Cellar Valentine's Day 2009!
It's VD time again! I am amused by the infected...
So:
In honor of Valentines I have a poem for all of you...By Big Poppa E......Do you think you are crushworthy? :D
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Feel free to post your cellar Valentines here! What are your big plans?
We're going away for the weekend.
Oh and this is for Jim....I am sorry to all others that bare witness....
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I am sorry- It was the perfect card.............
Hmmmmmmm........this thread is on iggy.
Fine...here's my VD:
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Actually, bruce just made my week by sending me the most clever VD card EVAH! I won't reveal it's contents, just in case he's mailed it out to other Dwellars---- made me lol out loud! :) thanks, Bruce! My :heartpump belongs to you!
PS
"Runny nose" on VD? Little shot a' PCN will fix you right up; right soldiers?
Goody for you.
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j/k, sorta.
Wassa matter, baby? I lovest thou! True, I do! Are you letting HG bring you down or something????
Fuck HG.
I want him out; especially after the crap he pulled last night.
But this is happy love thread so I will just shut up.
Who said this was a happy love thread? Who here is having happy love!? I want them OUT!
Srsly, girl----why, WHY is HG still with you? You're so freakin' cute and funny and clever and smart, witty, intelligent, loyal...WHY????
You're right. I thought about it on the way home. I came home and told him. No reaction. Funny. I said he needs to find somewhere to go, that I'm done. Nothing. At least I avoided one of my excuses I've been using for a while: that I just can't handle one more painful enounter.
I'll tell him again in the a.m before I leave, in case he thinks I'm kidding.
Sorry to ruin your VD thread, Cic.
Thanks Bri. You're right.
No I think it is completely VD apropriate......:)
Here's to a single VD! :beer:
punt him across town, shawnee
"I Am Not Yours"
I am not yours, not lost in you,
Not lost, although I long to be
Lost as a candle lit at noon,
Lost as a snowflake in the sea.
You love me, and I find you still
A spirit beautiful and bright,
Yet I am I, who long to be
Lost as a light is lost in light.
Oh plunge me deep in love -- put out
My senses, leave me deaf and blind,
Swept by the tempest of your love,
A taper in a rushing wind.
Sarah Teasdale
Mad Girl's Love Song
"I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead;
I lift my lids and all is born again.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)
The stars go waltzing out in blue and red,
And arbitrary blackness gallops in:
I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.
I dreamed that you bewitched me into bed
And sung me moon-struck, kissed me quite insane.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)
God topples from the sky, hell's fires fade:
Exit seraphim and Satan's men:
I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.
I fancied you'd return the way you said,
But I grow old and I forget your name.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)
I should have loved a thunderbird instead;
At least when spring comes they roar back again.
I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)"
Sylvia Plath
A Word to Husbands
To keep your marriage brimming
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you’re wrong, admit it;
Whenever you’re right, shut up.
Ogden Nash
(OK, I'm done now. :))
Gloria Gaynor - I WILL SURVIVE!
First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me
Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
you think I'd crumble
you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive
HELL YEAH!
Aborting thread.. female powow forming.
I went to bed early. Really early for me.
This morning I knew if I tried to say anything I'd start crying, and I had to come to work. So I left a note, saying I meant what I said. That I care but in the end I have to care about me.
Remind me to stay strong. Thanks for your support, my friends. It means more than you could ever know.
I've known it would come to this, all along. I guess I always hoped if I held out long enough that something else would happen. Some other sugar mama would come along, or he'd win the lottery...anything to avoid having to do this.
But it's the right thing. I deserve better.
One Can Miss Mountains
and pine. One
can dismiss
a whisper’s
revelations
and go on as
before as if
everything were
perfectly fine.
One does. One
loses wonder
among stores
of things.
One can even miss
the basso boom
of the ocean’s
rumpus room
and its rhythm.
A man can leave
this earth
and take nothing
—not even
longing—along
with him.
--Todd Boss
The New Yorker
May 2008
:hugs:
I wish you could come with me tonight.
I wish I could come with you tonight also.
I hope no one is happy about getting VD.
But Happy Valentine's Day to everyone anyways...
The history behind Valentine's Day:
http://www.history.com/minisites/valentine/Here's a different history of Valentine's Day: :)
http://www.theonion.com/content/opinion/i_wish_id_spent_valentines_day
lol!
Shawnee, I can't figure out what he is still doing there in the first place. Isn't this the same guy that was living there and giving you hell
last year?
There is no reason to cry about enhancing your life. Knowing you, you cry only because you feel like you are hurting someone else. But you aren't. He will find someone else, and the good part? So will you. When your head is back on straight. And you can make a sound decision.
I don't tell people what to do, but I will make an exception.....
Say buh-bye. It's been, whatever, buh bye. I think this is the same guy I wanted to kick in the cu** some time back..........
"Move over bacon................" (american commercial)
I can take anger. If he's angry, that's probably the biggest favor he could ever do for me.
It's thinking that he's hurting. I keep telling myself that he has been using me all this time: people IRL have told me this. All it takes is a little kindness and I think "how could I hurt this big lug?"
I KNOW it's right but I am sick to my stomach.
On the other hand, I think how crazy it is, the amount of money I give him...so he can go do things and have fun and sometimes just to get him out of my place so it feels like just mine again. I should have saved up enough for a new car by now; it would have been well within my means...but I give him money and he uses my car when his isn't running, and the food, and all the things people need.
It's the right thing. I KNOW it. Yet I am afraid he'll do that sad little boy thing and I'll be right back where I started. I won't I swear I won't but that's how he plays me.
Sheesh, I have even considered getting a hotel room if he is still there when I get home.
Thanks hon. I know it seems silly but I feel horrible and just want it OVER.
Just for the record, it isn't really about the money. If I believed he loved me, or I him, that wouldn't matter a bit...but he plays that angle FOR the free ride.
:D
Yes Shawnee, people hurt. They cry. He will be hurt that his ride is over, and he will have to find something else to do. He will be very sad. You on the other hand should be sad you let him do that to you for so long, so be sad, and get over it for heaven's sakes. Yes people are sad when you don't play their game anymore. Let him be sad. I myself, don't care if he is sad. Because it has nothing to do with the point of things at all.
You have to be the responsible one for yourself right now. :D Don't get a hotel room. Help him pack his things. Let him cry. And with every tear that drops I want you to think of everything he has done to you.
Ok I'm done. ;)
Happy Valentines Day everyone? lol!
Shawnee - bear up.
You are NOT responsible for his hurt. You gave him someone so that he didn't hit rock bottom. He repaid you by hanging around, taking everything offered and no doubt a few other things not offered. He has had plenty of time to sort himself out and to contribute as best he can. Instead he has coasted and taken advantage of you.
He is not you. He does not feel inside himself the same way you do. His acts of kindness are not a caring person reaching out to another in their time of need - his kindnesses are calculated and he charms you in order to allow himself more coasting room.
You'll get over the hurt that you'll feel on his behalf. I promise. Probably slower than any hurt he feels, except self-pity. You gotta face it, like leaving your last job. Get it over with and it will be behind you. Either that or ask him to marry you, because he is not going to move out of his own accord, or start treating you better unless you go into counselling together.
Anyway. That's my advice.
I'm :(:(:( about Valentines too.
Not because I won't get any cards - I don't expect any and it doesn't bother me this year. I'm very focused on myself right now - in a positive way I hope.
But I didn't send one to my Valentine, and that makes me sad. I honestly forgot. Which is self-focused in a bad way. Still, next year will be better because I can send him a picture of my tight butt. [COLOR="White"]BTW, it's not my Dad.[/COLOR]
Thanks, I really needed to hear that, as I'll be going home soon and I need to remember all of that.
You all have helped me so much.
Now...I feel HORRIBLE for ruining Cic's VD thread, and especially after Jim's lovely animation for Jinx.
Oh mods? Can you take all my crap and my dear responses and put them in another thread? Call it, I don't know, How Shawnee Got Her Groove Back.
Please? If it's not too much trouble. I hated that I rained on everyone's VD parade, but it all just kind of went into motion and here I am.
Much love to my friends, I'm so grateful to you.
Don't, mods!
Cic started the thread by calling Valentines Day VD (something I have done myself!) Some of us have commented on our own lack of happiness about the day. It's all part and parcel of the thread.
Happy Valentines will come if they want to.
And after all, if that's all LJ gets Jinx - charmingly handmade as it is - he'll have more to worry about than this thread :)
Kick him in the taco, paco.
lol...that's the wrong 50 ways.
Here is my valentine to all of you. By "internet" I mean "Cellar." ;)
I don't know what's up with the maybe thing...it was already there.
Well I will check yes! =)
4 ways.
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Happy Valentine's Day everyone.
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Oooh I have another one for you guys! ;) Happy Happy!!!
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Just what we needed. Two whores named Peggy.
Take Note: Peggy has a heart under her hoof er I mean foot.
Happy Valentine's Day to all. I love all, I mean most, Er um well some.. ahem.. you.
I love you all from the heart of my bottom.....
and here's the classy pressie I got you....
How do you find this stuff? lol
you don't want to know. beest once looked at my google search history and I think he decided he'd rather not know. :lol:
I was going to goatse a heart, but thought I'd check to see if it had already been done
That's why it's so funny. I'm sitting here thinking "what made her look THAT up?"
Can I get a peek at your google search history? You can just pm me a screenshot if you don't want everyone to see.
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Ahh....I'm glad I stumbled upon this thread. Shawnee, don't take this the wrong way, but I am glad I read about your problem, or should I say, hopefully, a no-longer problem. I haven't been posting because I've been rather down. I had asked dear Cellars for advice on a V-Day present for my bf. Well, I bought something. Then a week later, he emailed to break up with me. Told me to digest the letter and call him to talk it over if I wanted to. Five days later, after my anger had subsided, I called him. He never picked up the phone. Just three weeks after he said he loves me very much, he wrote to say in light of his mother's advancing sickness, he did not have the time nor energy for a relationship, and the thought of talking to me drained him emotionally. I am still confused to how a person can switch his emotions and feelings just like that. However, I am trying to let go and not care anymore.
I am just glad to see that I am not the only sad person on V-Day (because it has been too damn lonely seeing all these happy people). I sincerely hope all broken heart and hurt women, like Shawnee and myself, can let go of rotten men and meet someone who can make us happy. And if we don't find our Mr. Right just yet, who gives a damn because we don't need a man to make us happy, right? :D
Shawnee: I hope things are working out for you. :)
By the way, thanks for all the VD images. Sure made me smile. :D
Thank you Tulip. I, too, don't have a handy on/off switch; it boggles my mind that some can do that.
We're just waitin' on one who's good enough for us, right? :)
Keep smiling.
Huh. My old-man didn't send me a lousy card. I called him up today and he was very cold with me ("preparing for class") Huh. Last time I dedicate a song to him!
*grumble grumble*
I need to quit people who don't appreciate my ass.
...is this still the guy with the psychotic wife on too many meds, and a gun in the house?
...is this still the guy with the psychotic wife on too many meds, and a gun in the house?
No
This is my One True Love: the old-man prof. who lives far away from me. HIM.
The guy with the percocet-wife and guns is a steelworker.
Sometimes I really hate men and want to go up to one and do this :nadkick: .....:D
Why in hell do you women fall in love with these assholes? Are their cocks *really* that awesome?
I'm just sayin'...
If I figure it out, I'll let you know.
Why in hell do you women fall in love with these assholes? Are their cocks *really* that awesome?
I'm just sayin'...
It's the challenge of winning him over, knowing her love will make him want to change his ways. Then she thinks she's won when she's actually lost, and is shocked that he's still an asshole.
The bride is thinking he'll change.
The groom is thinking she'll never change.
They're both wrong.
:)
This one said it all for me. In my life getting to Valentines cards was quite the chore.. okay only one of them was. All the cards say your the love of my life, I am only yours, for ever and ever.... soorrry that won't work... finally found one for Paul that was loving and sincere but didnt have me handing him my entire being. I am trying to get him over that concept. Not easy.
Why in hell do you women fall in love with these assholes? Are their cocks *really* that awesome?
No, they are not. It's complete insanity. It's painful, so it feels right.
I've left the door open for that decent guy. He was down the street with the vapid, non-thinking, boring woman. It's easier to never think.
It goes both ways.
So, it's not VD anymore, but I just found this. Luvz to all you nice dwellarz:
What about the rest of us?
Why in hell do you women fall in love with these assholes? Are their cocks *really* that awesome?
I'm just sayin'...
Cuz we didn't know they're assholes til it was too late. :mad: But then again, a friend accused me of having a thing for the ass. :rolleyes: hehehe....I joke...I joke. :D
No one really goes into a relationship thinking the other person is an arsehole do they, and no one seriously thinks the other person is going to change do they?
You should know the other person is going to change, everyone does.
The trick is figuring out how they will change.
There are usually clues that become clear in retrospect, but at the time looking for them is difficult when you're walking on air.
Through the course of my relationship, Dazza and I have both changed our habits somewhat, but I don't think either of us has changed essentially from the people we were before we met.
The reason we've changed some of our habits is in order to compromise in the relationship. I think the reason some people have difficulties is because only one party in the relationship is willing to compromise on things that might once have been important. I guess it comes down to both parties weighing up what's more important. Their habits or their relationship.
Most failed relationships revolve around the inability to adjust around each others changes, some for the good, some for the bad.
I felt like I was the one doing all the changing - no more Skippy (he was a Jiff man) no more folding towels over and over with three flaps (we was an Army man) no more putting the TP on the roll all willy-nilly (he was a flap-out man)....I was exhausted from all the change!
You should know the other person is going to change, everyone does.
Well stated.
I felt like I was the one doing all the changing - no more Skippy (he was a Jiff man) no more folding towels over and over with three flaps (we was an Army man) no more putting the TP on the roll all willy-nilly (he was a flap-out man)....I was exhausted from all the change!
Had he been a Peter Pan man... now that would have been a real 'red flag'.;)