ED Prescriptions

Laurie Henderson • Jan 9, 2009 11:42 pm
So here's a question...

If a doctor prescribes Viagra or some other ED prescription, should the doctor be required to discuss the prescription with the spouse?

My spouse came home with free samples & a prescription - unbeknownst to me. It took about 15 minutes for me to tell a difference...

Am I wrong to feel violated because the prescription wasn't discussed with me (by spouse or doctor)?

And finally, should this issue be posted in "relationships" or "health?"
SteveDallas • Jan 9, 2009 11:49 pm
Like it or not, if the man won't talk about it with his partner, it's not the doctor's job.
monster • Jan 9, 2009 11:56 pm
No.

maybe you're not wrong to feel that you should have been consulted (and maybe you are), but it certainly isn't the doctor's job to tell you about it.

seems like your hubby was feeling bad about his performance and trying to suprise you -why on earth are you upset?
Beestie • Jan 9, 2009 11:59 pm
The doctor is not at liberty to discuss that information with anyone but the patient and the insurance company.

Are you wrong to feel violated? That's up to you but if you haven't discussed it with your spouse by now then I think I understand why he didn't discuss it with you first.
lumberjim • Jan 10, 2009 12:25 am
i voted before i read the post

Dr required>? NO

spouse SHOULD? yes
smoothmoniker • Jan 10, 2009 2:28 am
The doc's job is to provide medical advice to the patient, not relationship advice to the couple. Not his job to inform you.
xoxoxoBruce • Jan 10, 2009 3:19 am
The Doctor doesn't have time for that shit unless you plan and go together.

If you know he got free samples and a prescription, I'd say you have discussed it. Sounds to me like your displeasure with him acting on his own, stems your failure to be able control him this time.
limey • Jan 10, 2009 5:15 am
lumberjim;520753 wrote:
i voted before i read the post

Dr required>? NO

spouse SHOULD? yes


What he said.
TheMercenary • Jan 10, 2009 7:13 am
Laurie Henderson;520745 wrote:
So here's a question...

If a doctor prescribes Viagra or some other ED prescription, should the doctor be required to discuss the prescription with the spouse?

Absolutely not. Should the doctor be required to talk with you before you get birthcontrol?

HIPAA prevents them from talking to anyone but the patient.
footfootfoot • Jan 10, 2009 11:05 am
xoxoxoBruce;520767 wrote:
The Doctor doesn't have time for that shit unless you plan and go together.

If you know he got free samples and a prescription, I'd say you have discussed it. Sounds to me like your displeasure with him acting on his own, stems your failure to be able control him this time.


I think those x's and o's represent bullseyes.

(probably might have something to do with his ED too. Tough to get it up if you are concurrently being emasculated. Umm. I read that somewhere.)
Cloud • Jan 10, 2009 11:32 am
unanimous.

your question is a relationship one, not a health issue.
Undertoad • Jan 10, 2009 11:50 am
Another ditto for xoB and footer
SteveDallas • Jan 10, 2009 11:54 am
Cloud;520869 wrote:
unanimous.

Actually, it's not... we have two voters who disagree. Maybe they could post their thinking?
Pico and ME • Jan 10, 2009 12:10 pm
It would be a waste of time for my husband, he just doesnt need it. But if he did, and he surprised me with it, I dont think I would be uspset about it.
Juniper • Jan 10, 2009 6:35 pm
Well, let's see. Say I wanted to get birth control pills and my DH didn't want me to. Or meds for depression. Or meds for anything else, for that matter, that was optional, I wasn't going to die without them but they'd make me feel better about my life.

DH could very well sit in that doctor's office and say, hell NO, you're not putting my wife on the pill. I want her to have babies. Lots of babies! Barefoot and pregnant, that's how I like it!

I highly suspect you'd go to the doctor and get the pill anyway, or would at least defend a woman's right to do so.

Perhaps he was embarrassed to discuss it with you. I think many men would be.
Sheldonrs • Jan 11, 2009 1:55 am
Sexual irony. Your husband is treating his ED and you're taking it hard.

:D
DanaC • Jan 11, 2009 12:19 pm
I don't get how you'd feel 'violated'. A man's ability to perform sexually is a pretty damn personal thing. That hardon is what he brings to the bed games, how he goes about getting it is surely up to him?
HungLikeJesus • Jan 11, 2009 12:51 pm
Maybe your husband didn't want to discuss it with you because he was afraid you'd post it on the internet.
Griff • Jan 11, 2009 2:48 pm
HungLikeJesus;521114 wrote:
Maybe your husband didn't want to discuss it with you because he was afraid you'd post it on the internet.


ouch.
Perry Winkle • Jan 11, 2009 4:35 pm
HungLikeJesus;521114 wrote:
Maybe your husband didn't want to discuss it with you because he was afraid you'd post it on the internet.


Or he's afraid she'll make a mountain out of a molehill...
DanaC • Jan 11, 2009 5:32 pm
*snicker*
monster • Jan 11, 2009 6:28 pm
SteveDallas;520880 wrote:
Actually, it's not... we have two voters who disagree. Maybe they could post their thinking?


well one of them posted that they weren't thinking when the voted....
classicman • Jan 11, 2009 7:48 pm
rofl
Cicero • Jan 11, 2009 9:42 pm
HungLikeJesus;521114 wrote:
Maybe your husband didn't want to discuss it with you because he was afraid you'd post it on the internet.


LOL!!!! Aaaah! lol!

No...really.:)

Any new prescriptions should be discussed. Of course I am divorcing so son't listen to me.

If my partner came to me with that problem and wanted to remedy it, well what's not to discuss?;)
classicman • Jan 11, 2009 9:46 pm
Cicero;521319 wrote:
If my partner came to me with that problem and wanted to remedy it, well what's not to discuss?;)


You mean whats not up is for discussion right?
Aliantha • Jan 11, 2009 9:48 pm
Sometimes I wish you could get a script for viagra without your husband knowing you're going to give it to him...you know, for those times when he thinks he's just too tired? :)
classicman • Jan 11, 2009 9:53 pm
lol - oh thats real nice Ali. So when hes passed out from exhaustion, you can slip him one - nice real nice.
Aliantha • Jan 11, 2009 9:54 pm
lol...I can't help it! I find my husband desirable but he gets pretty tired after he's been travelling and working hard...and I've been sitting on my arse at home getting antsy...and missing him.
footfootfoot • Jan 11, 2009 10:26 pm
Isn't that why god invented UPS men?
HungLikeJesus • Jan 11, 2009 11:31 pm
No. UPS men evolved from fish.

(Trying to bring as many current controversies into one five-word post as possible.)
TheMercenary • Jan 12, 2009 11:25 am
If I were JLJ I would ask WWJD?
DanaC • Jan 12, 2009 11:27 am
Wh-What what?
lookout123 • Jan 12, 2009 11:28 am
soooo, does too much ED medication result in drunkposting?
classicman • Jan 12, 2009 11:58 am
lookout123;521477 wrote:
soooo, does too much ED medication result in drunkposting?


I dunno - ask merc. :D
TheMercenary • Jan 12, 2009 12:26 pm
Don't ask me, I don't drink and drive. :D
xoxoxoBruce • Jan 13, 2009 4:37 am
Aliantha;521328 wrote:
Sometimes I wish you could get a script for viagra without your husband knowing you're going to give it to him...you know, for those times when he thinks he's just too tired? :)
That probably wouldn't work, as it provides functional capability, but it's still the brain that makes it happen. Viagra won't overcome exhaustion or distraction on it's own.
Aliantha • Jan 13, 2009 5:42 am
Yeah, but he could just lay on his back and let me do the work right? :D
xoxoxoBruce • Jan 13, 2009 2:42 pm
If you don't mind the snoring, but I supposed you wouldn't be mad if he said,"Get off me lady, I'm married." :haha:
Aliantha • Jan 13, 2009 4:14 pm
well, I could always respond, "In a minute. I'm nearly there!"