Valentine's Day dread or delight?

skysidhe • Feb 6, 2008 2:57 pm
Is it a day you look forward to? Are you a giver or reciever?

I'd say I am both. I give to my mother and my older lady friend and give to my compainion too. When I am in a relationship I make sure to say I don't like stuffed animals however.
The day itself isn't really a big deal to me. I do recieve gifts like flowers or coffee out quite often enough so there really isn't anything I want on that particular day.'cept chocolate :drool: and if I don't get some I just go buy some :)


So how is your Valentine's celebrated?
Shawnee123 • Feb 6, 2008 3:00 pm
I'm going to drink a bottle of rum and throw up a lot.
skysidhe • Feb 6, 2008 3:11 pm
Shawnee123;430319 wrote:
I'm going to drink a bottle of rum and throw up a lot.


It's the gift that keeps on giving? :)
glatt • Feb 6, 2008 3:13 pm
When I was a kid, Valentine's day was cool. I've hated it since then.

Reason number 1,476,092 I love my wife is that she suggested that this year not only should we not exchange gifts or flowers or go out to dinner, but we also should not exchange cards on Valentine's day.

We'll just stay home and snuggle on the couch watching season 2 of The Wire on DVD from Netflix. Oh, wait. It'll be Thursday. We'll probably watch Lost.
aimeecc • Feb 6, 2008 3:16 pm
My husband and I give each other small gifts, and we relax. Order pizza or chinese. Watch a movie. Play with little one. It doesn't sound romantic or special, but even the simple things are romantic and special. There's nothing like hearing little one laugh, there's nothing like being in my hubbys arms, nothing like spending time with the ones I love.
skysidhe • Feb 6, 2008 3:20 pm
yeah it's nice to just 'be' with one another.
Shawnee123 • Feb 6, 2008 3:24 pm
skysidhe;430321 wrote:
It's the gift that keeps on giving? :)


Heehee...yep, I guess you should put me down for "dread." :o
Cicero • Feb 6, 2008 3:26 pm
The story goes that Emperor Claudius had issued a decree that Roman soldiers were not allowed to marry - because marriage would inhibit their ability to fight. But romantic Valentine (Priest) continued to marry soldiers in secret, until eventually his clandestine activities were discovered and he was jailed. Before being beheaded he fell in love with his jailer’s daughter, for whom he left a note signed ‘Your Valentine’, before he was led away to his death.

That's right up my alley. Delight.

:)
Aliantha • Feb 6, 2008 5:50 pm
Last year we went out to dinner and I bought my husband a new fishing rod (which he loved because he's very specific about what kind of rod he likes and I had been collecting clues for months beforehand).

This year I think it'll be fairly quiet. The book launch is the next day, so we might just get takeaway or something and take a night off. D will probably still send me flowers though.
DucksNuts • Feb 6, 2008 6:30 pm
Shawnee123;430319 wrote:
I'm going to drink a bottle of rum and throw up a lot.


I there with ya, Shawnee.

Fucking stupid romantic day.....

that is, unless I am in a new love and get showered in gifts, then I like it :D

Last year I got some beautiful roses, massage oil and smelly stuff from Army dude, which was lovely.

This year, diddly friggen squat me thinks.
Cicero • Feb 6, 2008 6:32 pm
Well do some giving and you might be getting. ;)

That's kind of the spirit of the Holiday.

I'm sorry....I was cupid in a former life.

:)
Clodfobble • Feb 6, 2008 7:08 pm
We have a hard time getting into the bigger holidays, so Valentine's usually isn't even on the radar.

The awkward thing is, just yesterday I got a call from my MIL telling me that she is going to come visit us the weekend after, and that furthermore she is going to watch the kids Saturday night so that we can go out to dinner for a belated Valentine's Day. She's done this several times before, both inviting herself over and then kicking us out. I know she means well, and though her methods are pushy there's nothing inherently wrong with a grandmother wanting to spend time with her grandkids--but it's really weird having it dictated, especially because then we feel obligated to actually dress up and go somewhere nice, to somehow validate her gesture.
monster • Feb 6, 2008 7:21 pm
Point out that it's actually not so much fun going out 7 months pregnant, and could you store the babysitting for a night you really need it? ;)
Aliantha • Feb 6, 2008 10:01 pm
You're lucky Clod. I only wish my Mum could still do that for me. MIL is in a wheelchair, so no hope there either. Fortunately, my boys are now big enough to say, "can you organize a sleep over at so and so's this weekend?", but no one's better than family for your kids.
Sperlock • Feb 6, 2008 10:23 pm
For quite a while Valentine's Day bugged me because I was single, looking for a girlfriend, and not having any luck. While I am still without a girlfriend, and wouldn't mind finding one, Valentine's Day is now just another day for me. It doesn't bug me like it used to.
skysidhe • Feb 7, 2008 4:42 am
Cicero;430331 wrote:
The story goes that Emperor Claudius had issued a decree that Roman soldiers were not allowed to marry - because marriage would inhibit their ability to fight. But romantic Valentine (Priest) continued to marry soldiers in secret, until eventually his clandestine activities were discovered and he was jailed. Before being beheaded he fell in love with his jailer’s daughter, for whom he left a note signed ‘Your Valentine’, before he was led away to his death.

That's right up my alley. Delight.

:)


aww I like that story.
aimeecc • Feb 7, 2008 11:21 am
Sperlock;430455 wrote:
For quite a while Valentine's Day bugged me because I was single, looking for a girlfriend, and not having any luck. While I am still without a girlfriend, and wouldn't mind finding one, Valentine's Day is now just another day for me. It doesn't bug me like it used to.


That was me for a while. Years of not having anyone and spending the day bummed. Than just ignoring it for a few years. Then I found my hubby. I know I am lucky. He is the most wonderful man on earth. :) We don't really get into Valentine's Day.

We have not been out alone since baby. Occasionally we talk about it, but honestly, I am perfectly happy going to Macaroni Grill with Little One. Better than worrying if he's ok. And I am away from him so much with work, I don't want to leave him at night.
Shawnee123 • Feb 7, 2008 11:31 am
All you happy flappy people? Shut up.

Just kidding...I like the happy stories. Gives me hope. :)
aimeecc • Feb 7, 2008 1:09 pm
Believe me... I went through years of not finding mister right...

I had 4 boyfriends who ended up getting married a year or two after dumping me. That really bothered me.

When I was in my early 20s, some of my friends got married, most got divorced... I tried to cheer myself up with "better then getting divorced... they weren't ready, you're not ready..." By my late 20s, early 30s, all my friends married, popping out kids... The few single friends I had we way too into the party scene. Lots of Friday nights watching tv. Lots. Did I say lots? But I got my masters done.

Met my husband running. Actually, he saw me ahead of him and he just had to catch me. And catch me he did! Wasn't expecting to meet mister right on a running trail. I know, its a cliche, happens when you least expect it.

Someday you'll find the right one. And you'll be a gushy sentimental happy person that annoys others. lol
Shawnee123 • Feb 7, 2008 1:13 pm
Yeah, I haven't really been looking...still stinging from the last 30 men. :lol:

But, at times, it sounds really really nice! I do like these stories about happy couples. I can even put my envy aside and think how cool it is. ;)
Giant Salamander • Feb 7, 2008 1:22 pm
Both my delight and my dread have been swallowed by the gapping maw of apathy.

ttttttppppppptt
BigV • Feb 7, 2008 3:56 pm
Shawnee123;430600 wrote:
Yeah, I haven't really been looking...still stinging from the last 30 men. :lol:

But, at times, it sounds really really nice! I do like these stories about happy couples. I can even put my envy aside and think how cool it is. ;)


I think they make a creme for that, don't they? I would avoid the mentholated variety if I were you, at least until the stinging subsides....
Shawnee123 • Feb 7, 2008 4:17 pm
Would that be Creme de Menthe?
euphoriatheory • Feb 7, 2008 5:10 pm
I think this is just hysterical.... one of my friends who is about to tie the knot just had a sex toy party, and the hostess was telling us that a group of women have hired her to throw them a "F*@k Valentine's Day" party... so if they don't have a date, at least they can go home with a vibrator! I love it.

I think Valentine's Day, however, is nice in the way that Labor Day is nice. Maybe it makes you think a little. Hooray, now it's over! (Additionally, it pretty much just makes it impossible to get dinner at a restaurant in under 2 hours.)
lookout123 • Feb 7, 2008 6:07 pm
I can take it or leave it. We never do anything on the actual day though. We have a long standing rule that flowers, cards, etc given on the important day are forbidden because it shows a lack of creativity. it has turned into a bit of a contest to see who can get surprise the other one.

of course, i did just place my order on pajamagram.com
BigV • Feb 7, 2008 7:03 pm
been listening to that dumb radio commercial all week

"...and the pajamas will be delivered in a custom catbox."

WTF? a CATBOX? What exactly am I trying to say here? Actually, they say "custom hatbox" but it sure sounds like catbox.
lookout123 • Feb 7, 2008 7:04 pm
i would have paid double if it were a catbox just so i could find a way to record the WTF? face she would make when it was delivered.
DucksNuts • Feb 7, 2008 8:28 pm
lookout123;430702 wrote:
I can take it or leave it. We never do anything on the actual day though. We have a long standing rule that flowers, cards, etc given on the important day are forbidden because it shows a lack of creativity. it has turned into a bit of a contest to see who can get surprise the other one.

of course, i did just place my order on pajamagram.com


WE?? Youre a WE??

Im sooooo heartbroken :sniff:
Aliantha • Feb 7, 2008 8:35 pm
well there goes the tits and head thing then huh? ;)
lookout123 • Feb 7, 2008 8:36 pm
nah, she's very openminded. ;)
jinx • Feb 7, 2008 9:02 pm
My gift better say Mopar on it, that's all I'm saying...
Sperlock • Feb 7, 2008 9:37 pm
aimeecc;430597 wrote:
I had 4 boyfriends who ended up getting married a year or two after dumping me. That really bothered me.


That makes me feel better. My last girlfriend dumped me and got married within a year. It took me longer to get over her.
Beest • Feb 8, 2008 12:27 pm
jinx;430759 wrote:
My gift better say Mopar on it, that's all I'm saying...

Image

:eyebrow:
Trilby • Feb 8, 2008 12:29 pm
skysidhe;430318 wrote:
So how is your Valentine's celebrated?


with razor blades and a fifth of whatever clear liquor is on sale.
Shawnee123 • Feb 8, 2008 1:02 pm
Like my rum plan! :)
bbro • Feb 8, 2008 1:49 pm
Meh. I've kind of gotten over V-Day. I have been single for almost every one and the one time that I wasn't my BF was too poor to do anything nice. We ended up going somewhere with his mom on the weekend of. At least he bought me a cheap teddy bear on the day.
HungLikeJesus • Feb 8, 2008 4:04 pm
Last year I wrote my wife a poem (posted around here somewhere).

I was going to write another one, but I haven't come up with anything yet.
kerosene • Feb 8, 2008 4:42 pm
My husband and I almost always write each other poems, too.
HungLikeJesus • Feb 8, 2008 5:05 pm
Perhaps you can post them in the Creative Expression forum.

By the way, when is Valentine's Day?
monster • Feb 9, 2008 11:33 am
February 15.
xoxoxoBruce • Feb 9, 2008 4:32 pm
Cards.
skysidhe • Feb 12, 2008 10:27 am
Are cards dread? then.

I would rather not recieve a card but I do love poems or songs. I dread stuffed animals but oddly enough have recieved enough teddy bears ( not on valentines day) that I now have a very nice collection which is stuffed in my closet. oh I gotta admit the harley teddy is very cool.
Beest • Feb 12, 2008 11:01 am
monster;431089 wrote:
February 15.


Whew, that's not for ages, plenty of time.
xoxoxoBruce • Feb 12, 2008 12:03 pm
(CNN) -- Saudi Arabia has asked florists and gift shops to remove all red items until after Valentine's Day, calling the celebration of such a holiday a sin, local media reported Monday.

"As Muslims we shouldn't celebrate a non-Muslim celebration, especially this one that encourages immoral relations between unmarried men and women, " Sheikh Khaled Al-Dossari, a scholar in Islamic studies, told the Saudi Gazette, an English-language newspaper.

Every year, officials with the conservative Muslim kingdom's Commission for the Promotion of Virtue and Prevention of Vice clamp down on shops a few days before February 14, instructing them to remove red roses, red wrapping paper, gift boxes and teddy bears. On the eve of the holiday, they raid stores and seize symbols of love.

The virtue and vice squad is a police force of several thousand charged with, among other things, enforcing dress codes and segregating the sexes. Saudi Arabia, which follows a strict interpretation of Islam called Wahhabism, punishes unrelated women and men who mingle in public.

Ahmed Al-Omran, a university student in Riyadh, told CNN that [COLOR="Blue"]the government decision will give the international media another reason to make fun of the Saudis [/COLOR]"but I think that we got used to that by now."

Yes.
monster • Feb 12, 2008 7:39 pm
Beest;431791 wrote:
Whew, that's not for ages, plenty of time.


who's the lucky girl this year, then?
Sundae • Feb 13, 2008 11:44 am
I am treating myself to a Valentine dinner.

I am having steak with onions and mushrooms, a jacket potato with a little bit of low fat creme fraiche and a herb and rocket side salad. For dessert I am having a Weight Watchers mini lemon cheesecake.

I have a "linen feel" paper tablecloth and will bring my rose fairy lights down from the bedroom to further decorate the table. I will of course be bringing many candles down too.

Oh and after I finish I am going upstairs for a long bath in a Lush scented bath - bought a bath bomb specially for the occasion.

I hate Valentines Day, but just because I am unhappily single. So this year I am celebrating it rather than moaning, moaning, moaning like in previous years!
aimeecc • Feb 13, 2008 12:16 pm
monster;431089 wrote:
February 15.


I thought it was the 14th, or is this a ploy by you to make everyone late and get in trouble? lol
skysidhe • Feb 13, 2008 9:45 pm
Sundae Girl;432058 wrote:
I am treating myself to a Valentine dinner.

I am having steak with onions and mushrooms, a jacket potato with a little bit of low fat creme fraiche and a herb and rocket side salad. For dessert I am having a Weight Watchers mini lemon cheesecake.

I have a "linen feel" paper tablecloth and will bring my rose fairy lights down from the bedroom to further decorate the table. I will of course be bringing many candles down too.

Oh and after I finish I am going upstairs for a long bath in a Lush scented bath - bought a bath bomb specially for the occasion.

I hate Valentines Day, but just because I am unhappily single. So this year I am celebrating it rather than moaning, moaning, moaning like in previous years!



It sounds lovely!
monster • Feb 13, 2008 10:25 pm
aimeecc;432076 wrote:
I thought it was the 14th, or is this a ploy by you to make everyone late and get in trouble? lol


It's usually the 14th, but this year is leap year, remember? Blimey!

...Mind you, I only realised it was leap year when my kids got a swim meet scheduled on the 29th. :rolleyes:
Beest • Feb 14, 2008 12:10 am
jinx;430759 wrote:
My gift better say Mopar on it, that's all I'm saying...


Be careful what you wish for....
Aliantha • Feb 14, 2008 1:06 am
It's valentines day here already. Dazza and I had a 'discussion' last night and then this morning he presented me with an item of jewelery. The first thing I said to him was, "Why are you giving me this after I was such a bitch last night?"

I'm a pretty lucky woman.
HungLikeJesus • Feb 14, 2008 1:21 am
That's why I never buy my wife jewelry.
Aliantha • Feb 14, 2008 1:22 am
Because she's a bitch to you every night?
HungLikeJesus • Feb 14, 2008 1:32 am
No. Because she never is.
Aliantha • Feb 14, 2008 1:38 am
Lucky you. ;) But why does that mean you don't buy her jewelery?
HungLikeJesus • Feb 14, 2008 1:41 am
You said that your husband gave you jewelry after you were, ah, unpleasant. So: unpleasant = gets jewelry. Never unpleasant = never gets jewelry.
Aliantha • Feb 14, 2008 1:46 am
Well he'd already bought the present, so he didn't get it just because I was a cow. Anyway, it was supposed to be a joke just as it was between us this morning. ;)
xoxoxoBruce • Feb 14, 2008 1:56 am
Cupid.
skysidhe • Feb 14, 2008 3:56 pm
Good one Bruce. Here's another.

PostSecret - A Valentine Video. Just press the play button on the player to get the right one.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzq3srbYEUY


I recieved one of my favorite perfumes from him.
I gave long stem red carnations to him.
I gave pink carnations to my mom.
lumberjim • Feb 14, 2008 6:35 pm
Beest;432258 wrote:
Be careful what you wish for....

too chicken to write mopar on it with magic marker, huh?
Elspode • Feb 14, 2008 6:43 pm
DucksNuts;430402 wrote:
I there with ya, Shawnee.
This year, diddly friggen squat me thinks.


If you were Stateside, and wanted to squat, I'd be more than honored to provide you with some diddly and friggen.

Happy Valentine's Day to you, DN, and all my Cellar pals. I love youze guys, man!

Now, on to fixing the broken bookcase before Selene gets home from her Valentine's date with her newest paramour. :D
jinx • Feb 14, 2008 9:18 pm
Beest;432258 wrote:
Be careful what you wish for....


Well done Beest :thumb:
Beest • Feb 14, 2008 11:26 pm
lumberjim;432381 wrote:
too chicken to write mopar on it with magic marker, huh?

By the time I'd written " Made in The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland" along it, I'd run out of ink.:D
smoothmoniker • Feb 15, 2008 12:32 am
I celebrate March 14th instead.
lumberjim • Feb 15, 2008 12:37 am
yeah...we decided that that was a bad idea.

no reason to isolate those things to one day...... Friday is 'steak, beer and a BJ day'

Sunday is 'kiss the little man in the boat and a bubble-bath/foot massage day'


kthxbai
DanaC • Feb 15, 2008 7:30 am
February 15.


*blinks* 14th surely?

[eta] oh...just read rest of thread. So...if it's a leap year the date changes?
BrianR • Feb 15, 2008 11:17 am
The loved one got long stemmed roses in a vase. Loved em.

Score another one for savemyass.com. However, this makes two deliveries in a row that came on time and SHE was out!

This after last years' fiasco with the gold plated rose that didn't get delivered until June. I have terrible luck with gift-giving. It's genetic I think.

Brian
xoxoxoBruce • Feb 15, 2008 12:06 pm
A NSFW comic strip, featuring God, Adam, Eve, Apple and Steve Jobs.
aimeecc • Feb 15, 2008 12:16 pm
My husband gave me roses, chocolates, and a gift certificate to a local spa. He's the best.

He got money towards buying a new pistol tucked in a gun and ammo magazine. And chocolates. He's the best.

We watched the Assisination of Jesse James. My original plan was either ordering out or cooking a nice dinner. He's sick, so it was a chicken soup and grilled cheese night. But we had plenty of cuddle time. I love him so much.
DucksNuts • Feb 15, 2008 6:54 pm
Thanks 'spode :D

I did get some flowers from a new *friend* too.

I feel spoiled
xoxoxoBruce • Feb 15, 2008 11:30 pm
aimeecc;432485 wrote:

He got money towards buying a new pistol tucked in a gun and ammo magazine.

I love him so much.

You certainly do. ;)
monster • Feb 16, 2008 9:53 am
I think I must love the IRS.

I give them cash for weapons and they screw me.

who knew? and all this time I've been wasting my affections on beest....