I'm *staying* married!

I am married.

I have been married for over 16 years. I am looking forward to the next 16 with great antici














PATION!

My wife and I have recently been through some *extremely* difficult events. Our marriage was in dire peril. Things were said, papers were filed, people had moved... It represented the very darkest time in my life. There are threads and posts here that stand in testament to the grief and confusion and pain I experienced. Tips of icebergs hinting at the enormous cold menace below the surface of the impenetrably black freezing waters. And my wife's icebergs, just as heavy and just as dangerous, never even showed up here.

Now I have the great pleasure and good fortune to announce that we have traveled to safer, sunnier, warmer waters! We have steered the marital barque away from the shoals of divorce (and destruction and damnation) out to the open waters of domestic felicity. Well, we're not there yet, but we're headed in that direction. Thank god.

There is good honest work ahead of us, work I'm looking forward to. And some learning, and some rules. One rule for me is no more flirting. Sorry ladies, I'm taken. Very happily so. Besotted would be appropriate. So your pictures have been burned, your letters have been shredded, and that other... thing ... has been put in the giveaway box (just kidding honey! :sweat: ). Not that I don't appreciate the thought, but no thanks. I have all the woman I can handle, and she has no competition, here or anywhere.

We'll be working on *us* together, and I can't imagine a better pairing. She is beautiful, smart, and strong. She loves our children completely, and defends them fiercely against all comers. She is funny and talented and sexy as hell.

In fact, I have another happy news item, she's gonna start showing up here. Here amongst my friends, plunging courageously into the thick of the very environment that bothers her. She hasn't begun posting yet, but she did agree to let me post a nice picture of her and SonofV in their Halloween finest.

I'm happy! She's happy ("I feel like a newlywed!") SonofV is happy. Please, all my friends, share in our happiness. :jig:

That's great news V! And I don't care if you're not flirting. I just think you're a top bloke.

Maybe you should introduce your wife to the cellar? She might enjoy getting to know some of us too.

Good luck with getting the marriage back on track. I really admire you both for taking this step...for yourselves and for your kids. :)

Glad to hear it, V!

you only need to have two rules. and you both need to agree.

1. You'll never leave her.

2. You'll never kill her.

that sews it up pretty tight. the rest is just getting along as best you can.

If she demands that you leave us for her....do it. and then log in as a new screen name and never mention it to her again. we can keep a secret.

Nice pic. She's really beautiful V. No wonder you're so happy. ;)

What's her handle going to be anyway? We can't keep on calling her...ummm...her can we? lol

I will let her post her handle herself. If she wishes to lurk, fine. She's here. I'm happy. She'll be around.

In the meantime I guess you can't really call her SWMBO, like I do, or My Queen, or any of those other ones.... ... She'll get to it. She's worth waiting for.

:)

Fantastic, congratulations! :thumb:

V, that's wonderful news! I'm so happy for you. Congrats to both you and your wife, and may you have many years of learning and loving together.

That's great news! Wow. I've been worried about you... so I'm really glad to hear things are going better.

That is awesome BigV. I hope things continue to improve for you both!!

Thank Fucking Goodness.

Mrs V, welcome.

fantistical news for you and your lovely family! welcome to the newb lurker and remember to "always eat your cereal with a fork and do your homework in the dark."

Good luck with everything, V.

BigV that's the best news I've heard all week mate :)

And if MrsV is reading this, then Welcome! We'd all love to meet you.

purty lady. nice rack, too.

oh yeah, and good for you both working through it, not giving up.

Wonderful news! Good luck to both you and Mrs. V.

Woohoooooooo! :)

Very happy for you and your family. Your wife is very pretty. Son of V is a bit thin (hardee har.)

This is great news, and look how happy your Cellar family is for you!

BigV, that's good news. I've also been concerned about you. I'm glad things are heading in the right direction for you two.

Mrs. V, welcome to the Cellar. You've got nothing to be concerned about here. Poke all around, if you haven't already. Look under every rock. You will see that your husband has behaved himself. He's a good guy, and well liked here.

Good work V. I could tell from your posts that it was hard work. Now take care of your woman with some *hard* work - nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say no more...

Or as you will percieve this post:

This message is hidden because Spexxvet is on your ignore list.

That's awesome news V. Welcome wifeofV:)

I am very happy for you, V. May you have a long and fulfilling marriage from here. Thank you for posting a picture of the Mrs. She is a lovely lady!

Very good news. BigV is one of my favorite posters, and I look up to him for his levelheadedness in life matters and his artistry with both film (well, electrons) and language.

As for LurkerV, another redhead, yum!! Can I flirt with her??

BigV, I'm glad to hear of your change in direction. Continued good luck to you and your family!

BigV - your poetry was so dark and fine. I'm not looking forward to all that happy, mushy stuff you'll be writing from now on.

Spexxvet;402801 wrote:

Good work V. I could tell from your posts that it was hard work. Now take care of your woman with some *hard* work - nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say no more...

He already has taken care of me with "hard" work. Multiple times. And I him. Yes, Tink is me (MrsV) for those of you who do not already know this. Thanks!

Hi Tink! I tink I like you! ;)

Shawnee123;402857 wrote:

Hi Tink! I tink I like you! ;)

BACK OFF! SHE'S *[COLOR="Red"][SIZE="3"]MINE[/SIZE][/COLOR]*!!

Pul-leasse! :0) Funny guy. Hey BigV, it's the weekend!

Hi Tink!

Welcome!!

Now, if *MY* goofy husband would just register already...

LabRat;402868 wrote:

Welcome!!

Now, if *MY* goofy husband would just register already...

I thought he did register - didn't he post a picture?

Tink;402856 wrote:

He already has taken care of me with "hard" work. Multiple times. And I him. ...

Sweet! Shower off and come meet the gang. Welcome, Tink.

HungLikeJesus;402871 wrote:

I thought he did register - didn't he post a picture?

He used her account.

I posted one of him, for him. I don't know why he's such a big wuss about joining. He's always here snooping on what I'm up to. For crying out loud, half the time the stuff we talk about has to do with this place...

Ah -- now I understand the source of your elation! Choco relayed the news to me this morning. Very glad to hear it, sir!

Spexxvet;402875 wrote:

He used her account.

I was punning on the word "register."

That's terrible news! And she's pretty, and probably nice and competent too. Damn it! So...it's official...all the good ones are taken.
:)

Edit Edit....taking foot out of mouth...holy crap.
*Happy Dance*

HungLikeJesus;402879 wrote:

I was punning on the word "register."

D'oh! :dunce:

Welcome, Tink.

[LIST=1]
[*] Do you like Gladiator films?
[*] What color is the number 6?
[*] Pepsi or Coke?
[*] What do I have in my pocket?
[*] How many teeth does an adult human have?
[*] Is there life on other planets?
[*] Do you think the Simpsons are funny?
[*] Favorite Holiday?
[*] What do you look forward to every day?
[*] What is the worst chore you have to do?[/LIST]

Spexxvet;402874 wrote:

Sweet! Shower off and come meet the gang. Welcome, Tink.

Thanks! Shower, more hard work, showered [I]again[I], more hard work. The guy is a slave driver.. Lordy have mercy! :) To clarify, I am NOT complaining. :blush: He's not either.

Question 2 is not fair...I move to have it stricken from the record.

lumberjim;402884 wrote:

Welcome, Tink.

LOL! He told me I would get a quiz from you. Ok, here goes (hope I pass)

[LIST=1]
[*] Do you like Gladiator films? yes
[*] What color is the number 6? uh...baseball ?????
[*] Pepsi or Coke? Pepsi
[*] What do I have in my pocket? :blush:
[*] How many teeth does an adult human have? 32
[*] Is there life on other planets? yes, if you watch Nova
[*] Do you think the Simpsons are funny? d'oh!
[*] Favorite Holiday? Christmas
[*] What do you look forward to every day? Friday
[*] What is the worst chore you have to do?[/LIST]

clean the puke. BV gets that job!

BigV;402860 wrote:

BACK OFF! SHE'S *[COLOR="Red"][SIZE="3"]MINE[/SIZE][/COLOR]*!!

HA! Just wait till Els sees that photo, he's gonna blow a gasket. :lol: Be prepared Tink. He's our resident horn dog. :D

I will never tell my husband about this place.......

Someone said something nasty about me in his presence once in public....He calmly grabbed the nearest fire extinguisher.....lol!!!

He's too cute...and protective sometimes.

I, too, am really pleased to hear that you're putting the dark times behind you in the V household. Welcome Tink!

"Sorry ladies, I'm taken."

I notice you said nothing about guys. ;-)

Welcome Tink - does V need to change his title to Peter? (pan)

Congrats, and welcome to the Cellar, tink?

What a relief, you two!!

I never believed there would be a happy outcome to this so soon.
I thought it would be a process of slow healing for both of you - apart.

I'm so pleased for both of you and your children that you've managed to heal the breach and buck the trend of couples splitting up. Good for you that you are committed to working towards this.

And welcome Tink, lovely to hear from you too.
Raised glasses all round!

This may be redundant, but what the hell...

Congratulations Tink and V! This is all very good news.

Welcome, Tink. It is good to meet you!

SteveDallas;402933 wrote:

Congrats, and welcome to the Cellar, tink?

tink?

Pixie you don't want to piss off. :rar:
:)

it was an unintentional ?

Tink I was on your side the whole time. No really...just ask Big....
:)

Welcome!

Glad to see you posting Tink. I'll look forward to getting to know you better. :)

SteveDallas;402933 wrote:

Congrats, and welcome to the Cellar, tink?

tink?

Pixie you don't want to piss off.

it was an unintentional ?


I thought you were asking me how the name 'Tink' came about. :)
That's my gamer name too. And...no...BV couldn't be Peter Pan. :headshake Yikes! Men in tights!

YAAAHH V and Tink !!!!


Welcome Tink !!
( V You didn't tell she was THIS HOT !!!!
Dude ya been holdn' out on US !!! ;) ;) )

"Tink" as a gamer name says to me,

Tink will be the sound as I add your skull bone to my skull bone collection, which I keep in this immense glass jar.

Does that make BigV a Tink Tank?

Welcome :D

Gratz you two, welcome tink.

Welcome, tink.

Hiya Tink! What games you play ?

(My gamer name was Salo)

Good to hear, V!

Sorry I didn't call you while in Seattle...kept meaning to, but then we'd get busy and forget. My bad!

Great news V and Tink :D

well lab rat I have posted!
hello all!
I am labrats other half I have fially have come out of the corner with two rules.
1. leave my spelling alone
2. and my grammar
I am a sellsman not a english major.

*smiles* well hello Big Red! .....am fascinated to know where that name comes from....

Big Red;403394 wrote:

I am a sellsman not a english major.

Must .... not .... reply......... must .... not ..... reply .....

Welcome!

Well done Steve....very restrained of you :P

Obviously, I haven't been reading all the threads lately.

Congratulations and feclicitations to Tink and V. Here's to healing and love.

DanaC;403395 wrote:

*smiles* well hello Big Red! .....am fascinated to know where that name comes from....

You dint see the pictures?

Oooooh. I remember now. Ducks you spoilsport I was enjoying that mental image ....

Big Red;403394 wrote:

well lab rat I have posted!
hello all!
I am labrats other half I have fially have come out of the corner with two rules.
1. leave my spelling alone
2. and my grammar
I am a sellsman not a english major.

Yay!! I am not the newbie anymore! Woo Hoo!! BV is laughing. That's a good sign.

DanaC;403126 wrote:

Hiya Tink! What games you play ?

(My gamer name was Salo)

I like console games mostly. My gamer name stems from the Nintendo universe. I can friend-code our son to play Wi-Fi in Rochester, NY on games like Metroid (LOVE IT!) through the DS or Wii console. Can't wait to get him Guitar Hero III. It'll be great doing Wi-Fi on that with him and his dorm mates.

Are you a PC Game gal?

Used to be hon. Was very into Ultima Online and Shadowbane. that kinda thing.


My brother just got a wii not s long ago (ostensibly for his daughters :P) its pretty cool

DanaC;403451 wrote:

Used to be hon. Was very into Ultima Online and Shadowbane. that kinda thing.


My brother just got a wii not s long ago (ostensibly for his daughters :P) its pretty cool

I know Ultima. PC Gaming is still huge compared to the console games.
You should take a gander at the Wii. It is pretty cool.

Tink is one lovely looking lady.

And for the record, BigV is one heck of a guy, a great dad, a very caring and concerned husband, and I'm proud to be able to call him a friend.

One day I hope to make it to the left-hand side of the country and would love to meet you both.

Undertoad;403062 wrote:

"Tink" as a gamer name says to me,

Tink will be the sound as I add your skull bone to my skull bone collection, which I keep in this immense glass jar.

Love the visual. I like it. No more pixie. Skulls in jars!

*grins* my Pk character used to remove the brain from his victims and take them to his lab for vile experiments:P

Tink;403445 wrote:

..BV...

God, I hope you pronounce that "Beev". Like Beaver Cleaver.

Tink: Hey Beev, wanna have sex?
BV: Gosh Tink, wy-ja haffta go 'n' ask me that?

Spexxvet;403558 wrote:

God, I hope you pronounce that "Beev". Like Beaver Cleaver.

Tink: Hey Beev, wanna have sex?
BV: Gosh Tink, wy-ja haffta go 'n' ask me that?

Guess I'll have to get used to saying BigV. :0) This is more said as B.V.

Do I have to ask? :blush:

This is an interesting turn.. Many people here abbreviate my already concise username to V, but Tink usually shortens it to "Big".

Now it's my turn-- :blush:

BigV;403676 wrote:

This is an interesting turn.. Many people here abbreviate my already concise username to V, but Tink usually shortens it to "Big".

Now it's my turn-- :blush:

Uh....yah! Duh!! :blush:

Spexxvet;403558 wrote:

Tink: Hey Beev, wanna have sex?
BV: Gosh Tink, wy-ja haffta go 'n' ask me that?

Eddie Haskell: . . . .

OK, I'm having a block.. I can't figure out what Eddie would say here. But what's Leave It To Beaver without Eddie?

I believe he would say something obsequious to Mrs. Cleaver. You know like, "Why, Mrs. Cleaver, your pearl necklace looks especially lovely today."

Yes, exactly!

Welcome to The Cellar Tink!