The things we do.

As we read our way around the cellar over and over we see the fragility of our shared experience. Personally I feel like I play whack-a-mole with the behaviors and life-style choices which are hurting me. That feeling must be more immediate for Infinite, Ortho, Sundae, and Buster right now. Several others of us are managing very dangerous physical and mental health issues with more or less success. I dunno where I'm going with this, just feeling my own mortality amid the more immediate pain of others. This is wandering but I hope everyone can reflect on what they need to stay above the grass.

I need to:
1) not drink
2) manage my work stress and commit to balance
3) get enough exercise to feel alive
4) get back into meditation
5) love my family

*2 - I've been asked about taking that management gig again, which I'm sure with my personality would turn into an all-consuming black hole of stress

If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you.

I read your sig line and take it to heart. Life ain't always easy. So we have to focus on the good as best we can, and revel in those things.

I need to:

1) Decide what I want to be when I grow up
2) Not isolate
3) Not catastrophize
4) Remember that I am loved
5) Keep being me: even when the intensity of certain aspects of me scares some people. ;)

infinite monkey;864710 wrote:

I read your sig line and take it to heart.)

me too. i say it to myself and others, alarmingly frequently.

just, ya know.

I need:
1. to remember that stasis is death, momentum may be hard, but its what makes me sane
2. to remember that my husband loves me - his demonstations may be different than others, but it's non the less real
3. to remember that I am living the life that I want, if I only live it
4. to do better at minding my health
5. to assure myself that I am a multi-talented, multi-faceted woman

It warms my heart to see you all off to such an early start on planning your New Year's resolutions.

[COLOR="White"]You ARE going to procrastinate aren't you?

Of course you are.[/COLOR]

like walking in the rain and the snow
when theres nowhere to go
when you're feeling like a part of you is dying...

sexobon;864774 wrote:

It warms my heart to see you all off to such an early start on planning your New Year's resolutions.

[COLOR="White"]You ARE going to procrastinate aren't you?

Of course you are.[/COLOR]

:snicker:

I need to:

1. Beat the cravings and eat the right foods
2. Be satisfied with the things I accomplish
3. Demand less of my children
4. Quit wishing for life to just hurry up
5. Remember to show my care for others instead of just thinking it

Clod, your wishes remind me of myself. Almost exactly.

Ugh. I'm pushing harder, in multiple areas, than I ever have before. I honestly drill through re-creating this type of list, throughout the course of every single day, and usually conclude that I don't know what else I can do. I guess,

1) Be more forgiving of myself and others
2) Be more appreciative of myself and others

3) Narrow down the list of areas I will focus on
...a) Areas to research, study
...b) Balance of time, work vs. study
...c) Time spent on networking activities
...d) How important is it to have a perfect physique?
...e) Am I giving myself downtime, or goofing off?

4) Reduce inaction via over-analysis (procrastination)

5) Take more time to stop and listen to people
6) Not snap and bite people's heads off

7) Get more sleep, consistently
...a) Process the above 10 items in a away that makes this possible

8) Remind myself what I am able to accomplish
9) Forgive myself for my faults and past mistakes

10) See the light at the end of the tunnel

5. Remember to show my care for others instead of just thinking it

The James Taylor song, "...shower the people you love with love..." always makes me think, damnit I need to do more of that. I've been trying to stay more in touch with my friends. I've been trying to balance the time I spend with my kids vs. the time I spend with my spouse. For God's sake there's only so many hours in the day. I try to spend the time that I have as quality time.

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Want to see a guy who has ƒucked up beyond recognition, but isn't beating himself up about it? I guess you can't move forward while you're dragging around every bad thing you've ever done, or thought about yourself. This guy, I don't know how full of sh!t he is (he doesn't have a good track record in this regard) and I can't believe some of the acts he admits to, but I guess you have to be able to be honest about how ƒucked up you are, or else you're just stuck there, forever.

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sexobon;864774 wrote:

It warms my heart to see you all off to such an early start on planning your New Year's resolutions.

[COLOR="White"]You ARE going to procrastinate aren't you?

Of course you are.[/COLOR]

Thing is I don't do New Years resolutions. I commit to things when they're relevant, like now.

Clodfobble;864862 wrote:

5. Remember to show my care for others instead of just thinking it

This one

Griff;864901 wrote:

Thing is I don't do New Years resolutions. I commit to things when they're relevant, like now.

You rebel you. Heaven forbid that anything be relevant at New Year's. :rolleyes:

fuck off

Griff;864703 wrote:

... I need to:
1) not drink
2) manage my work stress and commit to balance
3) get enough exercise to feel alive
4) get back into meditation
5) love my family
6) fuck off
...

FIFY asswipe. :p:

Wow, this thread got nasty quickly.

I was going for a Guinness World Record; but, Griff is kinda slow in responding. He's out, you're in. Wanna fight?

Nope. My 'fighting on the cellar' days are over. lol

It's all about free love for me now.

Wanna make love?

[SIZE="7"]GONE FISHING[/SIZE]

[Kermit]Yaaaaaaaaaaaaay, A NEW RECORD, yaaaaaaaaaaay![/Kermit]

did someone say "Go for a Guinness"?

1) Push Bran Stark out of a window.

1) Push bran muffins out a window
2) Push a Sleestak out a window

;)

1) Push Ender Wiggin too far.

I love it when I don't understand the references in threads. Sleestak, Ender Wiggin ... hooray! I'm on board. As long as everybody stops fighting.

1) Pity the Formics.

Happy Monkey;865210 wrote:

1) Push Bran Stark out of a window.

Again? Can't that poor kid catch a break?

All right, looked up Ender Wiggin and the Formics. Tired of fighting.

Dance me to the end of love.

orthodoc;865268 wrote:

... Dance me to the end of love.

Sounds like the sequel to Dances with Goats.

No, it's the end to The Civil Wars.

footfootfoot;865266 wrote:

Again? Can't that poor kid catch a break?

So you didn't read the last book? ;)

orthodoc;865273 wrote:

No, it's the end to The Civil Wars.

The point to wars is that people don't have to be civil and can have more fun.

Fuddy-duddy, I'll bet you're after Trilby's crone - :crone: ... :D

Happy Monkey;865210 wrote:

1) Push Bran Stark out of a window.

orthodoc;865248 wrote:

I love it when I don't understand the references in threads. Sleestak, Ender Wiggin ... hooray! I'm on board. As long as everybody stops fighting.

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Griff;864703 wrote:

I hope everyone can reflect on what they need to stay above the grass.

Here Here, agreed. I am now so close to 50 that a lot of this mortality shit is getting inside my head seemingly all the time. It is really harshing my mellow. I find myself feeling tired more, in pain more, stressed more ... ugghhh. and then I add to that the What happens to Dan after I die and all that shit. I'm doing my best to avoid it as thats the only thing which seems to help right now (temporarily at least)

I need to get out more. See Mr. Sun more. Play more disc golf and get some exercise.

My #1) was to stop smoking and I did. I am a nonsmoker.
My new #1) is to lose weight ... WTF??? I gained like 15 lbs since between Jan-Mar. I've kept it at that since. but at 185 I feel like shit all the time. I lost my flexibility and my skin feels weird like is fat or thick or or or I dunno. I've never been this way before.
Anyway, I'd also like to say that your sig line has been a motto of mine since first reading it.

My morning stretch has been getting more and more elaborate. Working with an unpleasant person literally gives me a stiff neck, so its important that I keep up with it. I used to just do exercise to shed weight but "when we get to a certain age," we have to watch portions. I think I'm going to buy my first scale...

Dan adds a complicating factor to you growing older, I wish you and him the best as you figure it out.

See Mr Blue Sky too (ELO).
I did that yesterday.
Sat in the park, in the shade and was pleased with what ever else the world was pleased with.

I've always walked Ever since I was a child.
No, seriously, it's the exercise I've always enjoyed and I've never had to pay for and it achieves more than one objective.

But you know what?
It's got so much bloomin' easier!
I'm not hefting around 17 stone 10*.
Walking down to big Tesco is not a chore. Were I buying a weeks groceries then I would still need to take a shopping trolley. But the walk there and back is nothing.
I doubt I'm any fitter than I was, but it's just all that much more pleasant.

* that's 248 lbs
I am now 182
Not a lightweight by any means, but minus four stone ten makes a real difference.