I have a stalker

It's kinda of scary and kind of amusing. But it's now official.

There's this woman -a mother of a kid at our school- who is kind of extrememly nuts. Officially. We met when my current 5th-grader was in 2nd grade and her only child was in 1st grade. I had to babysit her on a field trip while the teacher pretended she was an official chaperone. It was horrible. We'd just met, were looking after a bunch of 7-year-olds and she was sharing all her nuthouse admission stories with me -and that she'd only just got out again. And paying no attention to the kids.

But I've managed to avoid her for a few years......

Now, a "friend" added her to the facebook group for the fundraiser I do, and she's decided to do it with a vengeance. And turns up each week and wants to chat and "get to know each other better" (why? we have NOTHING in comon). plus she never remembers anything and asks the same questions again and again.....

... today she told me she was thinking about me (and my fundraiser) all week.....

Just lonely, maybe? No. Here's why I'm starting to think about panicking (she's not gay, it's not that type of stalky -that I can handle -my jawline is very masculine, my hair is short and my shoes are usally flat.....):

Another mom helps me at the Scrip Stores (the fundraiser). She's a shrink. An ER on call for no-one-else-can-work-it-out type shrink. The Major Crazies. And a friend.
(1) She spotted her as a nutter straight away. OK, many would
(2) She was alarmed by how much this woman knows about me -stuff that even she didn't know, and it then occurred to me that I have never told this woman a lot o what she knows about me. And I'm not all that googlable either :eek: For example (and this was the case my shrink friend cited).... I have a PhD -all y'all know that because this is the interwebs, I can be braggy- but in real life, it's a need to know basis. And not many need to
(3) Shrink was concerned -and amused- by how she gloms on to me. I'm taking the fact that the shrink finds it funny as a reassurement that the nutter is not going to go postal......

But please, was I really that bad in a former life?

Scary, No?

FTR - I do not know this woman.

Creepy.

Can you train her to be your obedient minion?

Well if it gets too bad, you are officially welcome here on the East Coast, although maybe you should considering moving closer to Zen....

Zen for the win.

One thing that nearly always works with super crazy people is to be crazier thaan them. Or at least get them to think you are. A lot of crazies like her glom onto people who they see as a source of stability or whatever non crazy thing they lack. You function as sort of a touchstone or sanity benchmark. When you start being more crazy than her, she no longer has a point of sanity reference and will run away from you.

At least that's why I stop stalking people.

At one point she volunteered for a finance committee position. She thought this put her in charge of me and my fundraiser and kept calling me to learn more about it. I stopped answering the phone. I had forgotten this until now. I think that was sunconscious self preservation. The treasurer "fired" her from that position. Oh ugh.

My problem is that I do need minions, they were about to put the call out for volunteers and I do not want this one. But I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm sure she means well.

monster;800842 wrote:

I'm sure she means to put me in a well and has me rubs it on my skin.

FTFY;)

footfootfoot;800839 wrote:

Zen for the win.

One thing that nearly always works with super crazy people is to be crazier thaan them. Or at least get them to think you are. A lot of crazies like her glom onto people who they see as a source of stability or whatever non crazy thing they lack. You function as sort of a touchstone or sanity benchmark. When you start being more crazy than her, she no longer has a point of sanity reference and will run away from you.

At least that's why I stop stalking people.

This is also full of win.

Oh gawd if she only knew the truth.... maybe that's why shrink mom volunteered to help with the store ....she could see behind my stable facade.... :eek:

monster;800855 wrote:

Oh gawd if she only knew the truth.... maybe that's why shrink mom volunteered to help with the store ....she could see behind my stable facade.... :eek:

I met you. The stable facade was just baaaaarely in place.

;)

monster;800842 wrote:

... But I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm sure she means well.

Plus, she might boil your bunny if you upset her.

I will not be ignored Van! ;)

Those kind always find me. I usually hope for a public act of harmless craziness towards me in front of witnesses. They don't usually like for more than one at a time to see their instability...

monster;800807 wrote:

... (2) She was alarmed by how much this woman knows about me -stuff that even she didn't know, and it then occurred to me that I have never told this woman a lot o what she knows about me. And I'm not all that googlable either :eek: For example (and this was the case my shrink friend cited).... I have a PhD -all y'all know that because this is the interwebs, I can be braggy- but in real life, it's a need to know basis. And not many need to ...

Even adults who are careful about putting their names out in the virtual world will put their children's names out there figuring that it doesn't matter for them. Unfortunately, if the children's names are uncommon and/or make for an uncommon combination of names in one family, then a Google search can be revealing. I entered just 3 first names, in alphabetical order, into the Google search box and these were results #1 and #6 on the first page. I got an error message for the 1st one; but, the contents of the 2nd one alone would make it easily attributable:

http://www.british-expats.com/showthread.php?tid=6432

http://cellar.org/showthread.php?p=746561

You might as well say hello to your IRL friend(s) here now.

You insult me, noboxes.

The point was (possibly not as well made as it could be) that you need to be actively delving to find stuff. And googling my kids. Which is definite stalker behaviour.

Incidentally, once children compete under the national body for their sport, all their results and full names are posted somewhere. And in some cases body stats too :eek:

I had a stalker once. He was so good at it, I put him on celery.

Ba DUM dum

footfootfoot;800839 wrote:

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At least that's why I stop stalking people.

because you're saner than the rest of all of us???? ha! Now *that's* funny!!

I am hoping that your lady is of the significantly irritating, but not otherwise dangerous sort of stalker.

I've had the other kind, which is why you can Google my first and last name together and get no hits that are me.

Don't get me wrong, most of the people I've worked with are more of the mildly annoying type, and my responses are confined to trying to hide in another aisle of the Dollar Store or supermarket. That's one of the drawbacks for living as close to where I worked as I do.

I was completely in love with this one girl at college. I was totally devoted to her, wherever she wanted to go, I'd go with her. Of course nowadays, they call it stalking...

_some comedian, I don't remember his name.

We could have an annual Cellar Stalking Day so everyone can stalk each other across the forums without getting banned and get it out of their systems. It would be one heck of a crazy day.


ETA: Perhaps on the ides of March.

Et tu, Sexobon?

Um, so i have another one.... ish. What do i do to attract these people?

But before i tell you about the new one, let me jut tell you that the old one went quiet for bit, but in the new school year, her son is in my son's class. I am afraid.

So, the new one. She has me trapped. OK have decided is too much to even try to explain right now -need to go to bed... but she just brought me a box of beer for no real reason (except that i know she's pissing people off left right and center right now and I may be the only one unafected because my kids go to a different school......

monster;831427 wrote:

... but she just brought me a box of beer for no real reason ...

Oktoberfest Opening Ceremony and Keg Tapping happened Saturday, September 22nd.

I'm sure she means well, but she's very intense and intrusive. :( I've always just tried to keep on the periphery

I had a stalker. But she had a mind like a calculator and never bought me beer unless I had already bought her one. Despite wanting to get into bed with me.

Can I borrow yours?

absolutely. She has a penchant for large hats and says "eh" at the end of every sentence.

Can deal with big hats for beer.
Does she come from Canada-land?

yup, eh.