How was I to know she was only fifteen, she looked eighteen to me..."
"No, your MUSIC record. Your new album."
"Oh. That."

Whoa, foot3, you never let on you were part of the Belieber's entourage.

I'm with wolf. A complete history/MS exam answers most questions. The physical can wait 'til later.

Ha ha Ortho! I guess they didn't import Cheech and Chong to Canadia.

I'm probably the only person in the western hemisphere who hasn't seen it. :o

Or heard it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Bambu

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orthodoc;890933 wrote:

I'm probably the only person in the western hemisphere who hasn't seen it. :o

if UK counts as Western Hemisphere then that's two of us.
odds and sods of clips - yes, the whole thing - no.

I had "Big Bamboo" on 8 Track tape. :)

I almost forgot "Dave's not Here"

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There are no good questions for the first date. If it goes to the 2nd or 3rd date there will be time enough for questions.

Then how do you fill the time on the first date? :haha:

xoxoxoBruce;897164 wrote:

Then how do you fill the time on the first date? :haha:

If you will note the title was for the "best question" and my comment referred to "good questions", there are lots of bad questions, but the acceptable questions are the ones that come up naturally in conversation. Questions that are planed ahead will just lead to stiff and unnatural conversation. If you go on a date with a list of questions in your pocket, there is unlikely to be a second date, or sex on the first.

There are also things that you shouldn't say on a first date, or early in the relationship. I was dating a woman right after I had separated from my first wife, and she made the comment that she evaluates every man she dates as husband material. That was like waving a red flag at me. and some time later I called the relationship off. I now realize that I could have been happily married to her, but for that unfortunate comment at that time.

Yeah, you were understandably gun shy at that point.
Nobody was suggesting a list of written questions. The point of the thread was to determine what information you would need to evaluate potential compatibility or conflict, and do it without wasting too much time or resources. Of course everybody has different concerns and priorities.

Hands down, first question, on the first date... Yo Babe, bring enough cash to entertain me in a manner to which I'd like to become accustomed?


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xoxoxoBruce;897177 wrote:

Yeah, you were understandably gun shy at that point.
Nobody was suggesting a list of written questions. The point of the thread was to determine what information you would need to evaluate potential compatibility or conflict, and do it without wasting too much time or resources. Of course everybody has different concerns and priorities.

Hands down, first question, on the first date... Yo Babe, bring enough cash to entertain me in a manner to which I'd like to become accustomed?


:haha:

That question would certainly narrow the choices.

As far as wasting time, sometimes just being with another person is enough. If your time is that valuable (to you) perhaps you shouldn't be wasting it dating in the first place.

It reminds me of a conversation I had with someone about a hobby, and he stated that his time was too valuable to spend on certain activities. My thought was that your time is worth nothing unless someone is willing to pay you for it, and then only what they will pay, regardless how much you might ask.

How about, "Do you clean bathrooms?'

Griff;897195 wrote:

How about, "Do you clean bathrooms?'

That is definitely a question SHE should ask.

BardoXV;897188 wrote:

As far as wasting time, sometimes just being with another person is enough. If your time is that valuable (to you) perhaps you shouldn't be wasting it dating in the first place.

Depends on what you are using dating for.
A means to get out of the house and/or a free meal/movie? I'd guess most people consider dating as part of the mate selection process. No reason not to discard that moonlight walks on the beach bullshit up front, to do it in the most efficient way you're comfortable with.

It reminds me of a conversation I had with someone about a hobby, and he stated that his time was too valuable to spend on certain activities. My thought was that your time is worth nothing unless someone is willing to pay you for it, and then only what they will pay, regardless how much you might ask.

That's where you're stone fucking wrong. His time is the most valuable thing he has, it makes diamonds and gold look shabby.

xoxoxoBruce;897211 wrote:

That's where you're stone fucking wrong. His time is the most valuable thing he has, it makes diamonds and gold look shabby.

As I remember the conversation, his reference was to monetary value, not intrinsic value. Yes, my time, to me, is the most valuable thing I have, but this person was clear in that he was placing a monetary value on the use of his time. But in the sense of a hobby, even the most mundane activities can be quite rewarding. I read an account of a person who was restoring an old ship model that was built plank on frame. As he was removing the planks he discovered that the original builder had written the days current events on the underside of the planks he was installing that day. This writing would never be seen once the model was built, but he spent his time doing it anyway. How you use your time is for you to choose, and should not be determined by how much someone is willing to pay you.

Yet the old saying is time is money. You are free to choose; however, you are not free from the consequences of your choices.

"Does this smell like chloroform to you?"

There used to be good questions to ask on a first date like "Jeepers, creepers, where'd you get those peepers..." and "What's new pussycat? Whoa-oh-whoa-whoa-whoa..."; alas, those days are gone.

Ketchup or mustard on your hot dog?

Spit, or, swallow?

footfootfoot;897253 wrote:

"Does this smell like chloroform to you?"

lol

Best follow up questions:

"Are you sure? Why don't you try another whiff?"

Do you know anyone named Sherry?

Are you a friend of Dorothy's?

sexobon;897455 wrote:

Do you know anyone named Sherry?

I did 'a long time ago', but that was 'a long time ago'.

Are you recording this?

Do you see the little red light? Smile for the camera.

Do you have any hobbies?

Oh yes, I have the entire Holly Hobbie collection! Want to see it?

What's your favorite color?