If you were paying for IVF and you had the option of choosing the sex of your child, would you or do you think it's wrong?
Me being who I am in my current situation, I wouldn't choose. I have one of each and wouldn't have a preference as to which one I got next.
But if this IVF treatment were my one shot, and I couldn't afford another, I might choose a girl, because statistically girl fetuses are stronger than boys and more likely to survive.
But they almost never do just one embryo with IVF, it's usually 2-3. So in that situation I'd probably go with one of each.
To answer the morality question, I don't think choosing in and of itself is wrong, because people can have a variety of reasons for preferring one gender over another. But I would venture to say that if you only want a child of one gender and would not want a baby if you knew you were having the other gender, perhaps you ought to reconsider your motives in becoming a parent.
For our first kid, I didn't care. We got a girl. I was very happy. For our second kid, I wanted a boy, just to even things out. If we could have chosen, I would have. As it turned out, we got a boy. I was very happy. If we got a girl, I probably would have been happy too.
I said I wouldn't choose but I don't have a problem with it. I just really enjoyed the time between "we're pregnant" and "it's a ____!" The guessing was fun.
Although I might be tempted to say give me a boy. I do have to fill out a soccer team after all and I don't want my girl to show the boys up.