Need some training advice :)
My boyfriend and I are both switches and lately he's been talking a lot about wanting me to train him to enjoy eating cum. He's the first boyfriend I've ever had who not only lets me train him but really wants it. Does anybody have any advice as to a step by step plan that I can use to get him to enjoy eating his own sperm (and eventually possibly eating other men's cum).
The biggest challenge is that we're a long distance relationship at the moment as he lives in Belgium and I'm stuck here in the states until I can get the proper paperwork to join him. We get ten to twenty days together every couple months but most of our daily life and sex life is on webcam with one another while watching videos or reading stories.
As for limits, neither of us are into pain / humiliation and we're careful not to let the D&S spill over too much into our daily lives. To both of us it's just playtime, not a lifestyle.
So yeah, if anybody has any ideas as to how I can get him to enjoy eating cum, I would really appreciate it. My future goals for him include cleaning up his own cum after he jerks off, sucking his cum out of me after we have sex, and possibly eating the cum of other men in the future (after they fuck me or straight from the source ;) as he's got some fantasies of giving other men head as well).
neither of us are into ... humiliation
You aren't. He definitely is.
Not really. By humiliation I mean being put into degrading situations, spoken to disrespectfully (even in play), etc.
Perhaps it's mildly humiliating for a man to eat cum but with his bisexual tendancies it's really just a natural step.
I think this may not be the board you're looking for.
These are.You aren't. He definitely is.
Not really. He's got bisexual fantasies and tendencies, enjoying the taste and texture of cum is simply a natural step towards getting him to be able to act out those fantasies. I love cum, male or female and don't see swallowing it as humiliating in the least. He says it's the taste and texture that he has a hard time liking, not the actual thought of it. I don't plan to degrade him in any way, just to find a way to encourage him to enjoy the flavours.
Wolf, I took this thread to those other boards as well. I'm sorry if this is the wrong place for it.
Not really, Undertoad. He's got bisexual fantasies and tendencies, enjoying the taste and texture of cum is simply a natural step towards getting him to be able to act out those fantasies. I love cum, male or female and don't see swallowing it as humiliating in the least. He says it's the taste and texture that he has a hard time liking, not the actual thought of it. I don't plan to degrade him in any way, just to find a way to encourage him to enjoy the flavours.
Wolf, I'm sorry if this is the wrong forum for this thread. I've taken it to the board that you recommended as well.
blergh.
holy first fucking post, filth flajrn filth. what did you read that made you think this place would be in any way likely to house members that could offer advice of that sort?
and thanks for scarring my minds eye, btw.
gah!
anyway,.,.
try putting it in the freezer with a popsicle stick in it?
No it's not the eating cum part that makes him into humiliation. It's the you training him part. I mean, if I wanted to learn to eat cum I would just, you know, go and fuckin' do it. I wouldn't need training.
It's not like he doesn't have a supply ready at hand.
No it's not the eating cum part that makes him into humiliation. It's the you training him part. I mean, if I wanted to learn to eat cum I would just, you know, go and fuckin' do it. I wouldn't need training.
It's not like he doesn't have a supply ready at hand.
COOKIE!!!
:lol2:
I am laughing so hard I can hardly...hahhahahahahahaha....
Nah, it's not humiliation. Humiliation involves disrespect, embarassing punishments, etc. What this is all about is simply that he has some fantasies that he'd like to realize someday but has found it difficult to push through his boundaries on his own. I know I've got some fantasies that I'm embarassed to talk about, much less to act on. Both of us being switches simply means that when we're playing the part of the dom we can push the other one through their boundaries into enjoying something that we want to but for some reason or another can't get around our own hangups enough to enjoy it without help from the other.
Lumberjim...I'm sorry, I saw all the threads about BDSM, Poly, etc. and simply assumed (in my naievity) that I might find someone here with experience in Dom / Sub dynamics and that I'd be able to talk about it in a respectful environment. I'm sorry that this came across as such an inappropriate post. Thanks for your time and respect, everyone.
misty! I wasn't laughing at you! I was laughing at the responses...the men are so very against it, but they seem to like it when WE do it. There are people here with some Dom/Sub stuff going on but I think some of them are taking a Cellar break due to some completely other stuff.
Don't be hasty. just maybe open with a joke next time.
Thanks for clarifying Brianna, sorry for coming across as super sensitive there, just didn't expect those kinds of responses.
Makes you wonder if they think they're humiliating us when we eat it, huh? I'm just glad that my guy's not only mature enough to discuss our more unconventional fantasies but adventurous enough to experiment a bit with me so that our sex life stays exciting.
As for the whole men being against it sort of thing...hmm...to quote a famous chef...Why would you expect someone to eat something you've made if you, yourself won't eat it?
Can we just delete this whole thread and pretend it didn't happen?
Maybe you could have him blow a big loogie onto a plate and eat it.
what did you read that made you think this place would be in any way likely to house members that could offer advice of that sort?
Logical outcome of not driving merc off the board. IMHO
Maybe you could have him blow a big loogie onto a plate and eat it.
Is that what you think when women do it? I'm just curious here.
Somehow the clinical descriptions in print just don't jive with the intimate acts they're describing. Eh, maybe I'm too much of a romantic. :neutral:
Logical outcome of not driving merc off the board. IMHO
That's a bit rough. Merc is far from the regular member who talks about that sort of stuff the most.
Maybe he just doesn't like the taste of cum anyway. Some people just don't and that's all there is. Just like some people don't like avoccado.
That's a bit rough. Merc is far from the regular member who talks about that sort of stuff the most.
That's pretty funny since I can't see any of his bullshit posts anyhow. Yea, I can't think of but one time I ever mentioned cum. I could see how someone in the closet might think that.
the ignore feature is for little fairy boys. you know you read the posts anyway.....stop it. if you can't ignore someone on your own........yadda yadda blah.
Actually, I am in favour of the ignore feature. It just creates a barrier between you and the person you see as an antagonist for a while, and allows things to cool down a bit.
I've used the ignore feature several times. I still have two posters on ignore and I couldn't be happier.
Yuck.
And that's all I've got to say about that.
Now eating your go that's another matter entirely.
Nuh uh. Nope, no how. Not gonna happen.
I have never used the ignore feature on any forum. I don't really see much use for it. Though I appreciate that others do. And I would far rather people used that than got so upset or wound up by another poster that it was affecting their ability to enjoy the Cellar.
Ignore is an awesome feature. I don't care if others don't like it or use it. It serves a purpose and minimizes the significance of the poster on ignore while preserving the pleasure of the Cellar.
Misty, have you tried wrapping it in Bacon? most people will eat pretty much anything wrapped in bacon and enjoy it. A vegetarian alternative might be melting a slice of sharp cheddar on top. Thinking about it, perhaps you might have more luck with your question in the food forum?
as for training men, marry them, stop fucking them, hide the TV remote and put a pron nanny on your interwebz access and they'll do pretty much anything and enjoy it....
;)
I refuse to believe Beest has been tamed. :lol2:
What about swatting him on the nose with a rolled-up newspaper when he doesn't eat cum?
bleh
cheddar spam bacon spam and cum
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you need to put it in one of those little condiment cups (condoment cup?) and give hime some breaded mozzarella sticks or spicy chicken wings ..... or maybe Tostitos (testitos?)
Misty, have you tried wrapping it in Bacon? most people will eat pretty much anything wrapped in bacon and enjoy it.
;)
Totally...my hubby will eat anything wrapped in bacon or has melted cheese on it...just try it that way LOL:sadsperm: :sadsperm:
down with the cum eating meme!
....but, you know... in these days of economic depression.... well, it's a free renewable protein source.... and low calorie too, if certain women's magazines are to be believed....
down with the cum eating meme!
what about the eat-a-dick meme? Does the captain go down with the ship? :p
Is that what you think when women do it? I'm just curious here.
No I was just looking for something HE produced that had a similar texture. After all, if he produced it he shouldn't be against eating it.
We all produce pee and poo too, but there's not a large proportion of the community that consumes those. ;)
Perhaps it just needs an image overhaul/product relaunch.. How about "Maviare -the lo-cal protein drink for today's man"
Misty's take on it was "Why would you expect someone to eat something you've made if you, yourself won't eat it?" So if he hocks up a ball of phlegm and eats it, she has to as well. It only seems fair.
ewwwwwwwww... please just make it stop
Misty's take on it was "Why would you expect someone to eat something you've made if you, yourself won't eat it?" So if he hocks up a ball of phlegm and eats it, she has to as well. It only seems fair.
Mmmm...communal phlegm...slides down just like an oyster...Mmmmm....
(I think I just made myself feel sick)
People you're not thinking about this fully. Now sure, you don't want to gack down somebody else's snot - but what if you're trained to? Then you might love it!
NOT! Especially not snot!
Ummm...nope...nope I'm pretty sure I still wouldn't love it.
I guess if someone trained me I might think differently, but fortunately, I think I'll class myself as an old dog this time.
what about the eat-a-dick meme? Does the captain go down with the ship? :p
On the ship. The captain goes down on the ship. (At least in Vol. 2 of Cum Guzzling sailors)
Now you're talking seamen!
I'm starting to rethink my position on Clone Threads and Sock Puppets, both of which are significantly better than this.
Ok, so I've apologized for posting an inappropriate thread. Honestly, after seeing some of the threads that mention BDSM, I didn't think it would be out of place.
I made a mistake, I apologized, end of story. Brianna seemed to be the only one willing to accept my apology and realize that while I may have posted an off the wall thread there might be more to who I am than this one post. I stuck around in hopes that the rest of you might give me another chance but no, apparently the hive mind has decided I'm to be mocked and jeered at.
Funny thing is, I'm a pretty normal girl and fun as hell to talk to. I have many topics that I can speak intelligently about. I'm very friendly and loyal. But you'll never know that for yourselves now...will you?
Thanks, Brianna for looking past my mistake and treating me with the respect that another human deserves. The rest of you, go ahead and mock me, after all, you don't know me at all so it shouldn't bother me, right?
You have shown me the caliber of people who frequent this board pretty clearly. Bye.
Don't be put off so easily. It is called thread drift. Stick around, there is much to be gained from being here. Hell, maybe you will get a new car. :D
What was that other thing you said about taking your licks? That was a good one worthy of taglineage.
Really misty, don't get all offended. We're just taking the piss out of you. But in a British, jesting sort of way and not in a tubgirl scat kind of way.
We are fun and two or three of us are sincere. Clodfobble, Griff, and what's her name?
I'll never forget what's her name....
isn't she the one who said that really funny thing that time? You remember..it was funny and we all laughed.
Exactly, like the guy in the movie with that girl who was all, you know. I loved that one.
Where they were at that place doing that stuff?
Is that the movie with whats his name that won best supporting actor that year?
I saw that; it was year before last he won.
I saw that; it was year before last he won.
Oh! THAT movie?! I thought you were all talking about the other one. No wonder I was so freaking confused.
oh cum on, how could you forget that -the audience were eating it up....
That was uncalled for. Don't think we didn't notice.
I see what ya did thar...
I don't care if this thread was "appropriate" or not. It was mighty entertaining and that is all I ask for.
(FWIW, I reckon you can ask pretty much any question here, but a useful answer to that question requires specialist knowledge and a dedicated group might have be more helpful ... wrap it in bacon ... :lol2:).
you could always just let him cum in your mouth and then kiss it back into his mouth
Sort of like a wicked taste full?
Is this too the ware we can speak about wips?
Sort of like a wicked taste full?
EXACTLY
From my experience, people who are into being trained fantasize about a lot of stuff, but don't necessarily want to actually do it.
A certain woman of my acquaintance has a swallowing fantasy, but is not about to do it.
She fantasizes about a flock of birds? :confused:
Seriously, what the hell else do you do with it? :lol2:
She fantasizes about a flock of birds? :confused:
Seriously, what the hell else do you do with it? :lol2:
Here's the other option:
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I guess you'll need to catch a lot of swallows to fill a spit this big, eh?
I guess you'll need to catch a lot of swallows to fill a spit this big, eh?
That brings a new angle to the question, "swallow or spit?"
you could always just let him cum in your mouth and then kiss it back into his mouth
Semen blowback. Interesting.
that's just a snowball...right?
that's just a snowball...right?
I think that would actually just be a form of sharing vs. an actual explosive overload that blows back.
Eh, my vote is for having him eat ya after he cums in ya...snowballs (yes, that's what it is W*N) are less entertaining. Cum, for me, is an acquired taste, just like drinking beer was for me...after enough beers, a beer is a beer, and it's good!
Misty, he's not asking you to TRAIN him, he's asking you to INDUCE or ENCOURAGE him to do something that his nurture says is wrong.
Thus, UT is right, he doesn't need training, he needs you to give him permission, concealed as "training", to do it.
thus spake the resident pervert and BDSM know it all